I have asked this before but I want more poeples advise. Me and my ex just broke up like 2 weeks ago because she doesnt know if she is still in love with me but she seid she still loves me. Now me and her are trying to work this out but I dont know if she is serious about it. She has been still calling me alot. We had plans on me going down 5 hrs to she her for the weekend in like 2 weeks but now she wants me to come down in like a week. Then when we talk she tells me about how this one guy is obsessed with her but she turned him down. Then she tells me how much she misses me and how good of a guy i am. Then she seid for a couple of nigths in a row that she was dreaming about me. I dont know what this all means. Please tell me should I just give up on her or go down and keep trying to work this out?
2007-02-25 06:18:53 · 13 answers · asked by Blake B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I f you really love her then give it a shot and you won't regret doing so.But if you're not sure then leave it.
2007-02-25 06:29:54 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she brought up the "obsessed guy" in order to make you feel slightly jealous. She obviously still has feelings for you and wants to see you.
If you think she is worth the long drive, then yes, I think you should go see her and try to work through this. She seems like a nice person who is just a little confused about your relationship. Go down there, talk to her, and see what comes out of it. It's better to know what would've happened than wondering all weekend if you should have gone to see her.
2007-02-25 14:25:54 · answer #2 · answered by Sybelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your gut say? Sounds like you're getting tired of her drama, her push you-pull me attitude. She wants you to want her, but only on her terms. She's not thinking about you. She wants drama in her life, and wants you to play with her. She says she's doesn't know if she's still in love with you, but she still loves you. That makes NO sense. And telling you about another guy who's obsessed with her...what's that all about? She trying to make you jealous? And why would she do that? It's like you're her personal yo-yo, going where she directs you, pushing you away, then pulling you in. That would make me dizzy, man. It's like she wants to fool around, but wants to keep her safety net (you) close by to boost up her sagging ego. Oh yeah, that sounds so good, to be told how good a guy you are. She's buttering your bread really good, making you feel like you're the best thing in her life. And doesn't that sound nice to be in her dreams? I don't think so. If you're her dream, why airn't she making you real in her life, man? She's got the real thing, right in front of her, yet she's playing all these mind games with you. And who knows that she ain't pulling the same stuff with this other fella? I'd have a long talk with her and tell her you deserve more than what she's dishing out to you. If she can't make you her one and only, putting your needs as more important that other fellas, then you'll have to cut it off with her. You have to know if you two have a permanent future, or if she just wants to play the dating game with anyone who will play. Do you have the time or energy for all of this junk? Time for some self evaluation, my friend. Why are you allowing her to wipe her feet all over your heart? It's way past time to let her know that you're not her welcome mat anymore. You deserve someone who understands your needs and respects your feelings. <*)))><
2007-02-25 14:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by Sandylynn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that shes a little odd i mean she should know what she wants its not that hard i think if you really like her i mean go for it but i mean she can change her mind at anytime i would say make her want you even more by like not talking on the phone all the time stuff like that and go down by her in two weeks instead of one make it so she wants to see you and wants to talk to you twice as much as she does now
2007-02-25 14:24:20 · answer #4 · answered by Lia Danielle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say go down there and try to work on it...maybe she thought she was losing feelings so she just needed to get away for a lil while to try and figure things out...see how it would be without you...then she probably realized that she did love being with you and it was the wrong move...i think you should work on it
2007-02-25 14:23:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your in love with her. keep trying. seems like she would say that because she wanted a lil more freedom to flirt with other guys.. thats how i c it.. shes juss not sure if your the one for her but she is very attactched to you. give it time and go c her!
hope all works out
2007-02-25 14:23:55 · answer #6 · answered by rpm771 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like a big mess. it depends how close your past relationship was with her. but all in all i think you should just give up and break it off, she obviously doesn't know what she really wants, and if i didn't know any better it seems like she is teasing you. i think you should just forget about it, relax, and when your ready go look for someone better.
2007-02-25 14:25:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
there's no way we can know what's in her mind... go there with all the alternatives in mind, so you wouldn't get too disappointed if things don't work out.
she might be regretting her decision as she might be getting to c u to make up her mind completely... regardless if she has someone else in mind or not.
2007-02-25 14:25:15 · answer #8 · answered by Nadinette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down and ask her what's up? you should see her so she can answer your questions. she seems confused. before you end anything make sure you see her and then decide. this is not only confusing but very frustrating. good luck
2007-02-25 14:28:02 · answer #9 · answered by rencar32002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say give up.
because if it doesnt work out, you will regret all the time you wastes=d trying to work it out.
Try to get into a new relationship.
Lifes short and you only get to live it once.
2007-02-25 14:24:04 · answer #10 · answered by THAT GIRL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋