A woman at work is angry at me just because i dated a guy she is now living with. This guy basically lied and strung me along and we are all co-workers. I havent spoken to her and i've just got on with my work. Now she is causing trouble saying i've been harassing her when i havent,i dont know why she is mad at me when i havent done anything wrong. I was moving on and just wanted to forget it. Now they want to move me just because she is at a higher position then me at work. I like working there and dont see why i should leave because then it's like she's won. Or should i go for a fresh start?
2007-02-25 07:05:02 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi, Why should you go because she is jealous of you. I would have a word with your personell manager (that's if she isn't your personell manager) or a manager higher than her. Explain your situation, your co-workers should be able to tell the manager you certainly havent been harassing her at work. Is there not another department you could move to if the situation becomes unbearable for you. If she cant handle the situation then she should be ashamed of herself, things happen in life and people move on and she should be adult enough to understand this. Good Luck to you in whatever you decide, chin up and carry on regardless dont let her get you down. by the way he should be ashamed of himself for not trying to stop her.
2007-02-25 07:30:32 · answer #1 · answered by kevina p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go for a fresh start. Do it for yourself and for noone else. Reverse whole situation like you want to move yourself to confuse the f our of her.
On other hand the reason why she is acting this way is because she insecure and she is afraid that her current man (your ex, and she probably knows that ex are one step closer to always go back to their ex's) so she is being defensive and worried about any possibilities for you two to get back or wanting to get back together. Trust me that is exactly how it sounds from what you are saying. Or maybe he talk about you to her and he got pissy that he may still like you that is why she trying to get you in trouble and have you moved to another office or section.
But hey have fun at new place because you need to get away from that vicious person. Just make sure you walk out of that door shining and looking very good ready for a new and better man then the one you had and she currently stuck with. Good luck!
2007-02-25 07:14:01 · answer #2 · answered by BK thang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told your bosses the full story?
A lot of times, when they know the full underlying story behind the issues, they'll be a little more lenient towards you, and a little LESS inclined to move one of you. But make sure you emphasize that one sentence you said yourself...
"I was moving on and just wanted to forget it."
2007-02-25 07:09:28 · answer #3 · answered by ltygress 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File a written complaint w/your EEO people... it's bullshit and childish and has NO place in the work place... the fact that you are being moved because she is senior is exactly the kind of thing EEO is designed to protect...if she is so damn uncomfortable and insecure, then she is the one who should move NOT you... good luck!
2007-02-25 07:09:39 · answer #4 · answered by i_love_my_mp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't you dare leave your job that you like. is there anyone that you can speak to at work. she is the one harassing you. tell her that jealousy gets you know where and she is welcome to your sloppy seconds. ha ha seriously though you shouldn't be bullied by her because of your past and you should report her go see your union and tell them what has been going on you don't have to put up with that. but don't leave be strong and good luck. x
2007-02-25 07:16:45 · answer #5 · answered by lou. c. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as though they have the problem not you. Be open with her. Ask her what the real problem is and talk to her. It sounds hard, but you both are adults and should be able to work it out.
2007-02-25 08:06:28 · answer #6 · answered by beebee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They can't make you move, you can take them for thousands if they force you to change jobs because someone else is insecure. If she has a problem, she can move. If you are doing your job well, they cannot do anything to you.
2007-02-25 10:26:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God dont you let people like her push u round garl!!1 if you like dat place nd you aint done nufin rong den stay der ( and realy annoy her) mwahahahhahah!lol
xxx
2007-02-25 07:12:26 · answer #8 · answered by zahra A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there someone above her that you can discuss the situation with? You do not need to have details, just that there are personal conflicts that she is instigating and you do not want to suffer.
2007-02-25 07:08:31 · answer #9 · answered by BetsyLauren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like your job then u shouldnt go.maybe have a word with the guy on the side and ask him would he do something to persuade your one to stop being such a B..CH.
2007-02-25 07:15:11 · answer #10 · answered by gavriel g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋