I Need Help!!!?

Question

Ok my fiance is in boot camp for the Army right now and his MOS is 19 Delta which is a Calvary Scout...Well his recruter told him that he could change his MOS when he got to AIT school and now that he is at boot camp he asked his Sergent and he told him that he could not change it...the thing that worries me the most is that if he gets sent to Iraq or whatever the life span of his job is 2-5 months...what should I do? ask him to come home? join a different military branch? Does anyone else know someone that has this job? I mean he is only enlisted for 3 years but still you never know what could happen! Please help!!!

Answer 1

I dont see your boyfriend whining.....He signed up. He can most likely change his MOS after his basics are done. Would you like him to become a dishwasher somewhere safe?
He cant just come home, or join another branch...The military is inherently dangerous..Its the Job.

Answer 2

First of all, calm down. There's nothing you can do about his job right now. The only thing you can do is support him in his decisions. You will only make it more difficult on him by freaking out. He can't do this - and neither can you - with you stressing so much. He can't come home or join a different branch at this point, so there's no point in you asking him to. Begging him to come home will only make him feel like crap for leaving, it won't do any good for either of you.

That being said, I know it's hard. At this point you have no perspective on the military lifestyle, all you know is that the guy you love is gone and it's scary. I've been EXACTLY where you are before. It will get easier. As hard as it is to believe, you will get used to all of this, in a way. While he's gone, try to stay busy with work or school or a hobby or something. You need to develop your own life apart from him, so that you don't go crazy when he has to leave.

Also, I just answered your question on 19Ds too. My husband is one too, so I know something about it. There is no "life span" to the MOS once they get to Iraq. Like I said on your other question, my husband has spent 2 years in Iraq and only lost 1 person each time. It's no more or less dangerous than any other MOS.

Answer 3

OK little known secret in the Military, you can change your MOS in AIT. If and I mean if he was lied to by his recruiter which happens, he only has 1 option to change his MOS. To be awarded his MOS he needs to pass AIT (Advanced Individual Training). If he fails out of the course he will be giving a list of choices to transfer to the only stipulation is no matter what he chooses he has to do his full 3 years as stated on his original contract. It might seem as though I want him to weasel out of his contract to the other readers, but I am in the military and I would rather him go in an MOS he wants rather than doing 3+ years in a MOS he hates or doesn't want to do putting other's lives in danger.

Answer 4

I hate to say it, but he is probably more safe in the Army than living as a civilian in the US. With all the training that he has received and what he will receive, I can guarentee that he is safer now. He will need your support as much as possible. Once he gets to his first duty station. Why did he pick 19D to begin with? I would stick it out for the 3 years. If he is only enlisted for 3 years, 2 years before his contract runs out, he will be able to look into changing his job. Once his contract runs out, he will be able to go to that job training that he picked. I hope this helps. I know alot of 19D and I have never heard anything bad about the job. This job is a mix between 11B (Infantry) and 31B (Military Police). Take care and let your fiance know that everything tends to work itself out. Have fun where yall end up for yalls first duty station.

Answer 5

None of your ideas will work. Your fiance is in the military, he can't just "come home" whenever he wants to, and there's nothing that either you or him can do about it.

If there was a concern that he may be killed in combat, then why in the hell did he join the ARMY???

Answer 6

Oh...my...gawd. Okay...I am an army wife so you need to listen to me. You should get rid of your fiancee....you obviously dont have the stomach for this lifestyle. Let him do whatever he wants to do in the army...you didnt say that HE wanted to change, only that YOU do because you are worried about him. Well he should have researched the options before he joined. And ask him to COME HOME???? Are you FRICKIN KIDDING ME? Do him a favor, and dump him NOW.

My husband is an 88M....he drives the streets of Iraq on a daily basis when he deploys (he has been to Afghanistan AND Iraq and training now to deploy to Iraq again). He is in a very dangerous MOS but he LOVES his job and I would NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER EVER ask him to change his MOS, join another branch, or "come home" because I am WORRIED ABOUT HIM!! OMG women like you make me LIVID. Absolutely livid.

So break up with him...did I say that already? Yeah, well let me say it again, BREAK UP WITH HIM and find yourself a civilian that you wont have to worry about. omg.

Answer 7

At this point there is nothing you can do but support him. "Ask him to come home" How selfish! Seriously, don't you think he WANTS to come home. Don' you think ALL our boys, and ALL our boys fiance's, wives, mothers,fathers, children, etc. want them to come home.
The last thing he needs is to worry about YOU safe at home. Write him daily, send him a goodie box once a month, and don't put any more stress on him.

Answer 8

He was of sound mind and body when he enlisted. Now why are you making his decisions for him, he didn't need you to sign for him did he. He signed for 3 years - will 3 years he will service weather he gos overseas or not.

You sound like his mother not his girlfriend...

Answer 9

he can't just join a different military or come home. he is under contract and he must fulfill his obligation.

all you can do is trust that he will be fully trained and that the military will not needlessly or purposely put him anywhere if he isn't ready.

Answer 10

yeah he was lied to. what the recruiter should have said is that he will be able to change when he RE enlists in 3 years. recruiter only try to fill the slots they need to fill. welcome to the army. I'm am really sorry this happened to him. tell him to search his heart and do what is right.