2007-02-25 07:45:25 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
When we got married, our immediate family and the wedding party knew our wishes. They spread the word, when people asked about where we were registered. "Oh they are registered at Bed, Bath & Beyond, but I also know they are saving up for..."
This was a less tacky way of doing it, and it worked out great!
2007-02-25 07:56:44 · answer #1 · answered by Mathlady 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Don't straight out ask for money. If someone asks you or a close family member, have an answer prepared. "Oh how nice of you to ask! Of course we'd love anything you choose, but to give you another option, we're saving money to build a house within the next few years." You shouldn't "expect" a gift at all since guests are not obligated to do anything but attend. And DEFINITELY don't put your gift preference in the invitation. It's still considered tacky to put gift registery cards in your invitations, so don't do that either. It's barely ok to put gift registry cards in the shower invitations. Wait for people to ask where you're registered.
2007-02-28 01:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by ♛Qu€€n♛J€§§¡¢a♛™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not feel obliged to buy us a present,
however should you wish to buy us a gift our wedding lists are held at ......
This is what i put in my invitations.
You could put something like Please do not feel obliged to buy us a present, however should you wish to buy us a gift, cash gifts will be much appreichated to help pay towards..../acheive our dream of .....
It was an insert with other information about directions, parking etc.. Yes some people think it is rude to ask for money or gifts,and others will want to know what to get you. It is very hard to please everybody. You will know which people not to ask so with their invitations dont put the money/gift preference and if they ask just say you are saving up for (give your reason) and dont offer any other options.
Good luck with your wedding.
2007-02-26 02:53:49 · answer #3 · answered by sonic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that it is soooo tacky and against all etiquette to ask on your invites for money. It is never acceptable no matter how casual your wedding is. Even though it is common practise to receive a gift you should not make it sound like it is a requirement. I have received invitations that have asked for money and I have bought gifts instead just because thought they were so rude. If you want something specific register for it. and no, you can't put that on your invites either. You may spread gift information by word of mouth.
2007-02-25 10:02:26 · answer #4 · answered by nakiska11111 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
http://www.emilypost.com/news_events/releases/news_money_as_gift_survey.htm
"According to Post, it's okay to ask for money as a wedding gift, however, it is extremely important to do so politely. Here are some of Post's suggestions:
If money is the gift you would most appreciate, get the word out to family and close friends.
If you are asked point blank what you would like, you might say, "Whatever you want to give us is wonderful, the choice is yours, but money is at the top of our wish list."
It's also a good idea to state the intended purpose. Perhaps you are saving for a down payment on a house or your honeymoon. Guests will then know how their gift may be used"
2007-02-25 07:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 3⤋
The correct wording is "presentation preferred" but this should never be listed on the invitation or in anything that accompanies the invitation. The reason for this is that a wedding invitation does not carry the requirement to bring a gift and so it should never imply in any way that a gift is expected.
A shower invitation does carry the expectation of a gift - and so it can be listed on the shower invitation. Other ways to spread the word: on your wedding blog or website or by having friends and family spread the word for you.
2007-02-25 10:26:16 · answer #6 · answered by Chrys 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
What do you need the money for the apartment or house?
Or to pay for the wedding?
If it for the house or apartment, then asks for gift cards to Home depot or Lowes.
If it to pay for the wedding you need to thank about going to city hall and have a big party afterwards
2007-02-25 11:17:23 · answer #7 · answered by choiceav 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if your getting married then you should have enough to worry about besides your guests wallets. you NEVER ask for money or ever expect people to give you gifts. its very rude. if people want to give money then they will. if they dont then they wont. be thankful if you get any gifts. a gift is up to the giver, not the receiver. if I ever got an invite requesting money I would toss it sooo fast its not even funny. any couple tacky enough to mention a gift in an invite doesnt deserve anything at all, nor are they worthy of my presence at their wedding.
2007-02-25 10:41:09 · answer #8 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If someone asks what you would like then just say that you'd rather have money if that's ok to put towards something.
Don't just ask people for money that'll be rude and seem like your expecting a gift of some kind
2007-02-25 08:01:53 · answer #9 · answered by Dre 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do we really have to go through this again. You can't ASK for money it's rude. You can spread the idea via word of mouth or just don't create a registry and cross your fingers, but asking for money/gifts is very poor manners.
2007-02-25 10:29:39 · answer #10 · answered by jen_customweddingsolutions 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋