My family is thinking about becoming a foster family. i am 13 and i have a brother, who is 15, and a sister, who is 12. I think it would be SOO much fun and so cool to have a foster brother/sister. But i would have no idea how to treat them. i know it sounds REALLY stupid but i would kinda feal guilty. very guilty. . .well i need to know EVERTHING about foster families and foster children. if you have been a foster child, please let me know of your experiences. is it easier if the family just treats you like, i dunno, (in my case) another brother/sister? please, ANYTHING you know about foster families/children. thanks!
(p.s my brother and sister are worried, should i be too??)
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2007-02-25 06:59:30 · 6 answers · asked by Chelle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I was in 4 foster homes in 4 years. They all treated me like one of their own. I felt weird going to a couple of them. Best to make them as comfortable as you can. They are in a new environment. They may have issues to deal with as well. No worries. Just be yourself, and make it a friendly environment..for the new arrival, include the foster kid. It is an adjustment for all. Not just your parents and your family, it involves alot of people, especially if you have extended families as well.
Treat the child, like your own brother or sister. that is really important. Like I said they may have issues to deal with, they may feel isolated, or they may feel right at home. In my last foster home I was 14 and stayed with them for 5 years. They were the best...we still keep in touch too.
My first foster home: they are under investigation for child abuse. The police asked me to come to the station when I was 25 and they started asking questions about one foster family I was with, I knew right away which one it was. I am not going to go into details about it, especially on here. That is all I am going to say about it. I don't know about the other 2 too much, I didn't stay there for long.
It was a strange transition for me, but I got used to it. I don't know where you are from though. I don't know if you are in Canada or the US. or elsewhere in this world. I am in Canada.
You can google it 'foster homes for children'
here is a State one. http://www.dhfs.state.wi.us/children/foster/
here is a Canadian one.http://www.child.gov.ab.ca/whatwedo/fostercare/page.cfm?pg=index
hope this helps you. Good luck...
2007-02-25 07:34:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents had foster children before I was born, and one when it was just my mom, and when they got out of the system they still kept in touch with us. When you do something like that, you want the person to feel as comfortable in your home as possible, don't talk about how they are foster children unless they come up with the subject first. Just treat them like they are your normal everyday brother/sister. Don't be worried, chances are nothing bad will happen unless you make them feel extremely uncomfortable, and that is very rare. They are normally just thankful to be with a family that they feel loves and cares about them.
2007-02-25 07:05:20 · answer #2 · answered by Tyler C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello, I was a foster kid for over 17 years. And the only thing I'd wish my foster parents and family would have done was to accept me for who I was. Instead of classifing me as a foster kid. It wasn't easy for me. And it won't be for the kids who come into your house. Just treat them as if they've been there your whole life. Your familly will have tough times with the kids but in the end think of it as your helping someone who needs that family love and support that they weren't getting at home. If you and your family have more questions for me feel free to ask. I'm more than willing to help.
2007-02-25 07:13:49 · answer #3 · answered by christina j 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
just treat them like another brother or sister...they might be kinda shy at first but after a while they will get used 2 being with you and will be kinda glad that you treat them like family....if you were a foster child would you rather have your foster family treat you like a complete stranger or like a member of the family??
2007-02-25 07:31:14 · answer #4 · answered by the idiot down the road 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a former foster parent..just treat them as a blood sibling!
They just need to be accepted. Share your things and remember how sad they might be..being taken from their parents!
The way you are so concerned tells me that you'll be a great foster sister!
2007-02-25 08:04:13 · answer #5 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When he or she comes to live with you, talk with him/her. get to know 'em. If he or she is near your age, introduce him/her to your friends, and invite him or her to go places with you. Kind of like meeting a cousin for first time, or going to camp for a week and meeting new friends. If they are young(4 or so) remember to be patient with them. When you learn more about who your parents will be fostering, maybe make a welcome box/basket type of thing. Put a couple of games, some music he/she might like, a couple of books, a notebook/journal.
Hope all works out!
2007-02-25 07:12:50 · answer #6 · answered by asimpledork 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋