well me and my ex we broke up but we hung out at my house a few days ago and we did it.I had sex with him and I regret it now because he told me he just considers me too be a friend but I like him.And I thought if I did it with him it would make him like me more but it diddnt work and I feel so stupid now.I saw him at school the next day he diddnt even say hi too me he just stared.I feel like ive been used bye him what should I do?Im so lost right now..
2007-02-25 04:56:02 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really need help ive been on and off with this guy for awhile.even if there our alot of answers still give me one im reading all of em and taking in advice!
2007-02-26 03:43:19 · update #1
It hurts I know.
There is something I hope you learned by this that you should definately know. Having sex with a guy won't make him like you.
Boys/men are wired differently than girls/women when it comes to sex. For males, sex is not personal, it's just a bodily function.
For females, sex is VERY personal and emotional too. Now, I am not saying that a man can't be in love with whomever he has sex with. What I AM saying is that a man does not HAVE to be in love or even in like with whomever he has sex with.
So yes, it sounds like this ex-boyfriend used you. Best thing for you to do now is to learn from this and don't ever let anyone else use you like this again.
Okay? He's the lowlife in this , not you. Value yourself and others will value you.
2007-02-25 05:06:26 · answer #1 · answered by Pixie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot turn back time and change what happened. The only thing you can do is learn from it. This is not new. Girls & women have been doing the same thing you did for the same reasons for a long time. Offering themselves to guys thinking that they will love them if they do this. If they want you for a friend, having sex with them is not going to change their feelings for you. Guys think of sex differently than females do. Remember that the next time when you think that having sex with them will change them. There is an old saying. Girls give sex to get love, men will give love to get sex.
2007-02-25 05:08:34 · answer #2 · answered by Jo W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes it is hard to be friends with an ex because of the attraction. dont have sex with him again u are only hurting yourself. if he really likes u he will come back even though u dont do that. right now u need to just move on try to find someone else or just hang out with friends. u will get over him in time
2007-02-25 05:08:12 · answer #3 · answered by Jamie F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 22:28:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG....I had the same problem with ...my man who is now my fiance! We are out of school now and have 2 kids...but he was the same way in high school! We were always off and on but always having sex as well...because we were each others first....I promise you the best thing you can do, is act like it dont bother you...go on with your life (for now) flirt have fun....it will make him jealous...because jealousy may not be the definition of love but trust me...it comes with it...it's a part of love! The bible just says to not get the 2 confused with one another...because they are 2 different feelings. You can like someone and ONLY feel jealousy but that wouldn't be love....but you can LOVE someone and be jealous at times! so go on with you life have fun make him jealous pretend you don't care....if he really loves you it will eventually get to him...and TRUST ME he prolly WILL NOT show it...but I'll bet he will be asking you out to the movies or to his house not long after....don't always give in and go...just sometimes say "I would really love to, but I'VE ALREADY MADE PLANS TO go out with a girlfriend tonight"....or something like that! dont ever say your going out with another guy because then it would just make him mad and not want to ask anymore....just act like YOU are more important then anyone else...and making yourself happy comes first...a man LOVES an independent woman and CANNOT stand another guy who is interested in the girl who he feels is his! and if it never gets to him or bothers him....then you did it for the right reason anyway....if it isn't meant to be then you'll prolly find someone else during the mix....and it would eventually have been the right thing to do...so either way you go doing this will benefit you in the way it needs to...TRUST ME things will work out the way they are meant to....I don't think the lord would let you wind up somewhere you're not meant to be!! But make sure you're INDEPENDENT if you act to needy of him....it will drive him away FOR SURE!
2007-02-25 05:25:33 · answer #5 · answered by RachelLeAnn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh girl thats not good but you said yourself that you consented to it lots of guys just use you for sex which isn't cool just move on try not to let it get you down you will be ok the right guy will come along in time
2007-02-25 05:01:36 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Eyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex with someone doesn't mean they will like you even more. To make someone want you doesn't mean you have to open your legs. Having sex with him and then tells you he just wants to be friends made you look like a fool. If he didn't say a word to you there's know need for you to say anything to him. Let a man chase after you don't chase after a man. If a guy dones't want you then don't waste your time. Find someone that wants to be with you for you.
2007-02-25 05:06:01 · answer #7 · answered by lilbit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live and learn from your mistakes. Move on to bigger and better things. Learn to avoid negative situations like these. If you didnt mess up, your not making any progress and not learning. Just remember to apply what you learned. :-)
Your lost.. I can see why... choose a different direction! Many other guys out there just dieing to meet ya!
2007-02-25 05:02:30 · answer #8 · answered by Royce 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A hard lesson to learn but there's nothing like the cold truth. So ignore him. You made a mistake, you learned from it, now pick yourself up and be smarter in the future.
2007-02-25 05:02:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
chalk it up 2 experience and move on unless u wanna be sex buddies but i think as far as relationship, u should let him come 2 u but it doesnt seem like he will
2007-02-25 05:00:41 · answer #10 · answered by teeteewoods69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋