Im 12 years old and i have the perfect boyfriend we do stuff like touch each other or make out naked but he asked me 2 do him, i want to but i dont kno if i should, i mean we have done oral but never....all da way.
2007-02-25 07:55:44 · 31 answers · asked by Tamma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no dont do it. you are too young for that sort of thing. And another thing its illegal your boyfriend could go to jail because you are only children and you shouldnt do that until you are at least 17 or 18
2007-02-25 08:01:41 · answer #1 · answered by nethnee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Darlin,
If you are old enough to ask - you are old enough for the no-nonsense answer!
NO!!!! NO!!! NO!!!
Is there a part of the word 'NO' - you do not understand???
Your body is not done growing and developing yet.
Your mind is not done growing and developing yet.
Your emotions are light-years away from being done with growing and developing!
You are risking your health - in so many ways it is _crazy_!!!
There are probably more sexually transmitted infections than you can probably pronounce - let alone understand just by reading about them - and you want to risk getting one (or more)???
You should STOP doing Oral!!! That is NOT 'Safe Sex'! (Safes don't do sexual stuff anyway.)
You are 12. NOT 21, 31, 41 or 51! You only get to be a kid during one brief period of time. DO NOT rush into all the 'grown-up stuff' -- because you can't 'go back and undo it' - you do NOT get a "DO OVER" with this!
And, not to be mean - but your boyfriend is NOT 'Perfect' - unless you mean he is perfect at being a user and exploiter! He has no business touching you anywhere that you would be covered by your underwear or a swimsuit!
Girl - you should be doing other things with your life - like homework, learning how to cook a meal, making cookies or - hey! How about climbing trees, going to Girl Scouts or even Yes! Playing chess or otherwise improving your mind and talents. (And I do NOT mean 'sexual talents'!!!)
Also - although you should still be playing with dolls - do you know that the majority of babies who are born to young teen-age (and pre-teen) girls are born prematurely? (Before they should be born.) AND the majority of those babies DIE! Birth control is NOT 100% perfect - and you aren't even old enough to drive, let alone old enough to hold down a job and provide for a baby! And, if your boyfriend _is_ old enough to do both of those - he is too old to be messing around with a 12 year old girl!
Think about this - if you are making out naked with a boy, and participating in oral at 12 - and considering full-on intercourse at 12 - what are you going to be doing at 24? And, also _where_ will you be?
Dragged out, dried out, sagged out and working as a two-bit 'ho'? Or, are you going to be all sad and crying about a baby who is dead and buried - or severely retarded? Because of being premature, or because you had to get an abortion?
Are those your goals?
If your boyfriend were 'perfect' - he'd be wanting to take you to get a soda pop, or maybe take you to the movies on Saturday afternoon, then take you to a ball game where he would be 'the star athlete' -- NOT taking you to where he could just try to get into your pants.
Again - do NOT do this! You will regret it! Instead, do your best to slow down, be _12_ -- take time to develop your goals, discover standards, do some research on respect - then decide to respect yourself! And - insist on Respect from _any_ 'boyfriend'.
2007-02-25 16:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by sogerd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you're 12...you have your whole life ahead of you to be thinking about stuff like that. You have many many years ahead of you to meet new boys, and even though you think this is the right boy for you, you never know what can happen. Things change. If you have sex with him, it could change things. After that, you may not be together anymore, and you just totally wasted your virginity. You shouldnt even be doing oral..or even making out...naked!! You need to respect yourself. Also, if he is asking you for sex at such a young age, I would think that he doesnt respect you like he should. How old is he anyways? Although I am strongly suggesting that you dont have sex, if you do, you should be very very careful because you could get pregnant. And if you could also get catagorized as a sl*t, especially if you end up breaking up after a while.
2007-02-25 16:11:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you DONT have the perfect boyfriend. The perfect boyfriend is definitely not a statuatory rapist which is what he would become if he had sex with you.
Secondly, as every other poster has said, you are too young to be having sex. Your taking colossal risks for very little benefit.
You should talk to an adult you can trust about this or call a helpline or something. By all means, dont have sex with him.
2007-02-25 16:03:07 · answer #4 · answered by john s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW... you shouldn't even be thinking about having any sexual contact with him. You should be somewhere playing with 'Barbie'. Having Sex is not for 12 year olds, your not even in high school yet. Find something else to do, because thats just nasty. Why do you want to give yourself away to some little boy, you probably wont know in the next couple of years? SAVE yourself... the time will come in the future for you, but right now... you shouldn't take it so far. What if you get pregnant, what if you somehow get a disease... Your body is a temple. PLEASE don't have Sex... YOU WILL REGRET IT.
2007-02-25 16:02:17 · answer #5 · answered by CUTIE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At your age there is no reason that you should be involved with these things at your age, it's too early and you have the rest of your life to explore the inner workings of a real relationship. I'm sure at your age you think you are in love and you're going to marry him, but your virginity is something that you can't ever get back and I know I was told the same thing, although I was told when I was 14, but I didn't respect that and I got used for it and it was the worst decision I could've ever made.
2007-02-25 16:02:51 · answer #6 · answered by Jillie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg no what if you get pregnant then what? Your 12 years old be a kid for gods sake. Dont try to grow up so fast believe me life comes at you fast! When youre young and you get pregnant everything is twice as hard (school,work,anything fun) Be smart dont give into temptations that only last a couple of minutes.
2007-02-25 16:02:37 · answer #7 · answered by Rod1979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 12 years old and have already done oral with your boyfriend?? Where are you parents?? I would suggest you DON'T do it!!!! There are too many reasons NOT too go "all da way"!!!
2007-02-25 16:03:13 · answer #8 · answered by monkeys mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To tell you the truth I don't think you should. You are far too young and I don't think you'll be able to handle the emotional or physical stress that sex can bring. If you want to explore your own body that's fine. However, I don't think you should cross this line just yet. If he cares about you he will understand. You have so much to look forward to so don't think your missing out on something. Sexual intercourse is suppose to be an outward expression of how much your partner loves you. So, whatever you do please think about these issues before you give yourself away. Good luck.
2007-02-25 16:05:00 · answer #9 · answered by blufiah_tam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, please do not. You will regret it. You are way too young. You shouldn't even have done the things you've done. Where are your parents? And why do you have a boyfriend? I know you think you know everything, we all did at that age, but you have so much ahead in life and if you aren't sure, you are going to regret it. Take this advice please. Just wait a while, 12 is so young. Have you even gotten your period? It is not even something you should be asking.
2007-02-25 16:00:21 · answer #10 · answered by s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please dont do it....look, I have had a lot of sex...and Im almost twice your age...and Im a guy.
Dont have sex with him...in fact, if possible...try to wait till your at least 18.....sex ruins everything. It really does....plus it will lead you down the wrong path.
I have had sex with several partners...and now that I am getting to the point where I would consider marrying someone...I dont want to marry someone who has been with like 40 people...I dont wanna bump into ex sex partners if we go out to dinner or something....I want a good girl. That's unfair, but thats life.
Be a good girl. Have fun and fool around...but save sex for later...otherwise you will most likely regret it.
2007-02-25 16:01:47 · answer #11 · answered by xtaticlyme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋