Okay my ex.bf and fiancee from highschool was my first everything including first love.We went through a lot of drama he was a friend of mines ex.bf and my parents were overly protective.He got me pregnant we broke up i got stressed tried not to show and starved myself.We got back together and broke up again i lost the baby few weeks later at 5 months it was awful.I told him about it and we kept in touch for a little while but had a misunderstanding through text messages his gf vs my cousin as me.Yesterday he drove by my house looking for me and we talked for the first time in 6 months.He wanted to hang out later that day and teased about s*x.He flirted with me when we met up even though he has a gf then he got very touch feelie started kissing me. I told him i felt uncomfortable so he took me back to my car.I still love my ex. bf and would like to be friends with him ?
2007-02-25 07:36:32 · 11 answers · asked by Mandie G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really miss him but i dont want to be a side dish to his gf.Should i wait a week to call and explain this to him i think this may have been a misunderstanding?
2007-02-25 07:39:24 · update #1
Don't wait a week, just don't call. You owe him nothing. If you want to be his friend then be his friend. Encourage him to be faithful to his girl.
2007-02-25 07:43:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point, if he comes around again anytime soon - tell him to not let the door smack him in the rear on his way out!
Sounds like you are both still pretty young. And, it sounds as though he isn't mature enough to handle any serious relationships yet. (Look at his history!!!) Also - it sounds like he is an unfaithful 'player'.
It also sounds like/looks like the two of you may thrive on 'drama' - he on causing some type of drama - and you on the adrenaline being caused from the drama or included in the drama.
Gee - think about this - your parents were trying to be protective - trying to prevent you from getting pregnant (too young) to an irresponsible snert! (Think about this seriously - then go apologize to your parents, and thank them for _trying_ to be proactive and trying to save you from yourself!)
Steer clear of this guy - his name seems to be 'Trouble' -- and at least give things enough time (maybe many years?) before even agreeing to talk to him again. When he _knows_ what he wants. When he has a job. When he has an education. When _you_ can know what you want from a relationship (respect, trust, faithfulness, kindness, maturity, someone who respects your parents - a potential good father for future children - just to name a few...) _then_ if he can live up to those standards, then agree to meet with him - in a public location with your parents with you!
2007-02-25 07:53:01 · answer #2 · answered by sogerd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOunds like you are really torn. The thing that sticks out to me about the story is the fact that he has a gf and he is hitting on you. I also am troubled by the fact that he immediately took your relationship back to a physical place and mentioned sex. If he came back and spoke to you and took you to dinner and showed no other motives I would be happy for you. You may be blinded by your feelings for him...ask some close friends and trusted family what they think. I do not want to be rude but the man sounds like a loser to me. It was his child too and now he is back on the scene with another girl yet wanting to get you in the sack. I ask myself, what kind of a guy does that? And if you get back with him what will prevent him cheating on you just like he is trying to cheat on her. Give yourself more credit and go for a man with character and integrity. Best wishes.
2007-02-25 07:43:52 · answer #3 · answered by rob k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him. I know this is going to be hard but he is a player and nothing but trouble. We all go through this in life. You deserve better. Go to the library or join a club at school. Make new friends ... have more respect for yourself too. Good Luck.
2007-02-25 07:47:53 · answer #4 · answered by divinity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he started kissing you and flirting with you. it sounds as though he wants a little side action, from someone he has history with. If he is still seeing his gf, then you are just a side dish as opposed to the main course. It sounds like your waters with him are tainted anyway, and that you are prone to destructive relationship with him, so probably best to move on, for both of you.
2007-02-25 07:42:06 · answer #5 · answered by Shredded Cottage Cheese 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there nothing wrong with want to be friends with him
but what dose that say about him if he has a gf and
is wantot mess around with you and if he broke up with his gf for you and how do you know that he will not do to you what he was doing to behind her back next
2007-02-25 07:44:16 · answer #6 · answered by mightypiercedone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you two still have strong feelings for each other. Worth exploring, but I'd take it very slowly and carefully. Very carefully.
2007-02-25 07:40:06 · answer #7 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on with your life. drama follows certain people.
the fact that you are answering means that you want to be with him again i think..
use your brain...
MOVE ON......do you want more drama in your life? remember what it was like when you were pregnant? remember losing the baby?....
you need to work on yourself...not return to a situation where drama can unfold again.
2007-02-25 07:40:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you crazy i had same situation i still love him 14 years later honey if you sleep with him your stupid hes using the fact that you love him you might as well right booty call on your forhead
2007-02-25 07:43:37 · answer #9 · answered by Leanne B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like hes playing you or on drugs. Hes not being loyal or responsible to his gf so becarefull he hasnt changed.
2007-02-25 07:41:39 · answer #10 · answered by SARAH D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋