Im 18 and i senior in high school and i cant stand living with my parents ne more. my boyfriend said that i could move in with him and his family. he lives down in the basement him self. i know my parents will be mad at me but i still have 2 more years to live close to home cause im going to college only 15 min away. he lives about 5 min away from the college. we'll be at the same school next year. so either when he's done next year i'll move with him or i'll have to move back in with my family for one year until i transfer. i'm thinking of transfering one year early so i can be with him. he gave me a promise ring and we know that we want to be married. i just dont know what my family and friends will think if i make this choice to live with him.
2007-02-25 07:45:08 · 12 answers · asked by Heather 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We've been dating for almost 4 months. i know thats soon so thats another reason why people's reactions might now be good. i'd move in during the summer.
2007-02-25 07:48:18 · update #1
Aw honey 4 months isnt long enough...I've been dating my guy for 1yr and 1/2 and we knew at 4 months that we wanted to be married to and let me tell you this....the first year of dating is the "honeymoon" stage and after that year it gets rockier and harder and you have to truly be commited to make it work...I still have another year and 1/2 until i can move out and my plan was to move in with my bf too but we'll have at least 3 years together under our belt before that even gets close to happening....I know how you feel and i know that right now all you can think of is how happy you are and how you wanna get away from your parents and live with this guy you love, but trust me...wait it out, it'd be best to wait until you've been together at least a year and then if things are still alright then try it....otherwise if it doesn't work out you'll be left with only the option of your parents house again. Another thing, if you want to move in together dont move into his parents house, rent an apartment or something because while he may want you there its still his parents house and their rules still apply no matter what your age and if they want you sleeping somewhere else then thats totally their call and going against them could get you kicked out....But just give yourselves time before taking such a big step
2007-02-25 08:01:44 · answer #1 · answered by Liana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 months isn't a great deal of time in the dating world. You are only 18 years old, and though you may think you know exactly what you want in life, your goals and your desires will probably change. The people I wanted at 18, are not the same people I want now at 23, only 5 years later. You will change so much in college that I cannot even begin to explain it.
You are getting into a risky situation. You are running from one bad situation hoping your boyfriend's living situation will be better and solve it. No matter where you are living. Your mother will still be your mother. Your father will still be your father. You need to mend the relationship that you have with them or atleast come to terms with the way that it is right now. Why can't you stand living with them? That is the real issue. It's not about your boyfriend or whether or not to live with him. Deal with the issue at hand -- your relationship with your parents.
Also, I am speaking from experience on this one. And, if you need someone to talk to you can email me. I don't mind at all.
Amanda
my email is in my profile on here.
2007-02-25 07:55:11 · answer #2 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you leave your parents' house in such a fashion, realize that you may be burning bridges. Who's to say that, if this doesn't work out with your boyfriend, that your parents will take you back? They have no obligation to house you; you're eighteen and an adult in the eyes of the law.
Also, are you financially independent? Are you paying for your own college education, or depending on your parents? Will you be paying rent to your boyfriend's family? What about chipping in for groceries? An extra person around the house, eating meals and using hot water and electricity costs money, and you will quickly find yourself unwelcome if you don't do your share.
This is a situation in which I would advise gritting your teeth and staying put, especially if you are financially dependent on your parents. Moving out is saying to your parents "I am an adult and i can function independently of you," and you can't really take that back if things don't pan out. Things may seem wonderful with your boyfriend, but you are young and you have not been dating that long.
Until you can financially support yourself and not have to depend on someone else to provide you with a roof over your head and food to eat, you would be wise to stay put and deal with your parents.
2007-02-25 08:00:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup it's fine to live together. At least you will know each others good and bad points. You definitely do not want to find out after you're married that you just can't get along. Yes I know that it's wrong by some standards, but in the real world I think it's a head start on your life together. Good luck.
2007-02-25 07:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four months isn't long enough to know if you want to be with someone long term...and at 18 you need a few years of being an independent adult under your belt, before you consider marriage (lessens chances of feeling you "missed out" down the road).
Living with his family doesn't sound really great, and you'd need to pay them room/board where that is probably not necessary at home...hang in there...things will be changing soon...
2007-02-25 07:55:09 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't do it!!! If you think you can't stand living with your parents anymore, wait until you live with someone else's it would be different if he had his own place, but since he is still living at home with his parents, he is in no position to have you live with him. Everyone has rules that others must live by in their homes. You never know what you are getting into. Plus if something happens between you too, where does that leave you? HOMELESS!!!
2007-02-25 08:13:41 · answer #6 · answered by tango6531 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i in my opinion think of its the main incredible element to do right this moment and time. i'm previous and that i did what your dad and mom are asking you to do. notwithstanding after various years of ultimately discovering the guy I married, desperate this marriage became into no longer for me. notwithstanding had I flow in and lived with him for some years, i would not be dealing with a divorce ideal now. i believe that that's significant be attentive to that individual totally formerly making that committment. i think of you're doing the acceptable suited element. for the reason which you relatively dont be attentive to everybody till you reside with them and learn all the flaws that cause them to tick or tick you off and vice versa.
2016-10-01 23:30:03 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't live with anyone until you've dated them for at least 6 months.
Any sooner is too soon.
I'd definitely live with someone before ever marrying them, marriage is a financial committment.
Living with someone isn't legally binding.
Just be sure to pay bills that are in your name, and such so you aren't stuck with problems later.
Do NOT open joint bank accounts either.
2007-02-25 07:55:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a lot better to live with someone before you Merrie them. I have seen a lot of mirages go down the drain. All becuz they got marred be for they lived together. You never know how your take to living with someone till you do. it's better to first learn if you can both coupe with living full time together becuz it's a lot different then just seeing each outer ever day. Please trust me on this.
2007-02-25 07:55:03 · answer #9 · answered by Kathleen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing bad about moving in with him if you're serious. If his parents have no objections, go for it.
2007-02-25 07:53:05 · answer #10 · answered by knight2001us 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋