I just want a decnt guy who cares for me and as long as i carry myself well and im somewhat attractive. i have standards too. overweight doesnt mean desperate or undatable. I have so much to offer a mate. Im independent, attractive, financially stable and have an awesome personality. What can I do? Serious responses only please
2007-02-25 06:03:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What can I say, we live in a very shallow world. But there is someone for everyone.
2007-02-25 06:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by Tumbling Dice 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Good that you have the self confidence to know that being overweight isn't who you are, and that you have a lot of great things going for you! If you met a great guy who liked you now, you would know that he liked who you on every level and that's a really good thing.
Unfortunately, we live in a world where looks, appearance and being the perfect weight are given far more importance than they should be. Personality usually comes only as a bonus to these, while it should be the other way around.
Other than for health reasons, I'd even hate to suggest that your losing weight will clinch it, but it probably will. If you lose weight to fit your height, I'll bet dollars to donuts that you'll be turnin' 'em away at the door - and while that's not necessarily what you want to do, it's probably what would happen. It's not that I think you should have to do that, either. It's just that you will have more opportunities to meet and get to know someone. The problem is that first impressions are so important.
Some guy is at home right now with a drop dead gorgeous wife who has no personality at all or who is dependant and demanding, and there you are - a 'somewhat attractive', independant gal, who has an awesome personality and you're alone! We have to get our priorities straight in this society! Perfect looks AREN'T everything, by a longshot!
2007-02-25 06:36:47 · answer #2 · answered by Plexed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are lots of guys out there who like BBW
I have two brothers who always seem to end up with bigger women so maybe its there thing
and I know there are dating sites for BBW and chat rooms
so maybe u can find a nice guy on there
and ur right being overweight doesnt mean ur desperate or undateable
but it does mean ur unhealthy and can have heart problems and might not be able to do lots of stuff ppl who are more in there weight range can do
there are lots of programs u can join to get urself more healthy
love urself by taking care of ur body before loving someone else
I'm not trying to be mean im just stating some facts
good luck with everything :)
2007-02-25 06:30:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
each thing i've got ever study states which you burn greater energy once you breastfeed, for that reason helping to lose the greater weight. Do you eat greater and/or in a diverse way once you're breastfeeding as adversarial to once you stop? i won't be in a position to think of of why breastfeeding may be the reason of the load. of course, you be attentive to your physique greater valuable than everybody else, so i assume the alternative is as much as you. notwithstanding, are your actual looks that greater significant than your youngster's well-being? i'm no longer asking this to sound impolite, basically a query. interior the tip, i do no longer think of you're a foul individual for combating breastfeeding. i became into basically in a position to pump (son could no longer latch on), and that did no longer final greater the 6 months. If dropping weight will make you happier, then this is probably greater valuable on your baby than having a depressed mom. i think of you basically could desire to weigh the experts and cons.
2016-10-01 23:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be accepting and don't flake, and possibly make the first move. Also, be realistic and don't take offense to guys wanting that one thing when they are willing to 'pay' for it via being a good boyfriend.
Every older "unpopular" woman I've ever tried to make a move on was a total flake who didn't keep appointments or return calls, so make sure you're not doing that thing.
2007-02-25 06:08:32 · answer #5 · answered by entivore 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, dear, you sound ok to me. I think if you are serious you should be patient and ask God to send you what you want. Maybe change where you have been looking. The best thing could be right under your nose! Good luck!
2007-02-25 06:10:00 · answer #6 · answered by mikey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether men like you despite your weight or not is unimportant. Almost 300 lb. means that you are obese and will likely run into serious health problems later. You NEED to lose weight.
2007-02-25 10:22:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Girl god's blessings to you.Good men are just hard to find and it really doesn't matter how you look or how much you weigh.Or even if your young and got your sh it together.the only thing i can say is be kool take your time and don't take no woodin nickels.
P.S. and if you find something i don't know that works e.mail me
2007-02-25 06:16:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
im looking for a decent man too and being overweight has nothing to do with. there are more loser than quality men out there.
2007-02-25 06:30:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you are a beautiful woman. Your weight would concern me only in terms of your health.
2007-02-25 07:50:11 · answer #10 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋