At the end of the day the spouse is the only person who you can unwind to. No one else can handle a person like thier spouse. My fiance's father is ill. And he told me that I am not the only person who makes him feel better in this situation. Talking to his uncles (his dad's brothers) makes him feel better as well. Is that wrong? Please help!
2007-02-25 06:06:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are 100% wrong. Relax. People can work out feelings in many ways and talking to friends and family is as important as with the spouse. There are things I can't talk to my wife about as she couldn't understand. You man's uncles know his father way better than you and are more deeply hurt by this illness than you. They share the same pain. So back off.
2007-02-25 06:12:04 · answer #1 · answered by Tumbling Dice 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While a spouse should be a priority in one's life, I don't know where you got the idea that a spouse or a spouse to be is the ONLY person that a person can unwind to or "handle" but it is totally false.
No one person can be "everything" to another person and sometimes we need friends, family or trained professionals to help work through problems and issues that a spouse cannot understand or empathize with.
For example, if you were having major "female" problems or say, breast cancer, do you really think your fiancee or spouse will be able to relate to you or comfort in you in the same way that another female, like your mother, friend, especially one who has been through the same problems?
2007-02-25 06:19:44 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all. If he was running into the arms of another woman for comfort that would be one thing. How can you act jealous of his uncles. Girls depress me a lot and I always turn to my friends to cheer me up. I don;t a committed relationship, but I will always turn to them. Nothing wrong with that at all. Especially since your fiance is extremely vulnerable right now because of the situation with his father. He really needs you to be there for him and he needs your trust now more than ever.
2007-02-25 06:12:20 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. of Situational Psychology 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 11:25:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it can't be wrong if that's how your fiance feels. I don't know why he told you that you aren't the only one who he can unwind around, but since he did, accept it & continue to be there for him, during this most difficult time.
2007-02-25 06:13:56 · answer #5 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No its not wrong! If there was only one person in the world who could make us feel better about things we would all be depressed!!!
2007-02-25 06:09:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, no worried girlie, i know how you feel. I know u wanna be the one who makes everything better, especially cuz he's ur fiance and all. But at times like this he also needs his family you know. His uncle's are his dad's brothers so they act like him and look like him and thats probably why he wants to console to them. I know exactly how you feel cuz you get sad when you cant make everything better for your fiance. Im still working on that with my fiance. Guys need their space you knwo and i dunno about you but i have an addictive personality so i wnna be glued to my fiance all the time and i ant him to tell me everythign but guys arent like us, they need space. So if he needs space and wants to console in someone else, as much as it hurts its ok :). email me if you need anything :)
2007-02-25 06:15:30 · answer #7 · answered by ***Nicole*** 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO, THERES NOTHING WRONG WITH HANGING OUT WITH YOUR UNCLE OR FRIEND !!!!!!! BUT IF HE SPENDS TOO MUCH TIME NOW THATS
A PROBLEM BECAUSE SOMETIMES MEN GET SO CAUGHT UP WITH THINGS THEY FORGET ABOUT THE PEOPLE AROUND THEM...... BUT HE IS AND IM SURE HE WILL STOP AT SOME POINT IN TIME AND SPEND MORE TIME WITH YOYU THAN ANY ONE ELSE!!!!!!!!!!!
P.S GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-25 06:19:34 · answer #8 · answered by kristy d 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would that be wrong? It would only be wrong if another female unrelated to him made him feel better. Be glad you have a man that is close to his family.
2007-02-25 06:09:09 · answer #9 · answered by Your Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It;s simple.....You have a calming and reassuring affect on him. You are obviously meeting his emotional needs and that is hard to find. Just keep being there for him and your love will do nothing but grow.
2007-02-25 06:10:09 · answer #10 · answered by Navydoc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋