I have a friend who is extremely frugal. She had a thank you note for me for a gift and rather than mail it, she dropped it off at a mutual friends house and called me and said I can pick it up. Don't you think that's a bit much? She's a really sweet girl, but my goodness! Do you agree that was rude?
2007-02-25 08:13:17 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
In my opinion that's a bit much. I think if she really cared, I think she should have put the thank you note in your mailbox at your house and/or pass by your house and give it to you in person, that is logical to me. I also think that there is something not right in this picture. I am sorry if I am a little too forward, but a friend would never do things like this. Friends try to make life easier not harder. It's okay to be frugal, but when it comes to down to friendship frugal doesn't and shouldn't exist.
2007-02-25 08:26:10 · answer #1 · answered by poshbaby24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not too rude, but a bit strange. Unless you visit that friend with whom she dropped off the thank you note on a daily basis it seems like it would be out of your way. Now, if you do visit that friend all the time she may have just thought it was the same as mailing it since you'd get it in the same amount of time anyway.
Nothing beats my frugal roommate in Europe last year who, instead of paying .70 for postage to the US, sent a digital postcard to the printing queue at a photo shop, which his parents could go and pay .50 cents to print out and have, haha....
2007-02-25 08:25:31 · answer #2 · answered by soispasignunt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only rude, but ignorant.
Oh, I get it: I would like to thank you, but I will call you on the telphone and tell you to go pick up a thank you note from me at a third party's home. Oh, no, I won't even deliver it by hand, or the next time I see you, and certainly not spend the cost of a stamp.
Whaaaaaa?
Not so "sweet" as dumb and not much of a thank you.
2007-02-26 08:31:36 · answer #3 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My goodness yes!
Thank you's are supposed to be sweet NOT an hour wasted of your day JUST to get the letter!! Tell her it's nice to be frugal but there is a thing called BEING CHEAP!
2007-02-25 08:28:09 · answer #4 · answered by Holly Golightly the hippie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was a little out there. I agree with the person who said unless you visit this friend every day or about every day, it's a bit much to make someone come and get a gift.
2007-02-25 08:32:17 · answer #5 · answered by that dead girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not exactly rude but inconvienient. if she wanted you to have a thank you note she should have found a way to GIVE it to you. It seems as if she felt she was doing YOU a favor by making you a note and it was all you could do to go and pick it up. You probably should have said that she didn't have to make a thank you note and not to worry about it (so you wouldn't have to go and pick it up!) hehe
2007-02-25 08:37:01 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really weird, taking frugality too far. She could've had it delivered somehow, delivering it herself or asking a friend to give it to you is fine, however to tell you to *pick it up* is over the line.
2007-02-26 01:57:25 · answer #7 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she could have handed it to you at a time you were both together... instead of calling you to pick it up... that is strange... i wouldnt say 'rude' but you either mail it or hand it to the person... not pass it off to one person to give to another... maybe she is just immature and didnt know any better...
2007-02-25 09:40:10 · answer #8 · answered by livinintheword † 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok lie that was ultimatley the moSt rudestestet thing I've ever heard of. You should make a big deal out tof that fact that your friend didnt want to spend on stamps.
like what are you fiffteen or something...
get over it, or ask her if she needs stamps or something already...
2007-02-25 08:24:03 · answer #9 · answered by sapboi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think of your chum stated an ignorant factor yet probably did no longer are conscious of it. She probably basically assumed that she you had slightly of german in you by way of fact perchance your facial constructive properties seem greater black than white to her. the two way it became rude. i does no longer hardship approximately it.
2016-09-29 21:51:29 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋