I had done something over the new years holiday, that i regret, almost cheated, talked about it with the person, but then I didnt, because I didnt want to hurt my BF..well now that person, went and contacted my BF, after two months of no word to me, and told my BF that i planned on cheating on him, but didnt cause there was no were to. I havent heard from my BF since friday night. Longest ive gone in months w/out talking to him. HIs brother, is trying to talk to him, and has talked to me a lil bit...but today is 11 months for me and my BF, and i dont know what to do, we thought of ea. other soulmates, and i'm about to break inside, i think i have already, and i just dont know what to do...I'm scared that I'm going to loose him.
2007-02-25 07:04:58 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just received a message from him...it left me crying, but its the first time for me to hear from him since friday night. "Hey babe its 11 months and they have been great. i know you want to talk but i just cant dont want to right now. i know that seems cold but what i need. Hope your going to church today sounds like it would help. Love [[his name]]"
so this is good news right?? good that he at least wrote? i'm so scared...
2007-02-25 07:22:51 · update #1
BTW when i had done that over new years, it did make me realize just how much i loved him, and how much i wanted to be with him.
2007-02-25 07:36:42 · update #2
make the effort to go to his house...catch up with him some how ...right him a letter and send it through his brother....BUT if the brother is around your age or older then him ...then don't talk to him through his brother much...because then it's going to make him more mad that your talking to his brother instead of making a harder effort to talk to him! You tried to cheat on him so now he wants to know how bad you want to be with him....he's testing you while grieving! A guy HATES to be second best....I did the same thing in the beginning of my serious relationship....it happened the exact same way. My man hung up the phone on me....a little while later I called him back and explained to him that I did it out of pier pressure and that I wasn't thinking...and that I had been confused on what I really wanted....and that I had felt like it had happened for a reason because it made me really realize that I wanted him and no one else! and If it hadn't had happened that I would have never known or found out how much I really loved him and cared about him, and ONLY wanted him.
Do you feel like almost cheating on him made you realize that you love him and don't want anyone else...if so then you guys should be somewhat glad that it happened and you should move forward in hopes of being closer...it will make a stronger relationship to be able to get past this...and know that it happened for the best!
Tell him that at least you came back to HIM and If you hadn't have then it wouldn't have mattered anyway... because then you all wouldn't have been back together in the first place.
He obviously cares about you otherwise it wouldn't have hurt him like it has!!
2007-02-25 07:23:46 · answer #1 · answered by RachelLeAnn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didnt do anything wrong so that is a start but it did hurt him knowing that you were considering it. I would contact him and sit down and have an honest open conversation with him. Explain your side and liste to what he has to say. Dont get mad at him for being honest with you. Talk out what might be going wrong with the realationship that made you even think about cheating. Work on it. Hopefully he will give you another chance.
Good luck.
2007-02-25 15:13:25 · answer #2 · answered by moo shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your boyfriend is very upset right now. i think he should have come to you first for a confirmation cause you cant always trust hearsay. but you verified it in your own question that you almost cheated so he is right for being upset. however i dont think you have too much to worry about. you have his brother talking to him and you should continue to try. you definetly need to come clean once he is ready to talk again and apologize if you mean it. i just think you guy need some time to evaluate the whole situation. i think that he will come around. but if he doesnt...........you really cant be mad about it. give him some time to get himself together and i think you have another chance coming. dont ruin it this time.
2007-02-25 15:22:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to wait for him to come around. What you did, even talking about cheating with someone, is extremely hurtful. Even though you did not do the act, you still had the thoughts in your mind.
He might be too hurt to ever come back, but give him time and be gentle - he might come around.
2007-02-25 15:10:00 · answer #4 · answered by Susan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry i think your in deep trouble
2007-02-25 15:09:35 · answer #5 · answered by Just Selinaa. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋