it seems like i cant find anyone these days, ive been up to a few girls, go ttheir attention held a decent convo, but it all fizzle out and they go their way. im a caring person (20 yrs old) but i dont have a car and my mom works at my junior college, so i get dropped off by her, could this be a reason, i mean i try and try and try to be with someone and then when i feel i cant do it anymore, i keep trying, beacuse i dont want to nor do i like being alone. im a little bit shy, but when i try to force myself out of my shell more often i seem to get more and more fustrated with the results, and people always tell me wait and you'll find a girlfreind. but what happends when u pray and pray and hope and hope and keep trying and nonething seems to be happening. is it beacuse i dont have a car, is it im trying to hard or not enought i mean why do i have to be alone. should i lower my standards? all i want is loyalty looks dont matter much. are my standards to high? whats going on here?
2007-02-25 06:32:09 · 6 answers · asked by themanthemanfrozen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What is going on here is these girls you try and try and try to be with can smell the desperation on you.
It's not attractive. You need to take it down a notch or two. Take it slow and easy. You are 20 years old. Where are your buds? You know, your friends? Don't you have a group of guys and gals your own age that you can hang out with?
If not, then you need to find a group to belong to because that can make all the difference for you.
Also, I did not get the sense that your standards are too high, more likely your standards are too low.........you probably need to examine how you feel about yourself. If you are insecure about yourself, that could be translating into negativity.
People that are desparate and negative are hard to be around. Try to turn yourself around to a positive happy guy, that attracts alot more girls/women than what you are trying right now.
Good luck sweetheart!
2007-02-25 06:44:00 · answer #1 · answered by Pixie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completly understand you people sometimes don't know or accept what shy people are going through. And when they try to they make you even more frustrated. But what you should do is be yourself, and i know that sound stupid and meaningless, but it's the only thing to do. You could learn how to drive and drive, but than you be wasting your money on something that is practically not worth it, if your mom can drive you. Second, don't think about it too much because than you'll become desperate and i asure you looking for anything is not the answer. Because than you'll end with a girlfriend who doesn't make you happy. And like they say love will come to you, when it has to, but if you keep thinking about it, it will never come. And you sure don't want that to happen, so get into a sport or music, and distract yourself.
2007-02-25 14:40:50 · answer #2 · answered by sims 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to add HONESTY to that list of yours. If you have loyalty AND honesty, you can basically live with anyone. I'm in the same boat my friend, but try being 33. People start to think all kinds of things about you...(are you gay, for example). Anyway, one thing that I have found out is that girls/women are interested in someone who is 'going somewhere'. Tell them your plans, and let them know what you hope to be doing in the future. Focusing on the things you like to do should help your confidence...they like that too. By the way, SHY isn't bad. It means that you aren't overconfident and obnoxious.
Oh, and don't lower your standards...you sound like a nice guy. You deserve someone equally as nice. Good luck.
2007-02-25 15:04:58 · answer #3 · answered by ThatguyPete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your doing great to me! You've got to try or you won't get anywhere. Try being more persistant with the same girl--if she pulls away, and you think you've come on 'too strong', then apoligize the next time you see her and try to do better. If you honestly believe she a good match, then stick with it. Girls that age are reluctant to give a guy a inch too quickly because the guy will think he can have a mile.
Don't worry about the Mom thing--in fact, you should give her a hug when you part with her (if you've got the guts). If one of your girls sees you/finds out, then you can tell her that you love women---I believe however much she like's you, she'll like you a lot more. Your in college, she'll know you'll be on your own soon.
2007-02-25 14:43:12 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u sound like a sweet dude... the whole car ordeal might be 5% of the problem, but maybe u should try working on standing out from the rest of the crowd... in a good way.... and let your personality shine through a bit more... maybe you could throw a party and invite someone u like and get to know each other, your standards r definetly not to high... just try and let loose a little bit
2007-02-25 14:43:03 · answer #5 · answered by kay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think ur tryin a little to hard, relax, u will find someone. And if all u want is loyalty then ur standards are awesome.
if u or any of ur friends need any dating advice or just need someone to talk to my email address is darklife_of_love@yahoo.com
2007-02-25 14:39:22 · answer #6 · answered by darkness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋