And not talk to me and if I try to touch him pull back his hand or not want to kiss me for apparently no good reason? It drives me nuts and I get sad/upset/ and angry he can't just tell me why he's upset or what I said or did. I know I'm not perfect but a weekend of this is absolute torture. He'll just say nothing or 'don't worry about it' when i ask but then act like he's miserable to be around me. What gives? We've been together for years and he's done this a couple times. I already told him how much it hurts me when he does it and how i'd rather just talk it out with him.
2007-02-25 03:49:02 · 11 answers · asked by red_shoes_lady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is an expression:
When a dragon goes into his cave, don't go in after him"
When men are angry or stressed they withdraw, women communicate. Just let him be. The more you try to draw him out, the more stressed he gets.
If it happens every weekend, then you have a problem
If it happens 4 times in 2 years, count your blessings that that's how he reacts to stress instead of drinking or hitting.
2007-02-25 03:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hun, I thought I had it bad. I always felt as though my boyfriend didn't want to be with me, talk to me or evne look at me. the feeling is absolutely horrible, sad and sometimes degrading. I cry about it and i talk to him about it too. Well things have gotten better, and we have also been together for a long time too. Now to your realtionship, I think he needs alittle room, I know this is going to be really hard for you, because you really do not know what the problem is. it isnt fair for you to get this type of treatment. you have done your part, and if he wants to pursue he would do way better than have you feel this way. I am not saying leave him and end the realtionship. I would talk to him and tell him once more that you love him and you want the real him back. This may take awhile, or even not work. But please try. I am sorry this happening, but I am also sure that things will get better. God Bless, and always have faith in the Lord.
2007-02-25 12:03:30 · answer #2 · answered by old 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HEY, it's not like you're married or anything. But aside from that, there's only 1 way to do it. If it don't work, then you have a choice to either live with it or get out.
Pick a time when he's in a good mood, then (totally calmly, without emotion, without accusation) carefully lead into this problem that is bothering you, and state that you don't intend to nag nor offend him anytime, but the only way you can know is for him to discuss it with you.
Good Luck
2007-02-25 11:55:57 · answer #3 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel, I'm going through the same thing right now. My bpyfriend says "I Love You", but sometimes when were together... he pushes himself away from me. I ask him why he does it, and he says "I'm just playing"... but it really does hurt. Maybe you should give your boyfriend some time, and don't see each other for a while. Maybe he'll realize how important you are to him.
Good Luck to ya
2007-02-25 11:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by CUTIE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's going to keep doing this until you make it look like you don't care. You should just tell him his baby ways are aggrivating and he needs to get the hell over whatever is making him so pissy because if he would tell you whats wrong you could fix the problem, unless of course he's guilty of something because guys tend to act that way when they're guilty.
2007-02-25 11:57:07 · answer #5 · answered by oo_m_i_c_h_e_l_l_e_oo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the person who answered with the cave idea. He is figuring out or pondering things and he is a man...perhaps..he doesn't feel the need to communicate. His first responsibility is towards himself...before he can give to u. Let him know you'll be there for him incase he needs u and leave him alone. Give him his space. He will come right back out to u...and perhaps give u the warmest hug.
2007-02-25 11:58:09 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can almost guarantee that he believes that you are cheating. if he is the type of guy that has a lot of pride he will never tell you that though. to admit that will hurt his ego. now I'm not saying you are but i'm a guy going thourgh the same thing and thats what im thinking im my relationship
2007-02-25 11:58:16 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sense a break-up. I pushed my ex away for months before I finally dumped her.
2007-02-25 11:52:27 · answer #8 · answered by KC Slim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you guys need some time apart.
2007-02-25 11:55:08 · answer #9 · answered by rise FROM the ashes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he doesnt have interest anymore
2007-02-25 11:51:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋