My crush is really sweet, nice, and sensitive and all my friends think we make the cutest couple ever and think he likes me back, but the thing is that theres 1 of my BEST Friends that has a MAJOR crush on him and wont stop following him around and every 2 seconds shes with him except for sometimes in Science class where i earn myself a spot behind him. I have started to drop a few hints that i like him and flirted but SHES EVERYWHERE!!! I dont want 2 hurt her feelings by telling her 2 backoff or sound like a brat, but shes taking over him and i am starting 2 get the feeling he likes her back. before we changed seats in our class he used 2 flirt with me ALOT and he had been sending mixed signals like asking if he could borrow my pencil and trapping my feet under his desk….
plz help me!! wat should i do?? I think i should make a move but how?!
2007-02-25 04:54:16 · 8 answers · asked by CollegeObsessed<3 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should ask him to go to the movies one day and if he takes it as you're asking him on a date then thats good but if he takes it as you're two friends just going to the movies then you should find someone else or keep flirting a lot till you know he likes you.
And dont say anything to your friend. That way if you and the guy start going out she'll realize hes taken and most likely back off
2007-02-25 04:58:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really just have to make a choice. I know that sounds easier than it is- but if you flirt back and eventually go out with him, your friend will be crushed. And even though you aren't responsible for her feelings, it feels wrong to date a guy your best friend is really into.
You can try talking to her. Make the conversation very light and fun, maybe late at night at a sleepover. Giggle over how cute he is and crack jokes. See how she reacts. If she knows you really like him, she'll probably get defensive and protective. So it may be best at this time to let her know you have a minor crush. You have to be really careful in these kinds of situations. You want to get the guy, and keep your friend, but it usually doesn't work out that way.
So think about it. Is this guy really worth your friendship? If your answer is yes, there's nothing wrong with that. Maybe you and your friend just haven't really been hitting it off lately, and you are willing to risk it. Don't tell your friend to back off; it will just upset her.
Remember that relationships sometimes only last a month, when friendships are strong for your entire life.
Really hope this helps you- Good luck, girl!!
2007-02-25 13:10:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me when I say that a guy will like what he likes. The fact that she's laying the flirting on thick doesn't necessarily mean that you get a lesser chance at him. What I would do is to make the fact that you like him clear...and let him gravitate to the one that he likes the most. I know that you feel that you have to "win him over" but by letting your feelings clear and letting him choose I think will go farther than competing for him. If need be, be completely honest with him and tell him! Most guys aren't very subtle and sometimes need the direct approach. Let me know if this helps.
2007-02-25 12:58:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mark S. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Crushes are tough to understand because you never know for sure if the person really likes you back but I guess you can try to find out from your friend if she really likes him or if she is just messing with him to get back at someone, find out if she has real feelings for this guys first becuase believe me the last thing that you want to do is ruin a friendship over a guy because it will haunt you for years that you put a guy ahead of your friends and you also do not want to look like an idiot and let him know you like him and he tells you he doesnt like you at all....girls have alot of ways of finding things out, you could ask her how she feels about him because she is your friend and then you could ask one of your crushes frineds, if he likes you or if he likes anyone, that way you will know they playing field is open. But dont look too desperate, if he says no then just make it seem like it was no big deal to you anyway, because you do not want him going around telling the whole school that you like him and he doesnt like you....find out where you would stand with him first before you make a move and maybe try to get your seat next to him back adn see what happens...just dont fall too deep for him because if he was making moves on you then jumped on making moves on your friend then he probably is the type of guy who plays with girls and you dont want to be with someone like that, trust me!
2007-02-25 13:02:43 · answer #4 · answered by o4_babygirl_o4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think u should flirt with the guy in front of your friend so she could notice that you like him and if he notices that you are flirting with him and flirts with you back maybe your friend could notice that he don't like her.And maybe she would leave you alone.
2007-02-25 13:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
gurl, get on him b4 time runs out! just ask him out or ask him if u two can hang out sometime. just 4get ur friend and focus on him. if she has a problem wit u, then let her come 2 u about it. and if she does, just tell her that he chose u
2007-02-25 12:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by teeteewoods69 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
talk to your friend first. it's best not to throw away a friendship over some boy.
2007-02-25 12:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by Antoine J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him if he likes u and if he does ask him out
2007-02-25 12:58:37 · answer #8 · answered by Drew the vols man, there # 1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋