I don't have problems getting numbers or talking to men, the problem I do have is they don't take me seriously, i am not a very serious person i love to just have fun an enjoy life, but i am a point to where i want to start a serious relationship but it seems that the numbers i get they just want one night stands and i have never been that girl and never will be, is it something i am doing or saying for them to think that? How can i change this and get men to understand i am not like that and i have morals and standards?
Oh, and i don't get guys in bars or any place like that.
2007-02-25 07:26:24 · 10 answers · asked by Lauren_Ann20 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can't help but smile i am too bubbly of a person.
2007-02-25 07:37:19 · update #1
Ok another thing here is i am not looking my roomie and i go to happy hr or something at a restaraunt and i get numbers from just people at the other table cause we all talk we are all very outgoing so it just happens i am not stressing my life out just looking for that someone i have friends and family i am letting it happen naturally trust me
2007-02-25 07:41:01 · update #2
just be yourself and keep that moral and standard
men who wants a one night stand doent want a commitments
doesnt want a girlfriend they just want to satisfy their lust
they want a cheap relationship and if they can get away from it they will do it they dont want any hassles
you dont need this guys you need a guy that can hold relationship
a guy who can share their love
a guy who can give and share their feelings
you need an honest guy
these men will not and can not understand your feeling
they are the selfish,greedy and oppurtunistic men
believe me im one of the cheap guy
goodluck
2007-02-25 07:50:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you sound like a wonderful person. I am glad to hear you have standards and that you have the courage to stay true to them. kEEP THAT GOING!! On the other side have you thought that maybe you need to give up the right to date? I mean perhaps this is the time in life to focus on other important things and just let the dating thing happen naturally. I think if you were to focus on some other goals that the dating thing would just happen. Now is the time to develop yourself and while you do that I am sure mr. right will come along. You do not need someone to complete you. You don't. I think when you start to see that then the men you meet will know it too and that makes them only want you more...for all the right reasons. The fact that you have such high moral values already ensures you will endure alot less pain than most in dating. you are off to a great start so don;t sweat it. Good luck. Let God bring you the man you deserve. :)
2007-02-25 07:34:14 · answer #2 · answered by rob k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is pretty easy actually. Though you are going to think 'old fashioned!!!'
Instead of you getting the guys numbers - let the guys get your number. Let them call call you.
I know it is 'the double standard' - but many guys (although it is hard for them to do so) still believe that if you are asking for their number - you are saying to them 'I'm easy and available!' -- whereas, when guys want to get serious - they look more often for a girl _they_ need to persue! (I'm not talking 'mind games' here!) But, guys generally want a girl who is going to be a challenge to them. So, when you get their number - that's not much of a challenge!
Have fun! Keep your morals, and hold fast to your standards! But change the pace a little.
2007-02-25 07:38:23 · answer #3 · answered by sogerd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this might sound cliche and rather dumb, but.. you just have to be patient. the right guy will come along.. and not all guys are like the ones that just happen to keep appearing to you. do you dress provacatively? try to find a single man at church or work that you know won't treat you that way. if all else fails, try doing something fun with your girlfriends like going to a speed dating thing, and tell them flat out that you don't just want a sexual one night stand dealish thing.
make sure that you're putting yourself out there in the right way, as an intelligent, interesting, and fun person. how old are you by the way?
2007-02-25 07:31:41 · answer #4 · answered by justbreathe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to balance the funny and the serious. Keep in mind that first impressions go a long way; if he thinks you're not serious at first, that's what he's going to assume for the rest of the time you know him. As for the one nighters: Ignore them. They're not looking for a serious relationship, period.
2007-02-25 07:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by knight2001us 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have met many girls complaining for the same problem and believe me they all have something in common and I don´t mean to be rude. They´re either very vulgar or very stupid, ¡ OR BOTH !
I insist I DO NOT MEAN TO BE RUDE WITH YOU, I´m only telling you what I have noticed, maybe you´re not stupid or vulgar.
Serious men don´t like that type of girl.
Remember, NO INTENTION TO OFFEND but ONLY TO HELP.
2007-02-25 07:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by ANOTHERCHANCE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So where are you getting these number from? And how are you picking the guys to ask them for numbers? Do guys ask for your number? Do you let them call you?
Maybe you need to play by The Rules for a bit.
2007-02-25 07:30:17 · answer #7 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your fishing in the wrong pond or too small a pond. You may find better quality candidates someplace else. Try volunteering of something that will expand your reach.
2007-02-25 07:32:16 · answer #8 · answered by Ron H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dress causual in a soft sweatsuit see if they like your personality not your clothes, and watch to see if you use your looks to hook men if you do you sell yourself and it sends the wrong message.dont give the impression youll wait for his call just dont try so hard
2007-02-25 07:33:58 · answer #9 · answered by Leanne B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking serious, and don't joke around that much, tell them what your saying tell them this not a joke, and you want express your feelings. and don't smile be serious.
2007-02-25 07:29:36 · answer #10 · answered by Greenflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋