the funeral directer asked my stepmother in-law what is her maiden name?

Question

the funeral directer asked my stepmother in-law yesterday what her maiden name is for the obits for my father in-law and she told him our family lastname and the directer told her no what is your maiden name and she didn't want to tell him but we made her tell him and she did.is can she still use the family name now that she's a widow.is she still conciderd my husbands stepmother anymore.

Answer 1

She wasn't divorced from your father in law, so yes, she can still use the family name. Same goes for her still being the stepmom. They weren't divorced so she is still stepmom, but since your father in law passed, that doesn't mean you still have to have a relationship with her. It sounds like you only tollerated her for your father in law's sake.

Answer 2

Her name doesn't change because her husband died. Is that what you're asking? The only reason the funeral director asked about her maiden name is to put it in the obituary as "the former Ann Smith", or whatever. Some people might recognize her by that name who didn't know her married name. It is just common practice. She could have refused to tell him if she really didn't want it put in the paper.

Answer 3

The name is hers and yes she's still his stepmother. Even in divorce the name stays unless the person specifically wishes not to anymore and even then still has to be listed in a court document somewhere to be "legal".
In fact when I divorced my second husband, I took back my first married name because of my child(from first marriage) and neither husband coudl do anythign abotu it. It had once been my name and I had every claim to it.

Answer 4

She was probably just emotional and defensive due to the recent death. She is his step-mother still, but that will probably have a lot to do with his feelings about it. If he doesn't want her to be she doesn't have to be due to the fact there is no ties between them now. I would suggest if there is a estate or will to be probated that they get a long, because that can take a long time if the two parties disagree on anything.I'm lucky and have a excellent step-mother and if my father passed away she would make all decisions with out us and she has every right to do so.

Answer 5

She can still use the family name, because she has legaly changed her name to that. As far as relation is concerned, if she and your husband had a good relationship then he should keep in contact with her. If he didn't like her, or there was some bad blood then he shouldn't feel obligated to go out of his way to keep in contact with her. I believe she is still his Stepmother, but sense he's clearly grown and married it doesn't really affect him in anyway. had they minor children there would be custidy concernes and things of that nature.

Answer 6

She is still his stepmother and she can keep her husbands name if she wants to.
I did, until I married again anyway..

She can return to her maiden if she wants but that won't change anything else, she will still be a stepmother.

Answer 7

She can use the surname still unless she chooses to change it, the reason he wanted the name was so they could say Mister _____ married Ms. Maiden Name. That is reason for that, and yes she is your last name until she changes it or remarries.

Answer 8

She keeps her husbands last name after becoming a widow. She will still be your hubands stepmother. Death doesn't stop that only divorce would do that.

Answer 9

Yes it is still legally her last name. She is and always will be, even if she remarries, your husband's step-mother. A step-parent is only a title explaining the relationship with less words used.

Answer 10

by danger think of of something humorous and snort out rather loud. (by danger) i'm bored...everybody for a interest of cover and seek for yet i'm hiding interior the coffin *grin* ? How are you? Are you satisfied?