Should I spank my kids?

Question

My kids are constantly misbehaving. Should I spank them?

Answer 1

Please don't...
Why would you want to hit a child?

Use time outs.. or try sitting down with them and explain to them
what they are doing wrong.

Need more ideas, please attend a parenting class.

Answer 2

try to give the warning first. If they are still misbehaving, I think u should do sth to stop them. Give them a time out is also a good method. Then explain to them by some examples. It is better to use"if you see other kids doing that, what do u feel?" Let them know how they feel if others do the same thing.

However, I think sometimes, spanking is needed for really bad and serious situation. Pain will let them know how they will be treated if they are bad. Just like when they are adult, they are responsible for what they did. If you did something bad, you will need the punishment. I suggest that do not spank them hard. I hope my suggestions will work for u.

Answer 3

This is really a very personal decision. For me, there are times when a quick swat on the bottom truly seems to be the best answer, but not usually. Before deciding on whether or not to spank - assess why they are misbehaving. Are they doing it for attention? Is it really age appropriate behavior that you are viewing as misbehaving? Their age plays a big factor as well. IMHO, a swat will do no good for a child under the age of 18mo even if you catch them in the act of misbehaving.

Answer 4

You should use whatever method is effective. There are a lot of ways besides spanking, and I'm not big on spanking kids.

The biggest factor in discipline is consistantly. If you allow an action sometimes but not allow the same action at other times, it creates confusion for the child. That also brings into play the child testing you.

Answer 5

ONly when it's appropriate. Always try to use the most appropriate consequences. For example, when mine do something like spit, bite, or have potty mouth, I spray their mouths with pure lemon juice. If you want a kids to stop screaming in the grocery store, spanking them will only make them scream louder. But if your child runs out into the street, since you can't let them get run over just to learn a lesson, I think a good thrashing will help them remember NOT to do that again.

Answer 6

Spanking should only be used when it is effective. Never use an object, such as a ruler, to spank. Always use your hand and never swat more than twice. The idea is to hurt their feelings more than their behinds. But I feel the spanking should be followed by a time out. Also, only use spanking as a last resort and never too often or they lose their effectiveness.

Answer 7

Even though people say 'actions speak louder than words' hitting is not the answer. I think lecturing them and speaking to them will be easier for them to understand. Spanking will not do anything, my parents would spank me and i'd feel a little pain on my butt, then i'd just go goof off some more.

Taking away privlages, certain things is better imo. Talking to them and treating them like an adult makes them feel respected and therefore they will respect you.

Answer 8

if intimidation, no longer works then you gotta do something. there has to be some level of respect. i'm not saying that it's right or wrong, but my ol' man was quick to give me a slap across the mouth when i got mouthy. and i turned out all right. if you don't wanna spank em' then take something that they enjoy, away for a while. don't give in, stick to your guns. if you threaten and don't follow up then they will know your bluffing. just think of how you thought about things when you were a kid.

Answer 9

That is a decision that only you can make for your family. If you think it's an appropriate punishment and you have exhausted all other efforts, then go ahead, depending on the childrens' ages. Is there another form of discipline that could be more effective? There is no way another person can decide this for you, you are the parent and you have to do what is right for YOUR family.

Answer 10

If you have tried it and it is not working for you I would try somthing else. I have three kids 6 ,8, and 11 and every now and then I spank. Not to hurt to get thier attion on what I am saying to them.

Answer 11

you should try talking to them and putting them in time out and if they dont listen give them a spanking but not to the extreme just enough that they know they did wrong