Can you guys help me? I am going on date tonite and I don't know what to talk about on the first date. What to say and what not to say? Please give me a good reason thanks.
2007-02-25 08:34:39 · 8 answers · asked by debbard22 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk about HIM. All the crap that he likes. That is always guaranteed to work.
2007-02-25 08:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was given this advice long ago. A person should be on their best behavior during the first dates. If anything stands out as irritating or otherwise, negative, it is very likely that this trait will reveal itself stronger as the relationship develops.
Your questions should be limited to to the surface stuff like,
Where do you live?
Where did you go to school?
What do you do for a living?
What jobs have you had in the past?
Where were you born?
Do you like ??? (dancing, shopping, movies, music, etc,...)
Do you come from a large/small family?
Do any of your relative live nearby?
Where do you like to vacation?
There are many of these type questions. The answers that you receive should give you an idea of where to go next. for example,
Q. Are you from a large family?
A. There are 5 of us children
Further Q. Where do you fall in the lineup?
A. I'm trhe middle child.
Further Q. Was that a good or bad place to be in?
You get the point. Important. You need to come off as being interested in these things rather than conducting an interview.
2007-02-25 16:40:44 · answer #2 · answered by terterryterter 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Before I answer your question, let me share with you the single best piece of dating advice I ever received. It was from my college roommate. He said that all you can expect from a first date is to simply have a good time. Dont worry about whether the other person likes you or what your second or third date will be or anything else. Go into the first date expecting nothing other than having one good date. That's it.
Your question is easy to answer. People like talking about themselves and their interests. It's natural. So ask him what his favorite sport to play is? Baseball? Oh really? Why is that? blah blah blah. Eventually you will pick up on something else to ask him about. Voila--a conversation is born. He'll pick up on something to ask you about.
It's the time-tested way of telling whether a date is going well or not. If you find yourself at a complete loss what to say to the guy then it aint working out.
2007-02-25 16:45:48 · answer #3 · answered by john s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him what he likes and talk about things that interest you and see if you can hit on some common ground. Then once you relax, let the conversation flow. Don't try to impress.
2007-02-25 16:38:10 · answer #4 · answered by Runa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not talk about bad past relationships or old boyfriends. If you have trouble with only talking about yourself, stop talking. Ask him about his favs...movies, sports, pets, t.v. If he brings up something you know a little about, dive in and give your opinion. If something comes up that you would like to know more about, ask him to tell you about it. Most importantly, be yourself, smile, and have fun.
2007-02-25 16:42:49 · answer #5 · answered by nin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what sort of projects he's working on right now (in school, at work, or personnally) and see if there are common interests. Get the ball rolling and then things should be fluid. :)
2007-02-25 16:44:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you "click" with someone the conversation just happens. If it takes some efffort ask about him
2007-02-25 16:39:32 · answer #7 · answered by jetero41 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not just be yourself?
2007-02-25 16:39:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋