My friend just asked me if i would ever be mad at her for going out with my ex.. I dont know what to say... I mean him and I went out for 5 and 1/2 months and we just broke up 3 weeks ago... & then she asks me this... I want to tell her no, but then i would be lying but if I say yes i'm afraid she will think I'm selfish or something... what do I say ? plz help 5 point for best answer !!!
2007-02-25 05:56:12 · 6 answers · asked by spunky_luv_today 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if she is a good friend you should be able to talk to her about anything. I would be straight up with her and tell her how you feel. It would ruin your friendship and if she values it, she wont go through with it. Even if the relationship didnt last, you would always feel that betrayal there. You are not being selfish by stating the truth. Where is her respect for you? Good luck
2007-02-25 06:03:23 · answer #1 · answered by mlock123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like even though you broke up with him, you still hold some kind of feelings for him. It's only been 3 weeks and you're still not *entirely* over him, which is very reasonable. You guys went out for a long time and you would probably be hurt if your boyfriend started dating any girl this soon.
Tell your friend this and she should understand. If she's a good friend, she will not think you're selfish and she will wait a while until you know that you will be okay with everything.
Whatever happens, don't let your friend go out with him without you talking to her first about how you feel. You probably value your friendship with her and you don't want to end up losing a good friend over some situation with your past boyfriend.
2007-02-25 14:04:27 · answer #2 · answered by Sybelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK you need to ask yourself the question- is your so called friend really a friend. i mean you just broke up with your man and already she is ready to snatch him up.
how thoughtful it is for her to ask about your feelings. and you know what? you should tell her the truth! tell her how it would make you feel. how awkward and uncomfortable things will be with you and her once he steps into the picture.
i mean for crying out loud, you dont have to be mean about it, but be truthful and forceful. tell her that you are still hurting from the breakup and how it would be too soon for you to meet his new girlfriend, especially if it was her. and how you wont be able to hang out with her so much now that she has a new guy. and how impossible it would be for you to meet up with her and him.
if she's really your friend, yes she may get a bit upset, but she will understand. and this is a test for your friendship. if she ditches you for him, then she was never really your friend in the first place.
2007-02-25 14:16:57 · answer #3 · answered by Cher B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i supposed u could say u r uncomfortable with it... rmbr do not sell urself out. u'l feel even worse when they r really together.
this is sticky. if i were u i would admit and if they really want to be together i think u can't stop them too. get urself another guy! learn to move on girl that's all we need.
2007-02-25 14:09:13 · answer #4 · answered by jj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
three weeks...well, if you two are not even trying to work it out...and if you care(d) for him....you'd want him to be happy, right? If you can't have him should you keep your friend and ex from being happy? Let him go...let her go too, if you have to.
Focus on you and find yourself a nice boy to love.
2007-02-25 14:02:46 · answer #5 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if shes your friend then tell her the truth!! Ive been through before it hurt to tell her but she understood. after i got over him she got him!! hope i helped??!!!
2007-02-25 14:05:15 · answer #6 · answered by mybrattybrat3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋