I took my oldest daughter ( 14 yrs. old) to the mall yesterday she wanted to get some new stuff for school and for some parties, first she wanted to go to Hollister.co and pick out some new clothes ( i guess that's the hot new store for teens) she picked out a whole bunch of stuff and spent $120.00 than she wanted to go to Coach and get a new purse for her friends sweet sixteen she spent $75.00, but after that she wanted to make one more stop at Chanel and got some other stuff... she spent about $200 dollars.... coming to the days total she spent $395.00, do you think that she spent too much for a 14 year old? I feel that i spent too much on things that she might only use a couple of times, do you think i should have her pay for some of it? I don't want her to think that I don't want to buy her stuff... What should i tell her if I'm constantly buying her expencive items?
2007-02-25 07:16:19 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Sell it on ebay, I did the same thing, my daughter got a lot of stuff she decided she didnt' want for christmas and I sold it on ebay!.
2007-02-25 08:56:54 · answer #1 · answered by JBWPLGCSE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UHH yeah thats too much i mean if she is only going to use stuff a few times then why buy something so expensive i mean i go shop at kohls and places like that and have fine clothes that look nice while clothes that are expensive are a waste i mean 75 on a purse i hope it was huge come on when was the last time you spent 75 on a purse, buy stuff more practical using the excuse well it was just this once or she is an angel and not a demon child so she deserves it is crap. I say she needs to pay for it if she thinks money is free and grows on trees then she needs a lesson and if you dont its only going to get worse as she ages and you arent always going to bail her out so let her know now that this was a one time thing and if she wants to drop 400 in a day she has to pay i mean thats how much out of your check well i can tell you for an average teen if they make 8 an hour than work 30hrs a week after taxes extra it will take her two checks to pay it off while most teens only make around 7 an hour and work 20-25 hrs a week so it may be 3 or more checks for her to pay it let her know its not the not wanting to buy stuff but the fact that a party is not a reason to buy a new purse or you dont have to have clothes from a certain store to look nice and fit in just tell her that along with the money reality and hopefully she undrstands or else take it back or make her 'buy' it from you its your money you bought it so its yours until she works it off to buy it back chances are if you pay her to work then she would rather have money then the clothes most teens like having the money over possesions they can buy stuff
2007-02-25 15:30:22 · answer #2 · answered by sexy b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were with her yesterday and let her spend that amount of money so I don't think it would be fair to ask her now to pay for some of it or return it since you initially ok'ed the transactions. You might just talk to her and tell her that yesterday was a special outing but that you won't always be able to purchase so many things.
Next time you go you might think up an amount you're willing to spend beforehand and tell her before you get there. Tell her she has $100 (or whatever amount you choose) to spend in the whole mall on whatever she wants (or what she needs at the time).
It will help her learn how to budget. If she needs school clothes then she'll have to stretch that $100 just for that and make careful choices about what to keep and what to leave behind. If she doesn't then she won't have many clothes for school.
2007-02-25 15:29:16 · answer #3 · answered by fluffomatic24 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow~ Why would a 14 year old need a Coach purse????
I like to spoil my kids, but if they want something outrageously expensive (and if she can get something just as nice, or even better looking for less, the cost is outrageous), they have to pay for it themselves.
I have easily spent $395 on my kids in one day, when we were shopping for new outfits because they grew or it was change of seasons, but we tried to be sensible.
She should be getting an allowance, given a limit of how much you will spend on her, then let her make up the difference with her own money. I say all this because you seem to be second guessing your decisions, which means you probably don't think it's ok in your own mind. Otherwise, it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks. :)
2007-02-25 16:48:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, thats not really too bad. Every girl needs a bit of a break once in a while, plus considering she got a present for a friend thats not really part of the total.
Live and learn, try not to give in all the time. Mabey giving her a monthly amount will help. Each month give her $150 and after she spends that noo more cash! whether she can rollover the money is up to you!
2007-02-25 17:11:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Lol I'm 15 and I don't think I spend that much in a month. Well I think it really depends on the parents, if she deserves it and you have the money, it's okay, but let her know that not everybody has the advantage. I mean I only ask my parents once and if they don't have money I don't ask them again, I am a pretty good kid but when there's no money, there's no money and I know some things aren't worth that much money, for example that purse. I seriously think you spent alot though. You can try taking her to other places that have good clothes for cheaper prices. She shouldn't just go to places that are 'in'.
hmm wanna take me shopping?? =) lol jk.
2007-02-25 15:26:57 · answer #6 · answered by Kunggpao 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
YES YOU ARE SPOILING HER!!!! That is a lot of money. If that was her Christmas or birthday present and you have the money than okay. Just because i don't think so. I mean if she needs something that is one thing or even every now and then a new purse or something just because. If you spoil her too much now she will have a hard time knowing the value of a dollar.
2007-02-25 17:12:45 · answer #7 · answered by babygirl68132 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, offense but you need to teach her how to live in the real world. There will come a day, when you will no longer be paying her way, and that day is fast approaching. I would start by explaining to her that she needs to learn how to budget money. Put her on an allowance. If she wants something beyond that she needs to earn the money on her own.
2007-02-25 16:21:14 · answer #8 · answered by Aumatra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well stop it now...it only gets worse as she gets older.
If she wants something make her work around the house to get it.
Now my kids,3, are all grown, but when they want me to give them some money, they will come over and clean the house for me.
When my daughters husband went back to school he had to quit his job, she ask me if he came over each week and kept the yard nice could i give him 100.00, that is how much more they needed to make it on her check...so i told her yes.
She has to learn you have to pay for what you get, nothing in live is free. If she has to pay for it she will take better care of it.
2007-02-25 16:54:23 · answer #9 · answered by jeeccentricx2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her an allowance. She can earn it with chores around the house. She will appreciate the money that way. When she has to spend her hard earned money on things, she will hold on to it a little longer and appreciate it much more.
I watched my sons hold on to money when they earned it, however, if I took them shopping they would throw caution to the wind with my money. It was an amazing learning experience for us all.
2007-02-25 15:59:14 · answer #10 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋