i just recently ended a relationship with my 5mth old daughters father and moved to georgia with my 8yr olds daughterts father. ive been here a week and im home sick and missing my recently ended relationships father. he wants me to come back. im not really happy here. but i dont want leave my daughter here.
2007-02-25 03:10:24 · 13 answers · asked by mygirlsx3hmc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi why did your leave your other partner?if he was violent dont go back ,give yourself time to start to like your new surroundingd DO NOT leave your child ,she needs her mother she will grow up wondering why you left her .
2007-02-25 03:58:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you first have to remember why you left your first relationship. You said you have been there only a week, I say give it time. Not to be judgemental, but you seem to be thinking about "you're" situation and not of your children. If these relationships are not working for you, you may want to get your own place and start by living on your own for awhile with out the distractions of relationships. Sometimes we need to find our place in the world and working on ourselves first and learn to be happy before asking others to make us happy. I would say, take time for your kids they are really watching you and how you are handling all of your relationships...especially the 8 yr. old. Kids don't care of the reasonings such as, "I left him because..." , they just want mom around and want to have that feeling you're there for them. Good luck I really do hope you find your place and be happy with or without someone right now. More than anything, I hope your relationship with your kids will be strong and healthy ones.
2007-02-25 11:27:53 · answer #2 · answered by Txgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, listen up to a person who knows. Today is my eldest son's 31 birthday. I have been married two times and have children by two different fathers. I was the biggest mistake of my life. Not my children but the relationships. My son thanked me today for always putting him and his siblings first. My children had a difficult time bonding, why I am not sure but they are better now but let me tell you, take care of your children 1ST always, do not split them up ever! Number 2 get help, find out why you are having trouble in relationships. Prioritize, 1kids, 2 yourself, 3 job and providing for those children. If you are going to move in anywhere it needs to be with both children and in your own place...Make a secure loving home for your babies. Good luck.
2007-02-25 11:34:22 · answer #3 · answered by bevfortbragg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to focus on raising your children. No more sex with guys until you have raised these two because you don't need to add anymore to the mix. Live where ever you have YOUR family support not the support of some guy who is going to knock you up and not be a husband/father.
Good luck!
2007-02-25 11:21:55 · answer #4 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not good, going from one man to another, what you need to do is get you self together, and find out what you want, and need in life, to make you feel complete. because some thing is missing, in your life, and a man, can not always give it to you, it has to some times come from with in, What you need to do is be by yourself for a while, and work on you, read books on self esteem, and pray and ask God for guidance!
2007-02-25 11:17:27 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the men and be a mother. That is the most profitable relationship and once gone you can never get it back.
2007-02-25 11:13:56 · answer #6 · answered by Noree 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personal opinion, but can them both and move on. You need a man that will take care of you, cherrish you, and be there for you and it sounds as if neither of these men provide any stability in your life.
Someone is out there - kick both of them to the curb and start on a new.
Good luck.
2007-02-25 11:13:50 · answer #7 · answered by Dave 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Give it a chance, a week in a new place is too early to decide if you should move again.
2007-02-25 11:15:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would concentrate more on being a mother to my girls and less on having a man. Just personal opinion though.
2007-02-25 11:17:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you might want to try going it alone for a while and focus on being a mom. maybe later on you will better be able to decide what is best for you and your family (your children that is).
2007-02-25 11:29:53 · answer #10 · answered by SCOOTER'S GRANDMA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋