My sister in law has claimed for years now that her father molested her growing up. She hasn't spoken to him since her parents divorced which was about 17 years ago now. The thing is, she is not forthcoming with any type of information and claims this is because she is afraid of what her brothers would do to their father if they found out anything, and she ran off thousands of miles away with her husband and almost refuses to ever return again. She is always playing the victim in any situation, and always pointing the finger at someone else. She claims to have been through counseling, and says she was hynotized and that's how she knows she was molested and what happened. Has anyone ever had these experiences and can tell me what signs, if any, there are when someone has actually gone through sexual molestation? Are there ways to discern if someone is telling the truth or not? She never reported it and declined to prosecute, but has never offered an explanation as to why.
2007-02-25 06:45:09 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have taken the position on the advice of several authorities, that my daughters will never be allowed alone with my husband's father. What I find the most intriguing about this family's supposed secrets, especially his sister's, is that she is not in agreement about my decision. But her own daughters have nothing to do with her father either. Is this weird?
2007-02-25 06:50:04 · update #1
To the first moron who answered: if you have nothing nice or helpful to say shut up. What was your point in even answering? It is in fact NOT a family issue as this directly affects my children from a different marriage and my custody of them.
2007-02-25 06:53:48 · update #2
I have a right to know, especially when this is such a serious allegation to have against someone.
2007-02-25 06:54:25 · update #3
Yes, she says she only remembers through being hypnotized, and it seems like her stories are always different depending on who she's talking to. And, why would she not agree with my decision to protect my daughters? I guess that was my biggest problem with her accusations, is that she doesn't think its right for me to not allow my children alone with him. She is always blaming everyone else for things in her life as well; this is not a sign of someone who is at least dealing with their issues, so I am just plain confused.
2007-02-25 08:10:11 · update #4
You should believe her, why would you not want to believe her? Did she say she only remembered after being hypnotized? If so,then I'd be a little weary of whether it's the truth or not. I have a friend who was molested and said she couldn't remember, but then she broke down one night and said that she did remember, but always acted like she didn't just so she wouldn't have to think about it or deal with it. My point is there could be a lot of different reactions to being molested. Some people never, ever get over it, some people get over it in a certain sense, but never forget.
And if other members of the family keeps their children away from him, too, I'd say there is something to it. And also, molesters often pick just one person out of the family to molest. So, just because no one else was targeted (if they weren't) doesn't mean it never happened to her.
Me personally, she sounds like a classic molestation victim. She seems flaky, has moved far away, continues to have behavioral and emotional problems. Also, most people who were molested never report it.
2007-02-25 07:56:40 · answer #1 · answered by that dead girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not ask her brothers about something that she may have claimed happened. For example, if she says her dad didn't let her go to Disney world but let her brothers, find out if she did go to Disney world. Also, why wouldn't you tell her brothers? As far as I'm concerned, justice should prevail and her father should be punished for his crime. Also, your in law may be lying just to get attention. I mean, who would proclaim that sort of thing. Find out WHO her therapist is.
2007-02-25 10:42:34 · answer #2 · answered by sunflowerdaisy94 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am thinking you should take all of this with 44 or 38 grains of salt. She can only remember after being hypnotized? That's preposterous.
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2007-02-25 12:48:48 · answer #3 · answered by ivorylouise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have. She can be withdrawn, think it's her fault and that she deserved it, think she's dirty. If she has any of these symptons than she may have been. You should listen to her though it's too late to press charges against him.
2007-02-25 07:25:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say she is telling the truth. I dont know why anyone would lie about that sort of thing, it is just sick.
2007-02-25 07:01:02 · answer #5 · answered by Tyler C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ya Da, Ya Da, Ya Da... There are some (long winded) questions that should not be asked in this forum... This is completely a private, personal family problem... Why don't you keep it in the family?
2007-02-25 06:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋