I hear alot of contradictory things come from peoples mouths. Usually from the same person in sentences that come directly one after the other. One of the things that gets me is why so many (not all, but definitly alot) girls don't want guys to be straight up with them or atleast not until the relationship is established. It's like these girls claim that they want a "good guy" but they don't want him to tell her how he feels until they have hung out for a while and usually after she has already told him first. Then once the relationship has been in effect for a while and she has found the guy who won't reveal his feelings to freely, all of a sudden she wants him to change into the guy who does. I'm a pretty straight forward guy about what I think. If I like u I usually tell u and if u r that type of girl I don't waste any more time with games. But why even go through those games when in the end u want the person to change into something different?
2007-02-25 04:04:51 · 8 answers · asked by Vince R 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm a girl and I honestly can't even answer you this question. We're very complicated. Haha. But honestly, for me personally, I don't like when a guy comes on too strong at first. I like a bit of a chase...for someone to seem interested, but not make himself totally available and confess his love for me or really lay on the compliments. That's a huge turn off to me. At the same time, I totally want a GOOD guy. I think once you've gotten past the whole trying to see if you're interested phase and enter into a relationship, girls expectations rise. It's not so much that we want you to change. It's just that guys are kind of the opposite it seems...they already "got the girl" so they feel like they don't have to do as much/play games to win her over. All a girl really wants to feel is special. I know that in my relationship, we always have little arguments over he won't express his feelings to me....I guess that as the relationship goes on, you put more on the line and basically make yourself vulnerable to getting hurt. Girls just want to know that we are appreciated and genuinely cared for. Even though you may expect us to know this, we can't read your minds--- a little reminder or kind gesture never hurts.
2007-02-25 04:32:03 · answer #1 · answered by autumn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Vince,
Don't you know that girls might like to get to know the guy well enough first before? Ya know, get acquainted? After all it would be like confronting a stranger until we find out how a person "ticks". We have to hang around an get to know them first!
Also, it could be the girl is the controlling type, like when you said she wants to change the guy! You will "run" into these girls now and then, that's why you can take your own time to get to know other girls and you will find one who shares the same ideals that you have. That's just experience, my Friend!
I'm finding out that the guys and girls out there like the "game-thing" and you don't have to have this type in your "circle!" sometimes they have their own problems, for whatever reasons and they don't know how to relate to others, see what I mean? So, if you see an indication that a girl is being controlling, and doing the games and things like that, don't seek the friendship any further, bcuz you will only end up getting hurt in the end!
You're wise and I suggest you meet more ladies and you will find your type! That's what makes it fun to meet people and date! Don't give up!
Hope I helped!
2007-02-25 12:21:57 · answer #2 · answered by julesrules 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just haven't found the right girls that's all. Keep looking and the right one will come along.. Alot of girls like the up front kind of guy.. Glad to hear there are some men out there that can be straight forward!!
2007-02-25 12:10:27 · answer #3 · answered by BLONDE BEAUTY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...well for one girls (some) are hard to understand. Me, im simple. I'm a girl and i still dont understand why some do that. Its kind of strange. That's just how some are and you are going to have to respect that. Like the guy before me said, you really WOULD have a better chance getting blood out of a stone when it comes to understanding some girls.
2007-02-25 12:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by JC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to simply answer this question, it is not good to reveal all of yourself to someone because they later have that information to throw back up at you when they are mad. It has happened to me. And people tend to remember all the bad things more than the good things when they are angry. So, I don't know if I'd ever tell someone in my life everything I have done. They might judge me and not like me if I did that. Some things are better left unsaid.
2007-02-25 12:10:39 · answer #5 · answered by K-E-G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you trying to understand women? You have better chance of getting blood out of a stone
2007-02-25 12:09:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your trying to understand us good luck..lol.j/k
you just havent found the right girl that wants you to share your feelings
2007-02-25 12:16:31 · answer #7 · answered by hoplessly_in_love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey most girls just are worried about if they tell you their feelings then you will break-up with them, I am a girl that my bf told me first then I told him so just depends
2007-02-25 12:10:46 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋