Why do woman like playing mind games with the good guys and do good guys always finish last or are there some good woman out there that would take care of a good guy?
2007-02-25 06:40:37 · 12 answers · asked by Blake B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, first off, why would you want A GIRL to take care of YOU? You need a new mom?
To answer your question: A lot of "nice guys" are just nice in the beginning, to get in her pants. Then who knows what Jacka$$es they turn into? So girls kinda HAVE to play mind games with them, to reveal the true pervert hiding behind that mask and not get into serious trouble later.
Of course not all nice guys are like this, which I think is your case too.
I think you actually need to become a real man who can take care of himself first, then find a girl for yourself, to enrich your already rich life, not to complete some missing part of you and give you a hug.
Good luck in your search!
2007-02-25 06:53:02 · answer #1 · answered by andrei . c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a woman i can tell you that our thinking is flawed. we want o be loved and adored yet we gravitate to the bad boys. as if we dont have enough problems we search for the drama bringers.
the ones who make us second guess ourselves and treat us like dirt, while trying to convince ourselves that he loves us. and that she is just a friend. this is because we want the spontaneousness and we thrive on the chaos.
but at the end of the day we throw 'em out and regret wasting so much time on them. and ask why didnt we just date the good guy from the start. why did we think that he was too tame and boring. that he couldnt do much.
but he's the one we marry in the end, or well i married. and i regret wasting my time with all those fools and all those years of abuse i put up with.
dont worry the women will come after they realize their mistake and in the middle of their failed relationships they will remember your name.
i really dont know why we do it, but you guys dont always finish last!
2007-02-25 14:50:28 · answer #2 · answered by Cher B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends. First of all, how could a good guy to prove he is a good guy? Second of all, how do you define a woman to be a good one? I do not believe that now, because I saw some guys are very nice to girls - but they are end up to be totally players and have sex with other girls behind their girlfriends. Usually, their girlfriends won't know since they are very nice and follow what gf says.They know how to please girls and say things that girls like to hear. They manipulate the relationship in order to have someone to sleep with or take care their life (meals or housework). They are afraid of making commitment.
2007-02-25 14:52:10 · answer #3 · answered by Question Girl 710 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blake, in the long run, you will do great. It takes a long time for women to appreciate a nice guy. The problem is nice guys tend to be a little over bearing and too simple.
You'll do fine, just don't let the way these girls treat you change who you are.
2007-02-25 14:44:53 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. of Situational Psychology 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting question! From my experience, the men who have accused me of playing 'mind games' are the exact same guys, who get their nickers in a twist when - early in the relationship I have told them 'I do NOT sleep around!' - then get all ticked off because I will not sleep with them!
Then, there are the guys who 'want to take the relationship to a more exclusive level' - but do NOT ask me if I feel the same way. But, who may (maybe unwittingly) alienate themselves because they do not use appropriate manners, and then become too pushy and/or start to become too controlling (including, but not limited to stalking!).
A truly 'good woman' is also going to do her best to use good and appropriate manners as well. But, how do you use good manners to tell someone that they are being a total jerk? You say very little, and try to at least salvage a friendship if you realize that a 'romance' is not going to happen.
I believe I have tried to be a 'good woman' and I am married to a 'good guy'. (He knows I'm not going to be sleeping around when he's gone for 'who-knows-how-long', for instance.)
I have also dated some 'good guys' - who also had some major 'red flags' going on - their 'intentions were good' - but also included trying to be 'control freaks' - (such as taking groceries out of _my_ shopping cart! And, mind you - I was paying for _my_ groceries with _my_ money!)
I have also seen some 'good guys' come down with what I refer to as 'poodle-itis' -- they get so controlling that their behavior seems to resemble that of a neurotic poodle! "Yip! Jump! Yip! Jump! Yip! Jump!" -- (texting over 10 messages to your phone in an hour or less, and also calling your phone every few mintues, needing you to 'report in' every couple of hours, needing to know who you are with, when you are with them, what you are doing, where are you going, how long are you going to be? -- they are _not_ your Momma! Especially if you are over 35 years old -- you do NOT need this!!!)
Sorry - although the 'poodle-itis' may be intended as showing 'concern and interest' - it generally results in a totally stressed out 'good girl' - who will then try to run for cover! And, of course, this 'good guy' is wondering _why_ he is heading to the rear of the pack - and then increases the 'poodle power!' - which only further moves him to the last place position!
A 'good guy' CAN finish first - provided that he remembers to act like a gentleman - (at all times), and does not make the 'good girl' feel like she is going to be taken as a hostage, prisoner - or driven out of her ever-loving mind!
2007-02-25 15:28:19 · answer #5 · answered by sogerd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh Blake keep being a good guy, and I promise you, you'll find the girl of your dreams. And there are plenty of girls that care of a good guy.
2007-02-25 14:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by sims 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all women want are good guys. someone who will respect them and surprise them with flowers. not someone who just wants to get in bed with them. we only want someone who respects and is honest to us. im sure you'll find someone soon.
PS. good guys finish 1st and the losers finish last
2007-02-25 14:46:10 · answer #7 · answered by lisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we r just scared of good guys bcuz we r so used to thinkng that guys are scum and the idea of actually settling down with a good guy makes us feel old. and when we are younger we just want to have fun and not settle down.but as when we get older when all of the good guys start to get harder to find we kik ourselves for not getting that guy....
2007-02-25 14:46:36 · answer #8 · answered by dancing dani<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some girls do it to be mean but i don't do that because good guys are sweet
2007-02-25 14:45:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate guys who play games, i realy like this guy but hes full of that c.rap, and its putting me off him.
2007-02-25 14:47:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋