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I have my very 1st girlfriend now. I barely asked her out yesterday and she accepted. I am happy. But when can i start holding her hand? do i just touch her hand to let her know that I want to hold hands with her? When do I start kissing her and so forth?

2007-02-25 02:48:42 · 10 answers · asked by Mr Guy 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

10 answers

Detective MS -

Congratulations! She will either be the first of many, or the start of a really, really long friendship. Because that's what a girlfriend is. A really great friend who you can talk to about anything. And kiss and hold hands with.

Hand holding - that's pretty straight-forward. Hold out your hand to her when you're walking together somewhere. If she takes it, cool. If not, wait awhile. You can even try the brush your hand against hers while walking trick... then gauge how she responds, if she pulls it away like she thinks it was accidental, then it's not time. If she starts to turn her hand to grab yours, grab hers. You can also hold her hand when you're sitting across from her having a meal. It's a nice simple time to just look at her, hold her hand. Very low commitment, very little chance for embarassment or hurt feelings if she's not ready yet.

Kissing - that's a little more complicated. You need to watch carefully for signs, because she really needs to tell you she's ready before you make a move. But, she also wants you to be the one to make the move. Some people discuss it before hand. I did with the girl who's now my wife as well as several other girlfriends. Other girls I dated, it was just obvious that the time was right and I made my move. Once I completely misread the signs. It was maddenly embarassing at the the time, but I lived. We were later able to laugh about it.

A girlfriend is a wonderful, maddening creature, able to make you incredibly happy and bewildered and confused all at the same time. Just remember that she shouldn't be the source of your happiness, even though she makes you happy, your happiness should be found within yourself first.

Be prepared to do a lot of listening. Girls often want to talk without hearing an answer. Us guys are all about "What's the problem? Fine, here's how to solve." And girls are not like that. And it's easy to forget that. I even forget all the time even after 7 years of marriage.

And lastly, like everything else in life, learn from your experiences. You will make mistakes, you will do things right. If things don't go well and you end up breaking up, try to remember what went right to apply to the next relationship and to avoid things you might have done wrong in the relationship.

Best of luck! Congrats and have a great time!

2007-02-25 03:00:18 · answer #1 · answered by tvjames 3 · 0 0

Hold her hand when you feel it is comfortable, don't kiss her straight away wait until you are leaving her home and then kiss her on the cheek. Don't go to far too soon you may push her away it will come naturally as your relationship builds

2007-02-25 10:54:58 · answer #2 · answered by kittiebann 3 · 0 0

some girls kiss on 1st date, some don't. Just kiss her when you feel the time is right. You can always hold her hand

2007-02-25 10:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I would have to say....wait a little bit before you two start holding hands and kissing.If you rush too fast, she might think you're desperate!On a first date, I think you should kiss her one the CHEEK...not lips!And to the holding hands thing...I'd wait until the like third date!Good Luck!

2007-02-25 10:52:54 · answer #4 · answered by Andi 1 · 0 0

Remember this one word and it will save you years of problems. CONSENT. If you do not have her consent in the verbal form of "yes you may put your arm around me" anything you do can be construed as unwanted and therefore a potential reciepe for problems.
Ask, "mind if I hold your hand?'
"Mind if I kiss you?"
She'll be flattered that you asked and YOU will learn a valuable lesson for your future dating life:
NO CONSENT=RAPE. Simple, hard truth. Learn it now while you are young and you will never be one of those young men who are facing charges from a girl or parent that they don't understand.
ASK.
It's simple.
It's polite.
It's protecting you.

2007-02-25 10:56:18 · answer #5 · answered by SZQBX 1 · 0 0

hold your hand close to hers and lightly touch her hand if she moves her had by yours and closer then just move in slowly and the way to the kiss you may have to Waite a little but when you do just stare into her eyes and then go for it but remember slowly i hope that helps

2007-02-25 10:54:59 · answer #6 · answered by none 2 · 0 0

There is no right time. You just know when you look into eachother's eyes and instinctively know what to do.

2007-02-25 10:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by Noree 3 · 0 0

dont be to touchy with her to soon just let everything flow in to the relatoinship

2007-02-25 10:52:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Well, if ur asking this ur not ready. If u really like her, you wont think about it, i think it "just happens"... something are best left unplanned? gd luck tho! ;)

2007-02-25 10:51:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

like nike says, just do it.

2007-02-25 10:51:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

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