iv been going out my my boyfriend who is 16, and im 15, for almost a month now. we're very close and tell eachother everything. but im really afriad because i wnt to have sex with him and i cant control the temptations. and i dont want to just yet because i know were not ready and it could ruin what we have goin. and i still think im a bit too young but when im around him i just cant control myself. i know i should talk to him about it but i dont wanna bring it up until he brings it up especially since weve barely been goign out a month. i dont wanna rush things. what should i do?
2007-02-25 03:37:00 · 13 answers · asked by truesayokay9 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I beleive it is way too soon. It's only been a month, so you may not exactly know how you feel. I think that it could be kind of a lust more then a love right now.
I've been with my gf for 1 year 5 months now. I remember about 5 months after we started dating, I began to feel the same way. I wanted to do it, but I also wanted to wait because that was what she wanted. It was really hard to control myself, and there were a few close calls that made me feel a little guilty. Finially, when we got to our 1 year 5 month mark, we decided that it would be ok, and we did it. I'm happy that I waited this long, because we have no regrets about it, we knew we were ready.
If you do it now, and you two do last, then you'll probably have some guilt about it, but maybe not. My concern is that you'll do it, then soon break-up. It's too soon in the relationship to be assured that you'll last. If you break up, I guarentee that it will rip you apart, I've been there.
Try to wait atleast 6 months. Most of the time, people break-up before 6 months. The ones that do stay together that long are very likely to stay together much longer, if not forever. Also wait, till your 16. That way if you get caught, your bf won't get charged with stagatory rape. 16 is the age of concent for most states in America.
2007-02-25 03:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. But first I would talk to you mom, dad, aunt , grandma,a trust adult that can direct you. BIRTH Control,
Birth Control, oh yes and Birth control! Your feeling are normal and natural, just keeping them in check is what is important now. Think this way, if I have sex with this boy I am giving the most precious gift I have to someone I have only known for 1 month. Look at it this way, your dad gives you a brand new 2007 Mitsubishi Spider, that's a car and it is over $30,000. It is the perfect color, equiped with IPOD and 5 thousand tunes and free gas for life, would you give it to this guy? Your body is worth far more than the car right? Think about it.
2007-02-25 03:45:28 · answer #2 · answered by bevfortbragg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a cold shower. Don't go down this route, honey. You're too young. You don't want to ruin your life. I know a girl who's been there and had a baby - now, her mom took care of the baby and the boy left her. Don't give in to temptation. Take care of yourself.
2007-02-25 03:47:58 · answer #3 · answered by childofGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you "can't control the temptations" I don't think you're really quite mature enough for a relationship. Self control is an important concept. but if you really feel strongly about it, I suggest you talk to your "boyfriend" about it.
2007-02-25 03:44:23 · answer #4 · answered by Alecto 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way too young to have sex, it is going to cause more complications, in your life. What you need to do is direct your energy on other things, and try and not be alone with him so much, be out with friends, Now you main aim, should be school work, that should be your focus.
2007-02-25 03:43:44 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 15 you need to fight those feelings. You may not only lose your boyfriend but your reputation as well. Not to mention getting pregnant or a venereal disease that will stay with you the rest of your life. Please wait and talk to your parents if you can.
2007-02-25 03:42:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not a right age to do so (having sex)
u may get pregnant andd u may miss the college life and every body will make fun of u and ur parents will feel shy to come from their home.such miserable condition and worse would hapen if u do so
2007-02-25 03:42:31 · answer #7 · answered by srinu710 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't control yourself at 15, what will you do at 20? Try getting more exercise and think of wholesome things.
2007-02-25 03:42:33 · answer #8 · answered by solotrovo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to make your true feelings known about not being ready is to talk to him. If he is an understanding person, he will understand your desire to wait. I hope this helps.
2007-02-25 03:40:30 · answer #9 · answered by annecsabagh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get onto some form of birth control FIRST
think before you do anything
think of the consequences of your actions
IS he " the One"?
once you have sex with someone.. you can never get a 2nd chance to have a first time with someone you truly love
2007-02-25 03:40:34 · answer #10 · answered by Mopar Muscle Gal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋