Is it wrong i don't feel as sad as i should??

Question

my grandpa deid 2 days a go. i didn't get to grandpa alot but anyways is it wrong i don't feel as sad as i should for grandpa ???

Answer 1

Everyone grieves in there own ways!

Answer 2

I will probably get alot of negative feed back for saying this, but it is not your fault that you do not have close feelings for your grandfather. In my family we have very similar problems. The parents are the ones who stay away therefore the grandchildren don't get to know their grandparents. To me it is really sad because the children grow up with a perceived notion of what the grandparents are all about from the parents point of view, and there are always two sides to every story. A good lesson to learn here is that no matter what is going on with the adults a child should not be influenced by the pitcure as a whole.

Answer 3

My grandpa died 9 years ago, he was the last grandparent to live. I was more shocked than sad, maybe because I didn't know him too well.

I was more sad when my best friend committed suicide around Christmas 2004. I went to her funeral, and bawled my eyes out.

I didn't go to my Grandpa's funeral, he was too far away, and I think only my mom went instead of my dad and other 2 sisters to Ontario for the funeral.

Answer 4

I had a tight relationship with my granddad ( I once told him shortly before he died that he was the backbone of our family. He passed away 10 years ago and I still find myself thinking of him as some kind of guardian angel. No it's not wrong that you feel the way you do, life hits us all in different ways, but just know that the time that we have with those in our families in a world that is constantly changing is one of if not the most important memories that we can hold onto.

Answer 5

No it's not wrong. I wasn't very sad when my grandma died. I really miss her now and wish I could ask her for advice. I'm still not crying about it though... different kinds of loss affect people in all different ways. Accept how you feel and don't try to force yourself to be one way or another.

Answer 6

If you were not very close to him, it is not unusual or wrong not to cry alot of tears. It takes time to bond with someone and to learn to love them on a deep level. If you do not spend quality time with someone, you can love in a general way because they are your relative, however, when we cry when someone passes on, it is mainly that we cry because we are going to miss that person.

Answer 7

No, everyone deals with death in their own way. When my dad died I didnt cry, I still havent and that was 14 years ago. I loved my dad but getting sad about him leaving isn't how I deal with things.

Answer 8

maybe it's because of some kind of shock. I also felt like that for my great grandma till I came to her funeral. then all the emotions came out and I was crying a lot.

Answer 9

no, its good that you aren't too affected by his death, bereavment is hard. be grateful that you aren't more upset. when people pretend to have grief for people they didn't actually know that well, it is very irritating and offensive to people who actuly are upset. just offer support to the parent who lost their dad, and show respect, theres no reason to pretend to be more upset than you are. people like you are the ones that hold funerals and such like together, and the famiy will really appreciate it.

Answer 10

Honestly ...no ..Some people deal differently with death...You may not feel it now but you may feel it a year from now...don't feel bad....just be there for the ones that are taking it hard right now....Sorry for your loss!

Answer 11

I wouldn't say it was wrong because if it's how you feel, then nothing can change your feelings. Maybe if you two had been a lot closer, you would be feeling his loss more.