Do you really believe the saying it's the parents fault if the kids don't turn out right, or not?

Question

For example if one of the parents is drunk and in bed all the time and the other one does what he wants this is not good right? but the parents come back and say the child made all the wrong decisions and it's YOUR fault how you turned out.

The parents were also abusive, letting the child be molested and blaming the child for being molested saying you went where you wern't supposed to, so it's your fault.

Answer 1

It's the parents Biblical obligation to raise a child right. Even if a child strays from what is right, the Bible makes a promise that if a parent raises a child in the way of the Word, they will always come back to what they know is right.

I believe this. My sister and I both were raised in a Christian home by my parents. We both screwed up more than a little. Looked hopeless from my parents point. But God brought both of us to our knees and back to what we knew.

I believe your parents make all the difference. Raising a child in church, teaching them, praying for them. That's what it's about. If the parents don't, no one else is.

Answer 2

Some children never stand a chance because they have worthless parents,

But most parents try, and try to give the child morals, and standards to live by. However no matter how good of a job the parents do, there are always outside forces that can make a child go and do bad things.

Lets say , a child is a good kid, He is responsible, and has great manors. He goes to a school homecoming dance, and one of his so called friends put meth in his coke to be "funny"

Knowing that meth can get a tight grip on you after the first use....... It could change his life forever. Things would start going down the drain for this kid. The parents would not know why. If this happens in college they might not even know for years.

So i do not agree that its always the parents fault. Sometimes it might be but i think that's a pretty low %

Answer 3

Yes and no. It is the parent's responsibility to guide the child/children properly so that they will learn the proper morals, values, and decision making skills that are required when they reach adulthood and many times, before that point.

Peers, other adult influences (such as teachers, pastors, or babysitters, etc), television, books, and society in general have at least as large an influence on the child as the parents themselves. This depends greatly on how much time is spent with these other influences.

The good news is that whatever this child is going through or has gone through can be overcome as an adult (though it is more difficult to change) if, and only if, the child wants to change.

The sooner the child can be introduced to a proper learning environment, the better the outlook for the parents; but in its finality, parents bear only a portion of the "fault" of a child's raising.

Answer 4

I believe that the parents are the biggest influence on their children as the children are growing up - but the child does eventually reach an age where they can see that they are on a wrong path and are capable of making decisions that will better their life rather than just stay in a bad place blaming their parents. It is sad when parents don't do a good job raising their children - it's even sadder when the children use this as an excuse to continue in self destructive behavior. If you recognize that your parents did not do a good job raising you and you have a desire to better your life but are finding that you don't have the resources, don't know how, or simply aren't able - then you should seek professional help. Your parents may have ruined your childhood - but you don't have to let them ruin the rest of your life.

Answer 5

Wow, this is a VERY complicated question! It is a lot more complicated than it sounds, even.

I think sometimes yes and sometimes no. Many times, adult children are merely responding to familial patterns, and they don't know any other way. However, that being said, I still believe that when you are an adult, you choose how to respond to your parents. If that is to become an abuser just like they were, then that is your responsibility because you also have the choice to learn how to break those patterns. You also choose whether or not to be bitter about things that happened in your family, rebel, or just do things differenty--better, worse, or neither.

mostly, I think it is situational, but I do not tend to place much blame on parents for children's negative decisions, even if I can see exactly why they did that based on how their parents raised them.

Answer 6

i've got confidence it is the mum and dad fault, they could video exhibit extra what there teenagers watched. additionally they're procedures to dam particular courses or maybe channels. So i don't see the Media because of the fact the subject concerns. question why do maximum mum and dad take a seat there toddlers in front of the television and permit it to act as a Babysitter.? the television isn't a babysitter. not all shows are undesirable and violent there are academic show and channels. including discovery, Animal Planet, comic strip community(person Swim). courses even have rankings and air disclaimers in the previous they arrive on saying that this show isn't proper for childes under this age. same subject with video games, they are saying video games will reason human beings to do violent issues. look into what at the instant happened in Canada. The few who're result by skill of what they watch are in basic terms some. Its like a million in each and every 10, will do something stupid and ruing it for different (did not quote my stats) anybody else. the known public of toddlers who watch violent show, are completely time-honored or prove completely time-honored. mum and dad Watch what your toddlers Watch.

Answer 7

Depends on how there parents were and what the kid turned out to be.
Examples
If the child is an abuser and the parents are in any kind of abuse YES it is the parents fault.
If the child is a criminal in general and the parents have criminal history that the child is aware of YES the parents are at fault.

Kids grow up seeing and what they see no matter what you say is what they concept into thinking is ok ....
Your example , actions , words , they are what makes a child ....

Answer 8

To a certain extent, yes, I will have to say that parenting has changed quite a bit in my lifetime, I was a child in the years, 1954, to 1964, parents were much more strict then, and even though we did`nt have to worry so much about abductors, child rapists, murderers, things of that nature, parents could usually tell you where their kids were, in to days world, kids are given way too much, and they don`t usually have to earn it, also parents dont care where the kids are and what they are doing, as long as they don`t get busted doing something wrong. The other side of the coin, I was sent to church every sunday, so I pretty much knew the preachers kids, he was a very strict father, nothing was tolorated, everything was dealt with by force, those kids were forced to behave, drilled into them about right and wrong, most preachers and other clergy are like that,if you know/knew anyone like them, you would see that what people say is true, the worst kids turn out to be from religious family's. My belief is, teach them what they need to know to recognize good from bad,don't force any or your beliefs onto them. Love them, and give them your word, they can bring ANY problem to you and together you can fix it. If kids really believe this, the chances of them turning out good are excellent.

Answer 9

I think partially. Some kids are just messed up. Not always something a parent can do about it. Obviously neglect and or abuse on the part of the parents would make it their fault, but i have seen kids from good homes with caring attentive parents go wild weird or strange so answer is sometimes, sometimes no, depends on circumstances.....Lets

new mom of baby girl may have a rude awaking instore if she thinks she has complete control of how her new born will turn out...

Answer 10

my parents were great. strong catholics, gave me all the right attention, along with teaching me the right morals and wrong from right. however i have had some moments and decisions in my life that i regret. so i do agree to an extent. however, when your child reaches a certain age there is only so much you can do. i was going to do what i wanted, no matter what. my mom always says i'm the ''instant gradification child'' lol which means i just do what i want without thinking of what is going to happen after, just what feels right at the time. my parents are great, and would never blame them for any of my wrong choices. i just wanted to rebel agains them. which a lot of teenagers do. so i went agains what they taught me. i think it has to do with what you surround yourself with as well the older you get. when the child is younger, yes i think it has to do with parenting (such as pre-teen to early teens). but the older they get, the less it is the parents fault. i think its kind of a cop out as you get older. your parents can try as hard as they want, but in the end the older you get, the more it is up to you.