1. The age gap only matters if it matters to you, age is a number and its the person that is important.
2. if you are waiting for the right time to have kids you will never have them, however you must not have a child just because he wants one. To bring a child into the world for that reason will bring nothing but mysery later on. Have a child only if you and he are both wanting one.
Good luck and congrats on getting married.
2007-02-25 07:28:46
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answered by Mark C 2
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The age gap can't matter now, if it ever did - you're married! :)
So focus on making the relationship work between two loving individuals,
The best time to have a baby is when both parents and willing, able, and happy to do so. If you are not ready, then it is not a good time. You have to be able to accept a complete life change and devotion to that little person, and it's a lot of work. I know I am not ready for that and still need my own time and space and schedule. That's okay.
Talk to him about your feelings and start your marriage off with open and honest communication. I would recommend reading "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus," as well - i learned alot about men and communication from that book!
Good Luck
2007-02-25 07:28:36
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answered by Kaitelia 5
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You got married before you discussed your views on children? That doesnt sound too smart. Nevertheless, you shouldnt be too surprised that your hubby wants to start a family soon. He doesnt want to be an old man when his son or daughter is a teenager.
All I can say is dont have a baby just because he is older. Make sure your marriage is sound and that you and your husband are on solid ground. When one spouse caves in and decides to start a family because the other spouse is applying a lot of pressure then the marriage can be fatally strained.
I still dont understand why you would marry someone without knowing what their views on children are. Good luck.
2007-02-25 07:30:34
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answered by john s 1
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There is no problem with the ages.
You have to think with the age difference he is going to want to start the family NOW and not wait When the child will be 18 he will be 54 and you will be 43. If you then factor in grandchildren It could go out a ways.
Get it going now.
Good Luck to you and congratulations
2007-02-25 07:25:51
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answered by zen522 7
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compared to some 11 years isn't that big a gap.as for having a baby both parent need to want the child,no good having a baby if your not ready to take care of and nurture a new born.
2007-02-25 07:24:58
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answered by TOM 5
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It's not the age that makes him want to start a family, its just the way he feels, talk to him about it, tell him how YOU feel, come up with what you realy want. if you want to wait to start a family thats ok, if you want to start a family thats ok too.
again, the age doesn't matter in this situation, just do whatever you want to do.
2007-02-25 07:25:36
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answered by Patrick C 2
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