Just to cheat on her 6 months later. Most likely he will do it again. She doesn't know of course-she would be devistated. Don't you think he wuld have been better off if he had sex before he got married instead of this betrayal? Why is premarital sex so bad to some people but then they commit adultery? I am so dissapointed.
2007-02-25 08:02:31 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I am a woman and the adulterous man is my boss. He is cheating on his wife because my co-worker "bragged" about screwing him. Its just amazing how he would tell us that you have to wait until you are married to have sex then he cheats. Pathetic.
2007-02-25 13:10:43 · update #1
Premarital sex is not a sin.
In Exodus, chapter 20, we read the Ten Commandments, and are told that we should not commit adultery. Adultery however is not defined as simply having sex outside of marriage. It's defined as having sex with a married person. Nothing is said to prohibit sexual relations between two unmarried people. In fact, if we look in the book of Leviticus, we are given a list of every situation in which we should not have sex. We're not to have sex with married people, or with family members, or with animals. We are not, however, prohibited from having sex with an unmarried person who is not in our family.
Some places in the bible, such as Mark 7:21, state that "fornication" is a sin. Christians like to interpret that as meaning "sex outside of marriage." It's not true. The Greek translation identifies "fornication" as being any "illicit (illegal) sexual activity." However, as we saw above, God did not mention sex between two unmarried people as being illicit.
2007-02-25 08:07:06 · answer #1 · answered by gruz 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I know a lot of men who did have sex before marriage and still cheat on their wives. As humans, we have a sinful nature. But, I've said it before and I'll say it again--people choose to cheat. You put yourself in a situation where you have the opportunity to cheat. Lunch alone with the opposite sex, and so on. It often starts small, as someone who will lend an ear and then grow bigger.
What is really sad here is that he has put you in a bad situation because now you have to decide how to tell her, if you are absolutely certain he's cheated (no doubts). Why? Because not only is it a betrayal of his marriage vows but in today's world with many diseases, he could be putting her health and very life at risk as well. Better for her to know now before any children come into the equation. It's up to her if she should forgive him or not. For me? This is a marriage ender. I wouldn't overlook it and the Bible does give this as the one valid reason for divorce. Actually there is one other one, but it is about believers and nonbelievers.
2007-02-25 08:31:18 · answer #2 · answered by lorilou 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I give this same answer whenever anyone questions me as to why I do or don't believe in something.
I am a Christian, therefore I don't believe it is my place to decide what is a sin and what isn't. That is Gods place, and I believe on certain issues he is very certain of what is acceptable and what isn't. Premarital sex is one that is against the religious beliefs I was raised with. My parents never told me anything was a sin unless they could show me in the Bible where it talks about it.
So, whenever someone has asked my why I don't believe in abortion, premarital sex, adultery, etc, I simply say, "It isn't my place to question the teachings of Christianity. If you don't agree with it, you'll just have to ask Jesus when he comes back." If God says it is wrong, then it is for me to accept, not question.
2007-02-25 08:13:16 · answer #3 · answered by LittleMermaid 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think of you already comprehend the respond: of direction that's extra effective to attend! As somebody right here already stated, the Bible makes that amply sparkling. aside from that however, having intercourse with somebody you're actually not married to extremely cheapens the journey. What the Bible says on the subject of the "2 becoming to be one" is impossible to comprehend till when you have had intercourse with somebody. no remember if human beings have confidence interior the divine message of the Bible or not, they could evaluate that the e book incorporates a great deal of accrued wisdom. the different subject with a married couple that has already had intercourse with countless different companions is they are going to continuously examine their better half to somebody else, that's under no circumstances truthful. intercourse is a factor of marriage, whether it is not the reason of marriage. out of your tale, i'm incredibly effective you comprehend all of this properly. *** based on Honey´s remark approximately paying for a automobile, I certainly have yet another question to ask her: would you purchase an apple that somebody already bit out of? i think of that replace into the ingredient of the story, which you look to have ignored. we are actually not conversing a pair of automobile or something similar to a automobile. we are conversing approximately something that can not/should not be tried out in the previous making the dedication.
2016-10-16 11:35:23 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be naive. If he cheated on his wive just six months into marriage, then don't you think that he was sleeping around BEFORE he was married? People don't just change their habits overnight.
Sleeping around before marriage is supposed to be bad, because it gets you used to the idea of sleeping with other people. If someone can sleep with just anyone, anytime, while still single, and then suddenly is forced to sleep with just ONE person for the rest of his life, then he will find marriage to be overly confining, and he won't get married (or won't be faithful).
2007-02-25 08:09:20 · answer #5 · answered by Randy G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it justifies premarital sex. It was a conscious decision on his part. These things also have a way of being found out. She'll find out eventually......hopefully he'll change this behavior before.
2007-02-25 08:14:22 · answer #6 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Premartial sex is a sin also. Its just that Adultary is mentioned so much more in the bible . It is one of the 10 commandements to not commint adultery or even look at another woman with lust.
2007-02-25 08:11:46 · answer #7 · answered by Kenny 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That makes two of us Disappointed I mean.... I like how you put Christian in quotes.. That is not the behavior of a true Christian man.. We know them by their fruits.. His are bad fruits not worthy of association with the name of Jesus Christ. Like everyone he could turn from that sin, repent and come to Christ for real and receive life.. Jim
2007-02-25 08:18:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think you understand what being faithful means.
Faith has nothing to do with waiting to have sex.
2007-02-25 08:11:07 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I doubt he has never had sex before her. If he can cheat, he can lie.
2007-02-25 08:19:01 · answer #10 · answered by surfinnorcal77 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋