My girlfriend lives 3 hours away and I find myself getting jealous, which is unlike me, that guys she works with get to spend more time with her than I do. What do you think?
2007-02-25 04:31:19 · 11 answers · asked by Chris B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, I don't think you are being jealous. Your girlfriend has done nothing to make you jealous, and you are not the jealous type, right? The key is in your phrase "get to spend more time with her". Without knowing how long the two of you have been together, or how much you see each other now (both important factors), I believe your feelings have escalated for her and YOU want to spend more time with her. Talk to her about it and how the two of you could see more of each other. I've been in long distance relationships before, and they produce a lot of "longing" to see the other person, and that could be what you are feeling. If you are spending every weekend together, perhaps try something one night during the week, like meeting half way inbetween for dinner or just alone time. If these ideas don't help... do a rational hour by hour comparison, and figure out how much you would have to see her to equal 40 hours (a normal work week). Most married couples who work do not get 40 hours "awake-time" alone together.
2007-02-25 05:25:21 · answer #1 · answered by Mary M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't allow the feelings of distance to grow into jealousy. Use those feelings as a tool for growing in the relationship. Move your mind from feeling jealous to missing her and appreciating the times you get to share and how much closer you feel to her each time you see her. Jealousy will push you apart, using those feelings in another way will bring you much closer together. If you continue to show signs of mistrust, she may end up acting on them.
2007-02-25 12:35:49 · answer #2 · answered by inkinheaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if the two of you were married, you cannot keep her from interacting with other men in the course of her work, or in social situations. If you love her, trust her. Without trust, there is no true love in a relationship.
2007-02-25 12:36:12 · answer #3 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably are. You don't want another guy to be around her more than you. Do you visit her often? Does he like her?? If he does, you should probably show up at her work with a bouqet of roses in front of him...just to show that she's taken, even if he already knows.
2007-02-25 12:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by (: 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rather than labeling the emotion as jealousy, see it in a more positive light. You love her and you want to be with her. Jealously is negative and inevitably will harbor resentment.
2007-02-25 12:37:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont get jelous because its gonna start to drive her away. throw the green angry monster off of your sholder now. As long as you trust her and you both like eachother theres nothing to worry about. dont let your imagination get the best of u.
hope this helped!
2007-02-25 12:36:13 · answer #6 · answered by sarah t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the green eyed monster is ugly don't let him get to you if you trust and love each other everything will be all right
2007-02-25 12:36:11 · answer #7 · answered by Lil_B4ByLV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u must really love her and thats whats causing jealousy
2007-02-25 12:34:13 · answer #8 · answered by mima 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's normal, and you'll get over it. If she loves you, everything will be okay.
2007-02-25 12:35:55 · answer #9 · answered by baba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move closer too her and talk too her about how you feel!
2007-02-25 12:35:52 · answer #10 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋