I have been seeing this guy for 2 months when we talk he acts like he really wants to be with me. He usually hangs out at my house with me 2 days a week. He is 26 and I am 29. The problem is when he is not with me he acts totally different he says he turns his phone off to sleep and we only talk once or 2 a day on the phone. He lves about 30 min from me but yet i have not yet been to his place. Most of the time if we make plans to meet during the week he makes up some reason why he cant met me.I really like him and want to think he likes me but do you think I am wasting my time with him? He is 2 years younger???
2007-02-25 08:08:51 · 9 answers · asked by amanda a 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
His behavior is really fishy sounding. Are you sure he doesn't have a wife or girlfriend? His behavior indicates that he is hiding something from you, or you from someone else. You really ought to talk to him about it. Tell him your concerns about his behavior and give him a chance to explain. We women can over analyze and get upset about things we don't know the whole story to, so don't make up your mind before you hear what he has to say, but be aware and call him on it if he gives you any strange answers. Don't let him bullshit you.
And if he does have a wife or girlfriend, for goodness sake, drop him immediately. If he's cheating on them, he'll cheat on you.
2007-02-25 08:17:33 · answer #1 · answered by LuckyDucky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he's not really wanting to be in a relationship. You guys only hang out 2 days of the week....and what is the reason? Sorry to say it....but yes you're wasting your time. You need to find another man that would actually like to devote most of his time with you. He's playing mind games. If he turns his phone to avoid your calls, and always make up excuses.....he's playing mind games with you or who's talking to another girl also. Don't keep on holding on.....you need to go find another man who you'll actually be happy with.
2007-02-25 16:15:35 · answer #2 · answered by . 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the age difference is not the issue here, it is the maturity difference, and the fact that you clearly want more out of him and he doesnt seem to get it. You might just be a friend with benifits to him, it sounds strange that you have never seen his place in two months and you really need to find out why that is. Breaking plans all the time like that sounds to me like he might have a gf already, because if a guy wants to see a woman nothing will get in the way of that...
2007-02-25 16:13:32 · answer #3 · answered by JP 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't see anthing wrong from what you described. If you talk on the phone 2 -3 times a day what more do you want? If he always comes to your house ask about his maybe he's embarassed about you seeing his place it may not be as nice as your's. Either that or he just can't handle you and doesn't know what to do. Talk to him and since he is a little younger you may have to give him a few pointers.
2007-02-25 16:14:12 · answer #4 · answered by ltwatkins77 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Little tip, in case you're thinking about building something more long term with this man -- they DO NOT change after you marry them. Their annoying personality traits are only magnifed about a thousand times.
I'd find someone more attentive and not so secretive. He sounds like he could be neglectful at the minimum and possibly a cheater. He may be married, too.
2007-02-25 16:14:22 · answer #5 · answered by Kate the Great 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he is not being honest with you, I would say he is married or seeing someone else and you’re his cupcake on the side.
I would move on until he comes clean. The time for playing game is over your not 14 you 29 you been there done that, go finds someone that want to be with you and only you, game time is over welcome to adult hood.
Good luck and keep on smiling
2007-02-25 16:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by choiceav 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to say but u better stand up and give this guy an ultimadum u dont want to waiste ur time so talk to him about it and trust ur instict u know a lie wen u see it
2007-02-25 16:16:15 · answer #7 · answered by mima 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like he is not being honest with you......red flags all over the place
2007-02-25 16:12:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
DUUUUHHHHH..................he is married...........and you probably have already figured that out bu the way you worded this question....
DUMP HIM.....
2007-02-25 16:12:56 · answer #9 · answered by snowdrop 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋