get well and get a life, achieve my hopes and dreams. but in my moments of darkness an low moods, i cant see how im going to achieve, a good job, my own home, emmegration from the uk, how ill meet someone nice...i feel so lonely, abandoned and isolated right now, living in a small one bedroom flat, i have no friends, and find relashionships difficult, im scared this state of being will last forever..seeems like therell be no end to it..every person i see that asks questions about it, the answers paint so much bleakness about it, saying its difficult to treat...so what am i supposed to do with that? are you just gonna leave me with that response, saying its difficult to treat im doomed, thats it? how can i be strong? is their hope for me?
2007-02-25 08:25:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
There certainly IS hope for you! Of course in your bad times you will feel everything is hopeless.
What you need to do is focus on tiny little steps. Decide what little step you will take first, then keep doing that until you've got it then move onto something else.
Try not to think about work and finding a partner etc. That comes asfter you master all the other difficulties you face. And it WILL come.
Work out what in your illness you can begin to change. It is NOT easy...it will be challenging but it is the only way that you will get to meet your goals. It's important to force yourself.....very important...I can't stress this enough.
Personality disorders can be very varied and so it is difficult to be specific here but you will know the things you need to tackle.
The main thing is to start with the smaller things, once achieved you will find you have a little more motivation to move on. Don't take on something big or you will fail and want to give up.
See it as little stepping stones across a river....each step you take will bring you nearer to what you want.
Also if you are inn UK, check out MIND as they run groups all over the country.
Best wishes.
2007-02-25 08:35:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's a little difficult to treat right now because there isn't a lot known about it just yet. It IS treatable, however, and new research and breakthroughs are being found all the time.
Of course there is hope for you, hon! Just hang in there and keep reaching for what you want! This diagnosis is not the end of the world. Now you have a name to put with the symptoms you've been suffering. A diagnosis means you can begin treating those symptoms and you'll feel a lot better! Counseling and medication work together and seem to be the most effective treatment, in my experience.
2007-02-25 08:36:16 · answer #2 · answered by fluffomatic24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, I'd like to suggest an online support forum that you should go to. It is set up for people with borderline and you can talk to other borderline people about what you are feeling in a safe and non judgemental place, here isn't a good place for what you need. I can promise you that this site is full of caring and compassionate people. It is truly beneficial and you really need the opportunity to talk to people that understand what you are going through. I found it completly refreshing to see that so many others talk about the exact same emotions i feel. Here is not a good place for you, people are judgemental, inexperienced and naive here. Please go to this site it will help you to deal with some of your emotions.
www.bpdrecovery.com
There is hope for your illness the reason people say that it is difficult to treat is because it is, it requires a heap of therapy and takes a while to find meds that work. It requires you to change coping mechanisms that you have developed years and years ago and these are so ingrained that it is hard and takes time for you to change. But for those that accept their illness and actively learn to change and cope there is definelty hope.
Please go to that site it will help. All the best.
2007-02-25 09:48:49 · answer #3 · answered by colonel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join the club. I've had borderline for most of my life, but have had therapy to help me through it. The best therapy by far was Cognitive behavioural therapy. That teaches you new ways of looking at things and thinking about things. Teaches you to be more independant, and think more about yourself and your achievements. Also helps you not to feel so abandoned which is a classic symptom.
You are not alone, and it IS curable, though you do have to work at it. The therapists are there to help you. You may need antidepressants as well, but yes, there is hope and a light at the end of the tunnel. Don't give up. I managed to have a good career through all this. Yes, I had my ups and downs, but doesn't everybody. I also managed to have the kind of relationship that only a few lucky people achieve. My partner knew about my problem and understood it, unfortunately for me she died of Cancer, but I always remember the good times.
Please don't feel so bleak about it. There is a life out there for you, enjoy it.
Take care, and good luck.xx
2007-02-25 21:35:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that u will find the answers that u are looking for on yahoo Q&A ...I take it that u are seeing the appropriate people for your treatment? Ask them about self helps that u can join ... i know one thing for certain staying in and staring at the same 4 walls wont help u .... at the moment u are looking for too much from yourself ... we all want the things that u want and believe u me its hard for anyone to see that far ahead, everyone worries about those things as well!! Worry about your state of mind for the moment the rest i am sure will follow ... look on the www and see if there are forums and help pages look for people with similar problems and i am sure u will find success stories ! Good Luck ! xox
2007-02-25 08:38:26 · answer #5 · answered by jizzumonkey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have is treatable and there is help out there for you. I know it is easier said to be strong and look on the positive side then doing it sometimes. People have good intentions when they tell you this. But when your going through this it is not as easy as that.
Work with your therapist and doctor for the right treatment and stick with it. If you have problems and concerns they are the best that can help you with this and work through all your problems.
Sometimes for support it helps some people to talk to other people going through the same things. Look for support groups in your area there are also rooms in chat for people with depression that can help just to talk to. good luck!
2007-02-25 10:19:00 · answer #6 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As adverse and derogatory as this answer may appear to you and others, it`s not such a bad place you`re in at the moment !
A time spent in depression, disparity, and humility, can and does certainly ground us ! But the positives you may be overlooking here are, that you are very much aware of what is going on for you. You have reached the stage of self-awareness that others tend to find so elusive in life. You have knowlege !!!, and knowledge is very empowering, especially to self ! Reflect on your circumstances, your environment, put things into perspective, and use that knowledge you have worked so hard for in life. Empower your self, allow yourself to just "be". Take and deal with life and its viccisitudes, in the "here and now ".
You cannot institute change of things and people around you, you can only change your perspective of them !
Learn to come to terms with such, and your quality of life will slowly flourish.
2007-02-25 09:01:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not it's difficult to treat depends on what you compare it with. Compared to some it's easy to treat.
There is hope for you as there is for anyone, stick with your meds, see your doctor regularly, get out everyday even just for a walk, go to the shops, get some CBT if you can. It's difficult but you can do it. I did - although I don't have BPD, I do have a serious mental illness.
2007-02-26 00:37:07 · answer #8 · answered by suebnm 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Paranoid: reasonable Schizoid: Low Schizotypal: severe delinquent: reasonable Borderline: Very severe Histrionic: severe Narcissistic: reasonable Avoidant: reasonable based: Very severe Obsessive-Compulsive: severe
2016-10-01 23:31:56 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you get out of your flat and start a new hobby?that way you can meet new people!!!
i can relate to your symptons but i have not been diagonosed yet!!!
im a 19year old dancer!!!i have an eating disorder as well, buti cant be ill!!!i wont allow myself ,not if im going to dance on broadway!!!! POSITIVE THINKING WILL HELP TOO!!!
are u getting proffesional help???nhs arent that gud,but look around and find the answers!!!GOOD LUCK.x.
2007-02-25 23:38:50 · answer #10 · answered by dancer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋