do parents even remember what its like 2 be a teenager or have they completely forgotten??

Question

and if they remember what its like does that mean they understand us and some (if not all) of the things we have 2 go through??

Answer 1

Yes...we do remember. Where most perents go wrong though is TRYING to keep their kids from going through what they went through and from doing the bad things that they did. Actually, im a firm believer that thats making them want to do those things. Like everybody is saying dont have sex you can get HIV or STD's. Their using the technique to scare you away from it when in actuality, in a teenage mind, it makes you want to do it more because your parents dont want you to. So yes...we remember

Answer 2

Yes! We totally remember what it was like to be teenagers. Well, at least most of us do.

It can be hard for a teen to understand that we remember and remember it well. Look at it like this: we are the same people we were as teenagers, we just have more life experience. Experience that tells us that 'that boyfriend/girlfriend of yours is is bad news', or 'you shouldn't hang around with that crowd'. We say these things because we have seen what happens, we've had it happen to us, to our friends. That experience is what you call wisdom, and it will happen to you too.

All an 'adult' is, is a teen that has been around for awhile. I remember the day I realized that my mother wasn't an idiot. What an epiphany! She actually knew what she was talking about! I remember giving advice to my younger sister, who still thought Mom was stupid: 'Believe me, like it or not, Mom is right WAY more than she is wrong'. But guess what? She wasn't ready to hear that. Teens need to experience things for themselves, and learn from their mistakes. All a parent can do is guide (sometimes more forcefully than others), and pray for the best.

So if your folks seem like kill-joys sometimes, remember, it is usually in your best interest. Think we like being the bad guys? Think we like having you go off the deep end when you're not allowed to do something? Believe me, it would be WAY easier to let you do as you liked, and not have to listen to all the drama. But that isn't going to do anybody any good. Trust me, you'll figure it out eventually.

Ok, I'll get off my soapbox now. Wonder if my 16 year old son will read this...

Signed,

16 year old trapped in a 38 year old body

Answer 3

I think they remember, but they want what is best for their children always. They may have had a really good life, so they may try and motivate you to do something that you want to do, or they had a bad life and want your life to be better than they ever had. Depends on the parents, how they grew up, their instilled morals and ethics.

I have a 5 year old son. I don't have a teen yet, but nowadays communication is really important. I think that parents and teens should open up more, for communication.

That is just my opinion. I know in my parents Generation, there were no drugs around. My parents grew up in the 50's...they are in their 60's now. Illegal drugs were unheard of in their generation, growing up. Every generation is different, but the same in some ways as well.

I hope this helps.

Answer 4

We remember what it was like and we also remember the stupid things we did and the stupid choices we made and we don't want our children going through all of that. Yes we understand exactly what you're going through. Just because we did it doesn't mean it's OK for you to do it. If that sounds hypocritical so be it. It's called being a parent.

Answer 5

Ya know what? I'm fifty, a single parent, and I think, a good one. Sadly, yes; Most parents have forgotten what it's like to be a teen. I try very hard to remember what it was like when I was a kid, and it helps me be a cool Dad. Some parents have really forgotten because so much BS has happened to them, and worse, many are acting out in the way their own parents treated them! Doesn't make it right, but hopefully it will help you understand them better. Check out the lyrics to "Teach Your Children" by Crosby, Stills, Nash and Young.
Hang in there!

Answer 6

They do remember but what they are thinking is totally different from what you are thinking now. They remember what they did at the time & mistakes that were made. Then they try to advise you against making those same mistakes and warn you of what could happen. Many times they are correct. Listen to your parents or at least consider what they tell you. They do understand but have a hard time having empathy for you generally.

Answer 7

You know sometimes I think the exact same thing. Yeah they were teens once, but they don't remember what it's like to have those urgent teenage feelings and the innocentworries we have. They also just assume that we will go and get trashed at any opportunity we get. Plus even if they do remember, they were not teens in this day and age and certainly do not know what it is like.

Answer 8

Well it depends on the person, some ppl are lucky to remember what it was like being a teen or some other ppl are not lucky to remember their time as a teen. If they remembered what it was like as a teen than they would understand what your going through. if you have a very young parent than theres a high chance they remembered their experience as a teen and will be very helpful with you.. but each person is different.

Answer 9

Yes, parents remember most of what it's like to be a teenager, most of what they do to their children is in an effort to protect them from bad stuff that happened to them or people they know. They also know what seems important to a teenager but will not be important after you're not a teenager anymore, or worse yet, what seems important now but will make life miserable in a few years!

Of course, noone is perfect, even parents make mistakes sometimes.

Answer 10

I remember what it was like to be a teenager & it was during a wonderful era, an era we will never see again, unfortunately. Times have really changed & I wouldn't want to be a teenager now for all the tea in China. Teen years now must be very difficult. I was a teenager during a much simpler time & I'm glad I was.