What is wrong with me?

Question

I have been on three first dates in the last two months and they all ended with the young lady say "im not feeling a connect". I dont understand what i did wrong i mean i flirted with them(not the entire time) and i asked questions about school, family, traveling. To me they seem to be enjoying themselves but i guess not? am i doing something wrong or what help? plz help

Answer 1

Spend a little more time listning than talking. Let them tell you about themselves, what they like and dislike, and find something that you might have in common and start that as a good dialog. Women are funny - if you don't think so, you are funny too.

Good luck.

Answer 2

do you feel the girls feel a physical connection with you? on a first date, you must realize that women also look for, aside from intellectual chemistry, some sort of physical attraction between the two of you. emotional connection does not come until maybe third or fourth date. if you think that you have been interesting, funny and smart the whole time, and the girl still has not agreed on a second date, pay attention to your hygiene, or your dressing style, the way you look in general. see if this is the problem and then work on improving yourself even more.

good luck and remember that if you still find it hard to score a second date, there are plenty of fish in the sea. good luck!

Answer 3

They couldn't all be saying EXACTLY the same thing, if they are, it's either the worlds largest coincidence or they are in cahoots.

It actually sounds like you might be trying too hard. Try just being yourself and don't use a preset guide for conversation, let things she is saying she's interested in guide your questions.

And don't worry too much about it. First dates are just trying someone out, I think the fact that you've even HAD three first dates in the last two months is admirable.

Answer 4

Just think about nailing her after all said and done. Nailing a girl on the first date is awesome! Imagine how many other guys she's done that too! haha. Making a girl feel like a cheap piece of meat is my forte geeks.

Answer 5

You are doing great. Three dates is good. You are fine tuning your capabilities. Now introspect and see whether chemistry, biology and mathematics work too? Bottom of the line: Will you climb mount everest for her. If your answer is yes, good. Will she be prepared to make a life with you anywhere? If yes, good. Two goods is a realistic start.
Stop being worried.

Answer 6

They may be enjoying themselves, but the chemistry is just not there. That is no reflection on you. You are doing the right thing, by meeting more lady's and when the right one comes along you will have had more experience
and the chemistry will be there. I promise! Oh, you might be expecting things to happen to fast.

Answer 7

Maybe your trying to force it. Try taking some time to you,and perhaps all owe the other party to ask you out.
I have to say that when I go out on a date sometimes I am so excited,then he will say something that totally sends me to left field where he gets left alone.
Lol,maybe my experience can help you.
Take care and good luck.
Butterfly

Answer 8

First dates are hard. Even though you try to be yourself, you'll still look nervous. But if you let the woman talk a whole lot more than you do, it's possible she'll like you more.

Answer 9

I smell desperation... try playing it more cool. Maybe try to find a way to meet different women than you've met. Get involved in a sport with guys and gals playing together. Make friends with girls and let them come after you. They like to chase and chasing them creeps them out.

Answer 10

Take a break then play hard to get. Ladies like a challenge.