I've loved this guy for over a year, but never went out with him, all my friends said we should but we never did. and now recently hes come out to me thats he's gay,and the only other person he's told is his best mate. It's broken my heart but i know i should be strong for him because coming out to everyone else is gunna be hard for him. What i'm worried about is if i'll ever love another guy, cause i still love him, even though hes gay. And he even told me that he used to love me! Will i ever move on???
2007-02-25 03:01:08 · 22 answers · asked by suz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes you will. You are right to stick by him at this time, he will need all the support he can get. You can still love him, just as a friend. Don't let a strong friendship go because of your "crush" (iI don't mean that to be insulting).
I wish you all the best.
2007-02-25 03:08:09 · answer #1 · answered by lululaluau 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Its weird how this life takes these weird turns isnt it? Well honestly, I would let him do what makes him happy. I know you still like him, but ask yourself this.... would you really want to invest your feelings in someone thats not going to be able to give them back to you at the same level? You may be happy at first, but odds are you may become dissatisified. And you commented on not being able to love another guy again.... well thats cool and all... but what about the perfect guy that had been waiting for you comes around? I can almost bet you change your mind :-) Develop a good attitude, and accept the change, and adapt, and keep moving foward!
2007-02-25 03:11:15 · answer #2 · answered by Royce 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes you will and you probably liked him in the first place because he was gay and he treated you without the usual sexual tension men put on their relationhips with women. If you love him then love him even if he is gay and be happy to spend time with him but let him know how you feel just so he knows and to compliment him... not to put pressure on him. While being this guys friend keep your eye open and meet other guys. Besides, maybe this guy isn't totally gay and just confused. Perhaps he's just experimenting or actually "Bi".
2007-02-25 03:10:48 · answer #3 · answered by Don Quesadia 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is gay, then he is NOT the love of your life.
The love of your life is someone who loves you and wants you the same way you do him. The love of your life is ready to jump into a relationship with the same emotional depth you crave. The love of your life is sexually attracted to YOU.
And when you are ready, the love of your life is willing and able to make a life together with you.
Don't worry about being strong for your friend. He can get support from others who understand his situation better.
Focus on yourself and stop pining after something that didn't exist.
2007-02-25 03:08:43 · answer #4 · answered by Answer Lady 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Coming out can be a big deal ... it shouldn't be, but it often is. Remember he shared this important news with you, his friend ;-) My present partner and I were both in our 40s before we came out (in my case before we met and in his, after we met). He had a woman friend who had been waiting for him to make a move for 25 years, even though he had told her on several occasions over the years that there was never going to be more than friendship between them. Please don't be like my boyfriend's friend. You deserve a life too. A hopeful woman can feel like a burden of responsibility sometimes. As it happens, she is delighted that he has found me (almost as delighted as I am!), and we all get on fine, but it could have turned out differently. Take care.
2007-02-25 04:07:26 · answer #5 · answered by marshlander 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give it time, go out, meet new people, have a bit of fun, just chill you will move on, yeah it'll take time but its time u deserve you've just found out the love of your life is gay. Your allowed to feel down, but don't let it rule your life you'll regret it plus u neva know how things will go, but you will get over him. Let yourslef have feelings for someone else and it'll be easier to move on.
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2007-02-25 03:09:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, if you need to. This doesn't mean that you have to stop loving him though.
He may also be able to help you find someone that you can love and have a relationship with.
Help support him and be there for him and I'm sure you'll recieve love and support back.... maybe he's just like your best girlfriend now though so try to see it like that.
2007-02-25 03:11:40 · answer #7 · answered by harry_the_monk 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
of course you will that would be silly if you didn't i think that you should just move on to being friends, and hang out with him a lot. i've always wanted a gay friend so your luck : P but don't worry i'm sure you'll find someone soon. good luck
2007-02-25 03:08:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Aw. I'm sure you'll eventually move on, although it's very hard sometimes. Go out and do stuff with other people to try to get your mind off of it a little.
2007-02-25 03:05:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
my dear im sorry to hear that the love of your life is gay. Yes you can move on with your it wont be easy but you can do
2007-02-25 03:10:27 · answer #10 · answered by ggiro861 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋