i have taught my child good/bad touch sice she was able to speak as i was molested as a child myself and would die before letting that happen to my child!ANY WAYS MY QUESTION IS: DOES A 8 YEAR OLD KNOW WHAT A HICKIE IS? MY DAUGHTER SAYS THEY WERE PLAYING AND HE BIT HER THERE IS A TOOTH MARK BUT MY DAUGHTER IS BI-RACIAL SO ITS KIND OF HARD TO TELL!SOMEBODY PLEASE TELL ME WHAT TO DO I AM SERIOUSLY STRESSING THIS AND THE BOYS PARENTS ARE ACTING LIKE ITS NO BIG THING!
2007-02-25 05:35:43 · 12 answers · asked by pgiggles34 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
lorenzo is an idiot. i read you other q. actually, i don't think i'd hide it unless your child is embarrassed by it. have you shown it to the parents of the boy that bit her? it is most certainly a big deal. an 8 yr old knows not to bite. he's way to aggresive. if you haven't already, stop your daughter from playing with that kid. as far as knowing what a hickey is - kids know a lot more than we give them credit for thanks to tv, and older kids around them. i work at our grade school and i can tell you i am surprised at some of the things that come out of the mouths of children ages 6-11. some of it is disgusting. that kid may very well have known what he was doing. question your daughter some more as she is only 6 and may not be aware of the same things the 8 yr old is. i hope you get to the bottom of this. best of luck.
2007-02-27 02:32:08 · answer #1 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are they both Eight years old? Has your daughter told you that she felt violated?
I do not think that even if the young man had the intention of giving her a hickey, he was not probably doing it in a sexual context.
I am afraid that you may be placing more stress on this than is necessary, as you were molested as a youngster. A bite or a hickey is not a reason to file charges.
You should re-iterate to your daughter about good touch bad touch, and you should let her know how this makes you feel. Let her know that she can tell him to stop if he makes her feel uncomfortable etc etc.
The boys parents are acting that way because it really is not a big deal. They are both young, and children do explore the way that things make them feel. If he were substantially older, say 5 or 6 years older than your daughter, then I would be worried.
If you are still worried, then perhaps you should supervise the two of them playing from now on so there will be no confusion as to what happened.
2007-02-25 13:47:07 · answer #2 · answered by Fernie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An 8 year old doesnt know what a hickie is. At least my 7 and 10 year olds dont. So anyways, I saw what Lorenzo said and try not to worry about that. Im sure it is just some guy talking and if he did forward that then I doubt anyone would even look at it. I wouldnt think anything bad from it. So anyways, calm down, its ok. Im sure it was just an 8 year old boy being hyper and playing rough. My 3 boys are crazy too sometimes when they play. They can get pretty rough. Again dont worry.
2007-02-25 15:45:47 · answer #3 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
due to your history i think you are overreacting. A hickie mark is different to a bite mark. At the age of 8 though he should know not to bite. Tell your daughter next time he bites to punch him. Give him something to think about and if the parents of the boy say something then just tell them she was defending herself from a child acting like a 2 year old. He Should NOT be biting
2007-02-25 22:30:34 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't believe an 8 year old knows that a hickie is....and I'm sure the other child was either playing or just being mean. I don't suspect anything sexual at all.....especially from an 8 year old. I do however applaud your way of thinking of things.....you can never be too over-protective these days. I wouldn't stress about it.....I'm sure it's all innocent. I wish you the best of luck to you.
2007-02-25 13:43:40 · answer #5 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. First of all, my daughter is also biracial but I can tell when she has a mark on her. Secondly, a child will know if it is exposed to it. How does a bite lead to asking about a hickey? If they were just playing around and he bit her, then explain to him and his parents that biting is not acceptable in your house nor on your daughter. As for the hickey part, I'm confused as to how it is relevant.
2007-02-25 13:41:36 · answer #6 · answered by ~Anna~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They may not know what it is exactly, but they could have seen an older sibling doing it and wanted to try it. From the information you have given it doesn't sound like they were doing something they thought was bad. Maybe ask your daughter the story behind how she got the mark (not just saying that the other boy did it).
2007-02-25 13:40:35 · answer #7 · answered by Midwest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your daughter will only know what a hickey is if someone told her i have had bi racial foster teens and it is hard to tell if they have a hickey
I think if she says they where playing and he bit her then he need to learn biting is not OK but as her mother you can sit down with her and talk to her about biting and playing rough
if his parents are going to do nothing about it you need to make sure when they play together you are always there or if its at school then have a long talk with the teacher
2007-02-26 06:28:26 · answer #8 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
calm down. everyone has gotten bitten before. Nothing has happened. If anything else happens TELL SOMEONE ELSE. So far a bit isn't a bad thing. Ask a therapist if you want to but it's fine! if it is an 8 year-old he isn't gonna know about that stuff probably. Take a chill pill, they probably were just playing.
2007-02-25 13:42:53 · answer #9 · answered by posing as me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids don't know what a hickie is but they do suck on their arms and make hickie marks. It does sound like kids just playing.
2007-02-25 21:18:13 · answer #10 · answered by mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋