I'm thinking of drinking again?

Question

I've been sober for 1 year tomorrow but i've just met this girl.I haven't told her about my drinking problem and i'm taking her out soon....now i dont want to have to explain why i'm not drinking and i would love to have a couple so we can both relax and have a good night....do you think it's possible to use my new found willpower(giving it up for a year) and be able to drink responsibly...i had to go into rehab 1 year ago after years of alcoholism

Answer 1

First of all, congrats for getting to your 1 yr mark. I am also an addict who at the moment is struggling to stay clean. Even though i don't drink, i think drugs are the same, it's all an addiction. Don't pick up that first drink, you may think you can control it but soon enough it will start controlling you again. It's an illness, the only way to stay clean or sober is not to have that first one. If this girl likes you she'll understand why you can't drink and want to be with you anyway, and if she doesn't, then is she really worth thinking of having a drink for and leaving this last year of hard work for nothing. Good luck!

Answer 2

Just because a pretty face comes along, it doesn't mean you have to give up all you've worked for. I mean face it, you have worked really really hard and its not worth it to screw it all up for anyone. If you had to go to rehab and everything, you are not able to pick up drinking again and be responsible about it. That is how it will start. And before you know it you will be right back where you started. If this girl is for real, she will understand your addiction and be supportive. But if you go out with her and she gets a drink anyways after you've told her you're sober, then she is a selfish b*&@h and she can't be trusted. Hightail it out the door asap!
Even furthermore, you should attend some AA meetings to get some support from peers who go through the same thing. If you are already going, make sure you stop by for one and bring this situation up. They will all tell you the same thing. It's not worth it. You are a better person now, and healthier too. Don't compromise yourself and the new you that you've found for someone else. You are the one who matters most right now. And I am telling you the best thing you can do is to resist that temptation. Don't let yourself be another falling off the wagon story. You are stronger than that and you can make it through this.

Answer 3

Stay sober ... or she will find out you have a drinking problem. You do not need alcohol to relax and have a good time. Call your sponsor and no it's not possible to control your drinking. If you remember this ... The man takes the drink and the drink takes the man. Alcohol Addiction is the Great Remover. Don't let it take any more!

Answer 4

Congrats on the 1 year sober! Why would you want to wreck this by having a few drinks with someone you JUST met? You shouldn't try to hide who you are. Be honest with her about the alcoholism she should respect you for your honesty. You can't rely on your new found willpower to stop you after you take that first drink.

Answer 5

There is no need to drink I have never liked drink very much so I just drink soft drinks You just tell her that you don't drink. She will understand and probably respect you for it and say someone to drive me home. If you get on well in a few weeks time tell her. If she has had problems with men in the past because of drink she will think more of you so maybe its best not to say anything about you past problem. If you do have a drink it might lead you back to where you have just come from. Go out and have a good time. Best of luck

Answer 6

Tell her before you go out and she can make sure you don't have a drink - just having 1 can send you straight back to rehab as it will turn into 2 then off your head drunk - you have been excellent so far and what a waste it will be if you fall off the wagon again - if this girl is worth it you will stay off the drink and work on a new relationship instead - good on you

Answer 7

you are an alcoholic. you will always be an alcoholic, if you've been in rehab then you know there's no "just a drink or two" for an alcoholic.

Don't throw away your health and sobriety to impress a girl. Once she finds out what you've done, she's more likely to think you a fool (and she would be right).

Talk to your sponsor or go to an AA meeting and get some support on how to get through this...or don't go on the date.

Answer 8

Congratulations for being sober for 1 year. According to AA, however, you are never cured. So taking that drink could be the first step on a long downward spiral. Just tell her you don't drink anymore and will be the designated driver.

Answer 9

Im not sure if you can,dont they say once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic.

It would be great if you could,I like going to the pub and socialising,and would miss it like mad if I couldnt,and like you say it does help you relax.

What did they tell you at the end of rehab?

Did they say never drink again?

I dont even want to say try it,in case it sends you down the slippery slope again,but I wish you luck because you have done fantastically well to give up this long.

Answer 10

Don't drink, that would be crazy, wouldn't it? I haven't had a drink for 7 years, and if I had ONE, I'd be back where I was inside 3 months, probably quicker. Why did you stop? Weren't you miserable? Wanna go back to it? Don't be a ****. As for the girl, tell her. But remember, it's just a girl, it may go somewhere, it may not. The drink, now, she's your mistress for the rest of your life. Don't ******* have a drink, man.