What motivates your 9yr old to do their chores, get their homework done, and do a good job with tasks in general? What tactics do you use? Please be specific.
2007-02-25 06:24:50 · 15 answers · asked by Erin H 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
We have a chore chart. A chore well done gets a star. A chore not done gets an X. A chore done "so-so" gets a check. Have your child talk with you after they do chores as to whether he or she did a good job and decide together which to put. At the end of the week, have something special for five or more stars. Ask your child what they would like for their prize. My son loves going to the video arcade at the mall for one hour. I also time the chores--5 minutes is typically the time it takes for emptying the dishwaser, 20 minutes for cleaning up the bedroom.
2007-02-25 10:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by wigginsray 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What motivates my kids is that our household runs on a "work before play" ethic, so they are required to have their homework done, chores done, responsibilities fulfilled before they have earned privileges such as TV time, computer, X-box, playing with friends, etc.
Sometimes the worst punishment for my 9 y/o daughter is simply being required to keep at the task until it is done, no matter how long it takes her, because she's missing out on what all of the other kids are doing.
2007-02-25 14:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by LaundryGirl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Use a sticker with the various goals to meet by bed time and reward them with a little something if they get it done, may be a sack before bed time, some kind of little game what ever a treat out of a treat box, small little dollar store something or other. Then if all week long they have stickers for every thing everyday then reward them with a bigger prize.
This works real well for my friend, and of course you want to make sure the goal is acheivable and you don't want to make it so big you may not be able to carry through with it.
Also if the homework is frustrating to the child set down and help him give him or her a little of your time. Say posotive things to them the whole time they are acheiving such goals as harmwork baths cleaning.
2007-02-25 17:27:38 · answer #3 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When my 9 year old just will not do what he is supposed to be doing, he gets a warning (just 1) then, if he still refuses to do what he's told we will take the most important thing away, HOCKEY. We tried lots of other things and the only thing that seemed to effect him was not getting to go do his very favorite thing. It not only hurts him. His team suffers without him, they don't have many kids on the team. Knowing that it hurts not only him, but his whole team, and that he will have to explain why he couldn't make it, seems to work. We have only had to do it once.
2007-02-26 06:12:22 · answer #4 · answered by Hatcher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try making a game out of the chores. Pretend you're on an adventure. Like, for an example, when you are doing the laundry, pretend that the clothes are fish, and the white fish have to be seperated from the colored fish. so, you should work together to seperated the clothes by color.
hope this helps
2007-02-25 16:34:03 · answer #5 · answered by The_Pink_One 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Split work up...for dishes, one person could do the washing, and one the drying. For rooms, one could separate the laundry, and one can put away toys. For bathrooms, one could do the toilet, and one the tub. Do you get the idea? Or give a limited T.V. time, if work is done then he/she gets extra time. Mark the days they make the bed, (example) 1 time=1 treat from checkout lane. 2=ice cream. 3=1 new stuffed animal, so on. Maybe even money will motivate them. Who knows better than a kid, ask them.
2007-02-25 14:40:24 · answer #6 · answered by 123abc 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She loves it when I praise her, so if she does something well I definitely make sure she knows I noticed. If she doesn't do something well, I ask her to redo. Also make sure you are doing a good job with everything you do because at this age they are copying mom and dad's actions. Have fun! 9 is a great age!
2007-02-25 20:39:26 · answer #7 · answered by Viking 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DEAR
TRY ALL OF THESE OK (1) RENT A MOVIE (2) BUY HER BOOKS TO READ TO HER AT NIGHT (3) TAKE HER SHOPPING YOUNG LADY'S LIKE THAT. (4) ART SUPPLIES SO SHE CAN DO ARTS IF SHE LIKES THAT (5) GET HER A BEAD SET KIT TO PUT ON HER CLOTHES LIKE ON THE TV FOR WEEKENDS (6) THEY ALSO HAVE BEAD KITS FOR JEWELRY TO BE MADE TOO (7) JUST HAVE A MOMMY AND ME TIME ASK HER WHAT SHE WOULD LIKE TO GO DO IT MIGHT SURPRISE YOU OK TAKE CARE
2007-02-26 02:36:06 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok . i have a 9 yr old brother. my mom says that everytime he does his homework AND gets 100% then she will buy him a toy or something. therefore u should cut down on the toys and ONLY get one for him or her if he or she does a good job on something. thats my advicce. good luck!
2007-02-25 14:31:43 · answer #9 · answered by Sahar 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
give allowance or make a chart ( with special cut outs or objects to mark or tacks) so when she does her chores and homework she gets to place an item on her chart and after so many awards or items on chart she gets to do anything that she wants ( with yal or by herself)
2007-02-25 14:56:31 · answer #10 · answered by rives 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋