Where I work there are the trips a group of us have to make every year. One is to Chicago and the other is to wherever the shareholder meeting is being held. Leading up to the trip, there is all this flirting and gossiping about who is going to hook up with whom. After the meeting, the only thing I can compare it to was the way it was when I was in college. We had something, but now we have to return to being co-workers. Truth be told, its a lot of fun, and I’ve gotten caught up in a couple times. Problem: I’ve been married for 12 years.
My husband caught wind of what’s been happening, and we had a big talk. He asked a lot of questions, and even though I was confident at the end of our talk that he wasn’t leaving me – I wasn’t so sure he wasn’t going to ask me to quit my job.
About a week later, we had another talk, and he told me – he doesn’t see anything wrong with it if everything is safe?!?!?!?! He’s for real, and I believe him when he says it not because he’s been cheating. It’s so baffling.
2007-02-25 03:07:43 · 13 answers · asked by carol h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I say go for it - its not as crazy as it sounds. I wasn’t married but dated a girl for five years. Some time into it, our lives were starting to become routine, and she asked if it would be ok if she started going out with some single friends from college – and eventually it turned into her going out, dirty dancing, and once in a while making out. You’d think I’d die of jelousy, but I knew what she was getting out there was something completely different than what she was getting with me and I was completely unthreatened by it. In fact, I insisted she carried condoms so we’d both be safe – not that I was suggesting she should – but in case things got carried away. She was a hot chick – and I felt like I was with a sexual rock star – especially when she was getting dolled up tp go out. I loved it, and it made the last year or so of our relationship steamier than they would have been, if nothing else than because of the suspense. When we broke up, it had nothing to do with any of that – it was over a job she didn’t want me to take (she didn’t want to move and didn’t like law enforcement). So that’s my two cents.
2007-02-25 03:12:17 · answer #1 · answered by w0t_b0t 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well darling, If he's OK with it then when it's his turn you better be OK with it....... He is setting you up... he took a week and found something he might like, when he does he'll say well you had your fun now it's my turn.....
If you have been married 12 years and love him don't jeopardize your marriage, I know things get routine I was married 20 years and lost sight of her needs she found someone else, that was 10 years ago and I still miss her and think of her every day I MADE A BIG MISTAKE.
Instead of going along with the party at work , go on your trip but have your hubby come along, separate make your own party. If you want excitement meet him in the bar and you two act like you have never met, dance flirt and take him to your room, Why can't he be the one.
Have you ever slept with someone then had to work with them afterward???? not a good thing makes the work environment awkward at best, and if the fling likes the sex (you F**ked him so why not again) he may want to continue the relationship just for the sex and will pursue you daily....
Stay with your man good ones are hard to find.
2007-02-25 11:33:45 · answer #2 · answered by S h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it this way......Even though he isn't cheating now what you have done is open the door and he might not be cheating now but since you open that door he now knows he's free to try it himself. I can tell you since I am a man he already has his eyes on someone there could be a very large chance you will wish you had never open that door. Don't think for a minute he's not thinking about it because if you do the only person your fooling is yourself..........looks like your going to have a open marriage real soon.
2007-02-25 11:18:36 · answer #3 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not very baffling. For years, many women (though certainly not most) accepted a man's infidelity as a consequnce of his status or power. Studies show that as time goes on it is becoming much more acceptable for a woman to do things men used to, like date younger men and to have an afair.
2007-02-25 11:10:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I read on bbc that 1 in 7 guys are raising kids they don't know arn't theirs. Women are most likely to cheat during ovulation. Women who work on the road have an average of two afairs. Women who have just sent their last kid off to school often feel the calling of the adventure of another man.
maybe he knows there is nothing he can do about it except embrace it.
2007-02-25 11:17:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you wild in college? maybe he just figures it's the way you are and not going to argue it.
As for it being safe- NOTHING is safe anymore!
You are MARRIED. that's a commitment to your husband.
YOU ARE SO WRONG SO CHEATING ON HIM.
Don't be a high school girl moron. Don't do things just because everyone else is doing it.
If I was your husband I'd drop your cheating slutty *** so fast!
2007-02-25 11:13:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where do you work ? I want a job there. The next time you go Chicago you should get on the Jerry Springer show.Who is better in bed your hubby or one of the other guys or girls ???
2007-02-25 11:18:42 · answer #7 · answered by irish dude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably figures whats good for the goose is good for the gander and he probably has something lined up because no guy would say its ok for their wivese to cheat..
2007-02-25 11:14:27 · answer #8 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats for giving him the go ahead on his girlfriend you are so now what a woman
2007-02-25 11:13:24 · answer #9 · answered by workin_man66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is on the phone with the other guys wife right now.
2007-02-25 12:04:01 · answer #10 · answered by Li 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋