really depressed................................................?

Question

ello. my name's tasha. 18yrs old. well my problem is my parents. my parents DO NOT CARE for my likes or dislikes. well the thing is that i wanna be a fashion designer, and i wanna make it big. however my dad has a problem with it. recently i got a letter for a fashion college. well my dad was going through the mail and he saw the letter addressed to me. i was sitting on the couch watching tv. my mom was there too. well my dad asks my mom what the letter was. my mom told him it was a letter from a fashion college addressed to me. upon hearing that, my dad says "oh!" well next thing i know he rips up the letter right in my face! i didn't even know what it said cuz i hadn't opened it yet. i felt sooo hurt. i felt like crying, but i was so in shock. i feel like my parents don't really care for how i feel. what can i do? also i am very emotional depressed about other things too. i don't tell my parents cuz i know they don't care or won't believe me.....

u can see my other questions to know what i am talking about.... thanx!

on my questions page, specifically see page 2. thanx for reading.

Answer 1

You're 18 - just old enough to realize the world could be a much better place than it is, but don't yet have the resources yet to go out there and make it better. It's a tough age - but things will get better. I'm 47 now, but I barely survived being 18!

Don't let your dad screw up your life. Find a way to make things work out. Could you get that info on the fashion colleges on line, so you don't have to depend on the mail? Do you have a trusted friend who would let you use their mailing address, and then give you the letters? Would your school counselor let you use the school's address as a mailing address to get college related mail? Focus on how you you can make things work out the way you want them to. Of course it still hurts that your dad isn't more supportive of your goals, but realize that you can't control that, so focus on the things you can fix. Make a plan to follow your dreams, and then go for it!

Answer 2

I am very sorry to hear that your parents (your dad in particular) doesn't seem to approve of what you want to do for a career. It's heartless of him to do that but your mum should have said something as well. Is it possible for you to intercept the mail instead of him or you mum? Are you able to put the letter back together again or has it been destroyed? Are you able to contact the college directly and speak to them about it?
It is possible that your parents want to see you doing something that will get you the best possible start once you leave college and are therefore protective. I really hope that you can talk to them about why they did what they did and come to a compromise and agreement on what should be done next.
As for your other sources of depression - are you able to talk to a close friend about what is going on - if you're religious, your local parish vicar may be able to help out as well - with both sides of your depression and your parents ... Best of luck!!

Answer 3

What your old man did was totally wrong I hope hes not always like this an as a parent I'll say he's f***ed up My younger daughter started Prat U in NYC 3 yrs ago in the fashion design program , its an expensive school to go to tuition up to 39K a yr . she did 2 yrs and decided that she wasn't gonna make it and switched majors , I can tell you from her experience that it's not as easy as it sounds and her guidence counslers at school told her that to get in to the field she would have to get in to one of the top schools in the country , and there aren't very many . the other 2 that she applyed to in NYC and Chiago were 50K a year and neither of them offered her any major finicial aid . I don't want to discourage you from persueing your dreams or goals . just trying to tell you what you are up aginst ,. I do wish you the best of luck in your future education . and ounce again what your father did was totally wrong
I'll read some of your other questions and see if I as a parent can offer any advice

Answer 4

I'm not saying defy your parents but if you truly have a "passion for fashion" and it makes YOU happy and YOU believe in yourself then NO ONE not even your parents can take that from you. If you know the school then call them I'm sure they have you on file and talk to them and if you really want to go, apply for student loans and follow your dreams.

I know exactly how you feel about parents not supporting you. My mother is... well was the same way. She's not the affectionate type and it really took a toll on my self-esteem/self confidence and I was in your exact same position of "feeling down and out" about my future. I hope you find it in yourself to be your own encouragement. If you ever want to talk feel free to e-mail me. Hope this helps.

Answer 5

Have you actually sat down and voiced how you feel to them? Eventhough you think they dont' care, just try it. Tell them their disregard for your fashion ambition is making you unhappy and it hurt you when your dad tore up that letter. If you don't get the response you want from them, talk to your guidance counselor or school psychologist =) Talk to SOMEONE about it so you won't have to hold it all in by yourself! Good luck!

Answer 6

Have you graduated from high school? If not, talk with your counselor about attending the college of your choice - and about finding scholarships/grants to pay for it - and then do whatever you need to do to make this dream of yours happen. Talk with your counselor about getting help in dealing with your feelings as well.

If you don't have a counselor, find a trusted adult - not someone your age - who can help you with all this, and do it at once. Do not go another day without competent and caring help.

As for your father, what he did was childish and mean. (At my age, I can judge his behaviors!) If you really feel that you can't deal with your parents, find that trusted adult and let them help you. However, you still need to listen to (but not necessarily agree with) your parents and always treat them with respect; no matter what their actions, they are your parents and deserve to be respected. (Plus, doing that will make your life a lot easier!)

Best of luck to you!

Answer 7

Don't give up. Nobody has to believe in your dream. As long as you do, that all that matters. The sky is the limit for what you can have. Listen to that song by R Kelly, "I Believe I Can Fly".

Answer 8

iont really kno wat to tell you about ur situation... other than get far far away... i moved out of my mothers house at 16 yrs old because it was really messed up there... i never really knew my real father and i just met him about 3 months ago and iono it seems as if this situation is even worse... we never talk... he lies to me... and we never do anything worthwhile together... so i say just find someone who loves you for you and go through wit ur dreams of bein a fashion designer... if they wanna get all sad girl about u leavin them then they can cry bouts it...