do i have a mental illness? I really need help.?

Question

im 13 years old and my parents verbally abuse me. they constantly curse me out, put me down and threaten me to the point that im an emotional wreck.they always mock me and tell me im stupid when im smarter than both of them. my mom suffers from clinical depression and constantly takes it out on me as if its my fault. most of the time i bottle up my emotions until i get a chance to cry until i have no more tears left. recently ive tried to tame my emotions with poetry and it seems to work, a little. most of them are about death, scuicide and manslaughter. i laghed through Saw 3 untill i couldnt any more. i really need help.

serious answers ONLY. Help

its been going on for 7+ years

when i said they tell me im stupid when im smarter than both of them i mean they know im smarter than them. sorry for the misunderstanding

when i said they tell me im stupid when im smarter than both of them i mean they know im smarter than them but do it anyway. i dont mean to sound arrogant. sorry for the misunderstanding

Answer 1

This sounds like a problem beyond what anyone on here can help with. Sounds like you all need family counseling. Also, if your mom has depression, it could be genetic and maybe you are getting it too (and sounds like homelife is not good, that can make anyone feel bad). Maybe the way to approach this is to ask your folks to let you see a counselor, and your counselor will know better what to do. If they think family counseling is appropriate, they will most likely suggest it. You don't necessarily have a mental illness, but so long as you are in a situation that you are unhappy in and can't get away, you are more likely to develop one. If you're still getting your schoolwork done OK, I'd say you probably do not have depression yet.

You will also have to think hard if you could be contributing to this negative situation. My husband's grandkids (I never had kids) are getting to be teenagers, and now they are getting kinda snotty, in my opinion, and I don't like it very much. They're nice kids, but they are trying to show how grown up they are and they don't have the skills yet so their sarcasm/jokes/comments end up being annoying or hurtful. This is totally normal, and the smarter the kid, the nastier the comments they make, and they don't even mean to be nasty. Your folks have feelings, too, and they get tired and crabby, too. So think on that. It is part of YOUR job to grow up and establish your independence, but it is a klunky painful process and feelings get banged around on both the teenager's and the parents' side.

Good luck, I hope you will ask your folks to take you to counseling, at least as a first step. Really, counseling can be a turnaround for families, I've seen it before.

Answer 2

NO you definitely do not have a mental illness. It sounds as though your mother has problems though.
It doesn't matter how you let your emotions out as long as you don't hurt anyone else. Poetry is a very good form. Have you tried any sports, such as judo or Karate? Any sport is good for letting emotions go, it lets the aggression out. Rugby is extremely good for that.
Have you actually thought of suicide? If so, you need to talk to someone who can help. Maybe another relative.
You say you are smarter than both your parents. Hang on to that, you probably are. Is there a social worker you can speak to?
What ever you do, you DO NOT have a mental illness.

Answer 3

You are 13 yrs old, and I want to know if you have another family member you could live with. I am so sorry you are going through this horrible way of life, with parents who are not capable of taking good, responsible care of you. I, too, used to write poetry to put my feeling onto paper. It helped me a lot. Are you doing well or not well in school? Have you tried to speak to a Counselor about your home life? School counselors are often too busy to listen to real life, they mostly are in the school to help you pick classes, etc.. Ask your counselor at school, if there is a no-pay clinic where you could go to get help. Are you expected to be home right after school, every day, same time, same attitudes at home? Are you getting into trouble or staying a good person? it is easy to go the wrong path, when your life seems totally so hard to deal with. Please, create yourself in such a way that you are someone people want to be around, even though it may only be at school. I know, I was not allowed friends at my home, and I would bet that you don't want anyone there, right now. Do you have a favorite teacher you could talk to? I bottled my emotions so well, that I ended up with amnesia for most of my childhood.......as an adult, I cannot remember most of it! My brain just blacked it out, to keep me sane. I stayed an A student, because school was away from home, and I felt good about myself, knowing I had done well at school. No one should ever call anyone 'stupid'. I'm sorry there is a depressed person in your home, who seems to take it out on you. Be the best person you can be, and DO tell a teacher, a social worker, your school counselor that you NEED help. I know, you're the one who is 'normal', but to make it through this living at home, you need someone to talk to who can't tell what you said. Try it. Schools usually have real counselors they can refer you to see. Get someone who will listen to you, without putting you down. Do it, soon. The longer you wait, the worse it will get for you. I'm so sorry.

Answer 4

Do you have mental illness? I really can't say. I can say your are emotionally troubled. This is not your fault. Really, this is not your fault. But, it is your problem and it sounds like your family isn't there for you to help you with it. So, you will need to seek the help you need for yourself.
At school, go to your teacher or counselor or principal. Tell them what you told us. The verbal and emotional abuse at home, your mom's depression, your crying, your poems and thoughts of death and suicide. If the first person you tell doesn't take you seriously, tell another official person. The other way to go would be to tell a Dr. or nurse, policeman, or someone at Social Services.
If your situation is considered to be serious enough, Social Services may help you to find a relative or a foster family to live with for a while, so you can regain your health. They may also provide/pay for counseling for you, to help you heal.
I know it is scary to speak the words. On the other side of it you will feel very much relieved. Remember, it's not your fault.

Answer 5

Child abuse is defined as a variety of abnormal behaviors directed against children.

You probably do not have a mental illness, yet. However you need to be removed from that home! Go to a relative you trust or a school teacher or counselor. You are still a child! At this point in your young life you need counseling and love, protection and you should be allowed to have fun. Please talk to someone outside of that house so that you can be removed. Where are your Grandparents, aunts, uncles, sibling?

Get information and find help ... 1- 800- 4- A- Child (1- 800- 422- 4453) More information about how to report child abuse: ...

Answer 6

I'm also 13 and while my parents don't in anyway abuse me i think i know what your going through. i dont have any good friends i can talk to and im not close with my parents so i do the same thing..i bottle up my feelings and one day when i cant take it anymore ill watch a sad movie and cry through the whole thing. its good you are writing poetry, i just write about everything in my mind until there is nothing left. Ive read a lot of books about death and suicide and i know its not worth it. to help me stop thinking about death i set goals for myself and i understand everything gets better with time. it might help you to talk to someone like a therapist but i know i rather get through it on my own.

Answer 7

First, I want to say that I'm so sorry. You deserve better. You deserve love. I wish you the best in finding your way. Be sure you treat others with kindness and it will fill the need you have to be treated with kindness until someone can love you as much as you deserve.

You don't have a mental illness. You need to spend as much time away from your parents as you can, and around a healthy social interaction.

Horror movies are not a good entertainment choice for someone like you. Don't watch those anymore. You need healthy social interaction. Horror movies are pathological. Avoid those like the plague. Can you tell me one good thing that comes of those? One? The momentary thrill is not worth the long term psychological consequences. Stay away from that mental garbage.

At least one more person is thinking of you, wishing the best, and you're in his prayers.

Answer 8

You do not have mental illness. you are being abused by your parents and this is not your fault. If your mom is clinically depressed she needs help from a Dr. You need to talk to a teacher you like or a counsler at school. You must have relatives where are they? If they are close by go to them, You also really need to Child Protective Service and they will help you even if you have to leave your house you will be better off,
Please tell someone this is very serious.

Answer 9

You poor person, only 13yrs old and copping this. Your mums clinical depression may be causing mood swings in her that she has no control over, is she on medication? You MUST talk to your teacher or school counsellor. Have you a good friend whose parents you trust enough to tell them what is happening. You know you are not stupid so just ignore those kind of put downs. A big hug for you

Answer 10

I can really relate to your problem. I was not done this way by my parents but by a boyfriend I lived with for 14 years. I knew I wasn't crazy but he sure made me think I was. He also made me feel stupid and dumb. I kept my emotions bottled up inside of me til I one day exploded. I tried to commit suicide. I have now been away from him for 2 years and on medication for anxiety and depression for the last 3 years.The sooner you get help the better you will be.There is no reason why you have to go thru this.No one should have to be treated this way,especially by your parents. Children are put here for us to love not mistreat.I am really worried about you please get help! Weather it be thru your school counselor or a child hot line..Please don't wait to long!Trust me it's never to late! If I can be of any help to you write me at [e-mail] or [e-mail]
I wish you all the best!