My parents are divorced and they fight alot .I feel like if its all my fault and my mom is treaghting my dad cause she sais that we are going to my home country colombia.I just eel so awful cause probably it is true and i may never see my dad again.my mom is always crying and I am always crying too because she is crying.I have tryed everything from talking to her to acting like if nothing was wrong.I just dont want to be like this any more.Please give me some advise!
2007-02-25 05:26:10 · 11 answers · asked by the smart nenita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
it's not your fault at all so I know it's easy to say but don't blame yourself. maybe you can tell each one of them that it makes you very upset when they fight and ask them please don't fight. tell your mother you love her and everything will be OK. tell your father your scared that if he keeps fighting with her she may take you away and you won't be able to see him again. if they won't listen then just try to be OK and remember it is NOT your fault
2007-02-25 05:30:51 · answer #1 · answered by Mike H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off how old are you.???
If you are 18 or older you are on your own start your own life. Or do you have any other family here, maybe you can go and live with them and just tell both your parents what you want to do until they can get their lives in order. Since they are divorced what is their problem, have they not grown up[ enough to see what their fighting is doing to you.
If you are a minor and have no family to go live with here then you have to do what your mother wants you have no choice. You could go to your school councilor and talk with them maybe they could help you out.
2007-02-25 05:36:39 · answer #2 · answered by Angell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not your fault. You did not cause your parents to get divorced. They had problems and couldn't make their marriage work and it had nothing to do with you.
Tell your mom that even though she and your dad have problems, he's your dad and you still want to see him. Tell her you're worried you won't get to see him anymore if you move. Tell your dad the same thing. Even if you move, try and keep in contact with your dad - write letters and e-mails and call him. She needs to know how you feel and so does he.
2007-02-25 05:33:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listening to your parents fight is never easy, especially when you think you might never see your dad again. Did you try talking to your dad about this? If talking to your mom didn't work, you could at least give it a shot.
2007-02-25 05:46:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom needs professional help. Go to a relative or one of her friends for help if you can. If not then --- call the local free clinic in your city. There is all kinds of help out there for the asking. Good Luck and God Bless you - it's hard to grow up all the way in your teens, but your mom needs your help and patience.
2007-02-25 05:33:43 · answer #5 · answered by scottyusa1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is not possible for the three of you to sit down and have a civilized discussion about what is happening, then perhaps it is time to involve a counselor. Even if only you goes to talk to the counselor, do it. I assume you are still in school, if so, talk to your school counselor.
Good luck!
2007-02-25 05:33:12 · answer #6 · answered by Pixie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the police and ask if she can take you away from dad. Go to family court and ask to be in a foster home and protected from mom's threats of leaving.
2007-02-25 05:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not your fault! You have to spend less time with your mom and more time with friends. Get out of the house, and they should be more adult and not involve you in their pathetic relationship skills.
2007-02-25 05:30:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thnk you should sit down with both of them and tell them how you feel and how their fighting is affecting you and your schoolwork. Dotn be afraid to shout at them and to let them know WHAT IS REALLY going on with you becuase they will never know unles you tell them....you need to just let them know what you feel
2007-02-25 05:32:39 · answer #9 · answered by o4_babygirl_o4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
theres nothing you can do, its not your fault if 2 people dont get on like they used to, jus be there for your mum and let nature take its course, tell them both you dont like seeing them fight and not to do it infront of you! goodluck
2007-02-25 05:31:17 · answer #10 · answered by bigsteve 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋