Ok My hubby is my only Male freind.besides family members that i talk to sometimes.Neither of us have freinds of the opposite sex.Because we have understood that a freindship turns into a relationship alot of the times,and we dont want that for us in Our marriage.even then we we did have freinds or what we though were our freinds always ended up liking me,and that was cousing to much issues between us.Anyways i was just wondering..what does God say about having freinds of the opposite sex.Everytime i run into someone in the store,or wherever,and if they want to end up talkig to me,but im not sure if they are being freindly or t hey just want one thing.Is it bettter not to have Guy freinds.I mean im not looking to make Guy freinds,but sometimes i dont know what to say when a guy is being freindly.I feel like i would be going againts my word,and im scared of that saying what goes oround comes around,even though my intentiins are not bad.I feel bad because i didnt stik 2 my word.
2007-02-25 05:08:36 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Are you Muslim? I'm asking because the Christian Bible says that we are all brothers and sisters in the Lord. Why would it be wrong to talk to members of your spiritual family? I assume that it is probably not a good idea to talk to someone of the opposite sex too long unless your husband is present, because of temptation and because of gossip (and you probably don't want to share your secrets with everyone anyway), but it is not forbidden.
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Do not rebuke an older man harshly, but exhort him as if he were your father. Treat younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity.
~1 Timothy 5:1,2 (NIV)
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You would want to keep your word to your husband, of course. I wouldn't change anything until you talked to him about it first.
2007-02-25 05:25:31 · answer #1 · answered by Randy G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not know what God says about having friends of the opposite sex. What I do know is that if you are happy with the way things are in your marriage and life, then you shouldn't worry about making new friends. If it hurts your husband that badly, then it's peobably not worth it, and vice versa. However, I'm sure that you each take your vows seriously, and do not want to stray from your marriage. Therefore, simply making a friend of the opposite sex shouldn't matter, neither should the other person's intentions. If you think that they want something more, then let them know there is no chance. If they persist, then they are not your friends to begin with.
2007-02-25 05:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God says that its not OK to lust after another, that does not mean you cant be friendly and talk to members of the opposite sex. There is nothing wrong with having friends. I think it takes a wrong turn when you do things with the person alone or go out of your way to hang out with that person. SO it cant be like a relationship you have with a female, but it could still be friendly. I hope I helped you out.
2007-02-25 05:20:37 · answer #3 · answered by Travis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If "GOD" REALLY judged and answered your question as to friends of the opposite sex . . I'd have to remind "HIM" or "HER", that he has PENDING better issues to answer to.
I suppose that what I am trying to say, is that you and your husband should be the judges as to who you befriend in your lives.
If your marriage is threatened by this, well then find out why that is.
Too often do I see, over and over again : What would God think or suggest about this and that . . or the old favorite : Gee, the Devil made me do it!
Can you not arrive at decisions of your own without the need of a sort of safety net.
I have heard it said : "God Helps People Who Help Themselves?"
Well, try it.
Do not be so dependent, just because you may lack strength or resolve to make decisions from your own better sense of personal judgment and experience.
2007-02-25 05:19:58 · answer #4 · answered by skydancerwi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
welll god does not care if u have freinds of the opposite sex,but, as long as it does not turn into anything! God says that people should not kiss before they are married becasue kissing can lead 2 other stuff. So, overall u should just pray about it and god will show u if he says yes, no, or wait that is god's anwsers 2 prayer
2007-02-25 05:12:59 · answer #5 · answered by Jesus' girl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
God doesn't care if you have friends. In fact He often will provide friends. He does warn that we should "flee temptation" but a friendship does not have to lead to that. Give yourself a little credit. God wants you to have a full and rich life. Enjoy your friends without guilt. And give them a little credit too. If someone misunderstands your motives then just explain it to them. Communication, with God and others, makes an amazing difference.
Some of my best friends are women and there has never been any misunderstanding in any of those relationships.
2007-02-25 05:18:12 · answer #6 · answered by AK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with having a casual conversation with someone of the opposite sex. I just wouldn't be alone with them if I am married where it could appear as a date or something else. We are to avoid even the appearance of evil.
2007-02-25 05:22:02 · answer #7 · answered by willie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is any prohibition of having friends of either sex in the bible.
If you do not think you can handle a relationship (non-sexual, platonic) maturely with a man, then by all means, don't start one. However, it may be a good thing to remember that you are eliminating approximately 50% from the pool of potential friends by doing so.
2007-02-25 05:15:27 · answer #8 · answered by CC 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It has to do with desire.
If it has caused you a problem, then don't do it.
I had a problem with that once.
It was a bugger.
Once I got free of it, I never had that happen again.
It was like a test for me.
To tell you the truth, I think it is a bad thing. That is my personal opinion.
2007-02-25 05:15:25 · answer #9 · answered by chris p 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nowhere in the Bible that saysyou cant have opposite sex freinds. but you and your husband agreed that you wouldnt so it would not be a good idea. my husband and i have the same rules we dont have opposite sex freinds either.
2007-02-25 05:18:00 · answer #10 · answered by Thumbs down me now 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋