In our house my husband only spanks our daughters(12 & 16) and me when we act up but not our son(14). I agree with this. Our son however has been becoming quite a problem and my husband is thinking about spanking him now. I don't think that it's a good idea because I feel only females(myself included) benefit from a spanking and that it degrades a boy or mans musculinaty. How can he ever be as strong and dominant with his future wive and daughters if we degrade him now. Besides, my husband already has enough on his hands spanking me and my daughters. Does anyone else feel this way?
2007-02-25 08:27:04 · 40 answers · asked by Kate M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hooo, boy.
Where do I even begin with this one?....
2007-02-25 08:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 1⤋
Lady you are a fruit cake. Spanking girls ages 12 and 16. If you are talking years you and your husband need help. Spanking should be done early in a childs life. By the time they are 12 and 16 you should be using loss of priveledges. Starting to spank at 14 reguardless of boy or girl is toooooooo late. Again loss of priveledges. TV, stereo, car, friends, movies, games, whatever. I use loss of priveledge with chores. Which is they lose a priveledge and gain a chore. As for him spanking you I surely hope you mean in the bedroom as some sex game because if your husband is actually disciplining you by spanking for something he thinks you have done wrong than nobody here can help you! You need a shrink.
2007-02-25 09:54:56 · answer #2 · answered by horsenuttss 2 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Sorry but I don't agree with that at all, If you spank the girls the boy(s) should also be spanked, but at 16 I think that's a bit old TRY punishment even for the boy and you being the mother getting spankings from your husband b/c you act up, and your son witnessing that, how do you think he's going to have a good marriage if he thinks he could spank his wife as if she's a child..lady you have issues!!!
2007-02-25 08:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by puffy2step 3 · 7⤊ 2⤋
SPANK A 16 YEAR OLD? It concerns me that he spanks you when you act up, which is obviously a sexual thing, yet you mention it in the same breath as "spanks our daughters." You need to keep an eye on your husband, The way you describe this sounds like it could be a justification for sexual molestation or abuse. As for degrading somebody, how do you think your daughters feel, with one being two years from legal adulthood and her daddy still spanking her? Your husband needs to have his approach to femininity seriously evaluated. Obviously he veiws women as lesser organisms and as a man I can say that there is no difference between spanking a 16 year old and sexual abuse when it comes to parenting. If he spanks you, then it is sexual for him, yet you seem to think it's okay to allow him to spank your children. Your husband needs to have his psyche and parenting practices evaluated. I'm not saying that spanking is abuse, I'm saying that spanking a 16 year old and a 12 year old and a wife is an obvious sign that something is NOT RIGHT IN YOUR LIFE OR IN HIS HEAD. Either this is a joke or he has used operant conditioning to train you and your daughters into thinking that they are worthless. Let me say that as a Sadist, there is a code that one must adhere to. Your sexual nature is to NEVER leave the bedroom and it is to NEVER become projected on your children. I think that you need to see a psychiatrist and consider monitoring his behaviour. He may be ******* YOUR DAUGHTERS. I tell you what, give me your address of list and I will give your husband a tunne up. This will have lasting sexaul and psychological reprocussions on your children and your self image is so wantonly outrageous that I think child services need to be called. There are things as a man, a sadist (which your husband OBVIOUSLY IS, and that's okay), and as a parent that you simply do not do to others. I won't question his sexual role, but when it comes off on your daughters and out of the bedroom, you need to take responsibility as a parent and get the hell out of your situation. I'm 21 and I can see right through him. Imagine how apparent it is to everyone else in your life.
2007-02-25 08:36:30 · answer #4 · answered by flak_monkey 2 · 8⤊ 1⤋
This is the stupidest idea ever. Spanking has nothing to do with gender. If spanking is the way you want to punish, then by only spanking some kids, they are the ones that are feeling useless and degraded. Also, spanking you? Thats messed up. Bad example to the children.
2007-02-25 08:30:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 1⤋
That's stupid. I'd love to see your son's masculinity when a girl slaps him in the face because his parents were cowards. He'll grow to be a sexist and treat girls like they're trash. Your daughters are just as important as your sons. Anyway, SPANKING YOUR KID WHEN THEY ARE 12 AND 16!!!!!!!!!!!!! If my parents did that, I would live with my sister. Your girls are gonna hate you when they're older because they also feel humiliated if you spank them. IF MY DAD SPANKED ME AT 16 OR EVEN 12, I WOULD FEEL VIOLATED. The reason your son is such a problem is because you didn't discipline him when he was younger. If he sees that you are spanking only his daughters, he WILL grow up to be a sexist. YOU HAVE GOT TO HAVE WATCHED ENOUGH LAW&ORDER TO KNOW WHAT THIS WILL DO!!!!!!!!!!! Your husbands spanks you!!!!!!! That's spouse abuse. What are you, his child???
2007-02-25 10:23:13 · answer #6 · answered by sunflowerdaisy94 3 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Of course not...I'm not trying to be rude but if your for real then are u stupid? Why wouldn't u think that spanking a 16 yr old girl wouldn't make her feel degraded?? Not only degraded but u are..Forget it..You would never understand..Your beliefs are way off the charts. You'll see when your girls get older. Girls and boys after 5 can think.So why not take something away from them that they love to do.Instead of being physical with them.I know u need a little brain power in thinking what to take away from them.Or to disipline them civil but why not try it.
2007-02-25 08:34:57 · answer #7 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Well spanking you as his wife is just wrong. He should never raise a hand on you. Now when it comes to spanking daughters only .....i dont agree with that. And i will explain why. I have a brother who is 4 years younger then me and my sister is 3 years older. We both been always spanked and i believe we both have now a lot of discipline and have good lives. I am 23 years old now (my last spankin was when i was 17, when i told my mother i can be on my own now because i am grown....trying to get myself off curfew i had back then.....not so much...lol ) but never used any drugs, never got in trouble and always had good grades. My brother on other hand caught parents at the age where they think spanking is not a problem solver anymore and now he is a spoiled brat. He is giving them attitude, mouf off, go out when he wants to, dont attend school and you think it all is a coincidence? I highly doubt it. So guess what....i had to (wouldn't say spank his butt) whoop his a** because i got sick and tired of him threatening my parents. It got out of hand and it is totally unacceptable and guess what he is on best behavior now. So spank your lil boy while its not too late or he start spanking you and your daughters too. Trust me its will be best for all of you, and him to include. You need to understand that once you slap them around once in a while when they do something wrong means you want then and strive for them to be better and know whats better.
2007-02-25 08:43:24 · answer #8 · answered by BK thang 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Are you joking? This must be a fake question.
Spanking anyone over the age of 8 is just sick. 12 and 16 yr old girls? Your "husband" is probably molesting them too and getting off on spanking them.
Sick family.
2007-02-25 12:15:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
It's like this, daughters, sons and wives have no business getting spankings...
It's about time the USA joins other nations around the world
and abolish corporal punishment at home and in the schools.
Let's respect people...
2007-02-25 12:43:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
my son is grown now and brings up me spanking him when he was younger, I was a single mom ans that's how I disciplined him but now he thinks im gonna spank his son which I would never do.cause I now how much it affected him now so for you I would say try not to spank learn from me it will make life easier later down the line
2007-02-25 11:14:57 · answer #11 · answered by BAGO6 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋