dad doesn't want me to move away to go to school, but is willing to buy my sister a $25,000 BMW because she asked for it. My older brother is still living in the house at 35 y/o and he doesn't mind that, but he has a problem with me wanting to be independent. can someone please help me understand what is going on.
2007-02-25 02:40:12 · 16 answers · asked by lil'bit 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Insecurity and to make himself feel that he is the Dad and things do not change.
Good for you, you must look into your own good, get a job, and be on your own, your family's issues, are exactly that...their issues.
I am not trying to be negative,,,but a lot of parents do that....
2007-03-05 02:21:38 · answer #1 · answered by Ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is over protective and he wants his family with him at all times. You are blessed to have him as a man that WANT his family and not out trying to raise someone else's kids. I know what you feel about your freedom. Tell him you want to start by living close by and go to school in town first and then after a year or two, move on to the place you want to go. Maybe by then he will be use to you living outside of the home.
2007-03-02 11:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea why your parents are so clingy. But I want to commend you on wanting to be independent. You go girl, life will be filled with wonderful things for you because you are truly a good person. Good Luck and remember that you are an adult and should stand up for your rights. Also remember that if you depend on your parents money they will always have the final say. Try getting a grant for college or a loan.
2007-02-25 03:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, parents want to keep the kids close because they are dependant on THEM for companionship and buying their love. It's totally inappropriate and I don't understand it either. But usually, it's the kids wanting to stay and the parents wanting them to leave! Why not break the mold and not take advantage of your Dad like your siblings? It would do you a world of good to be on your own. Even birds know when to push the babies out of the nest to fend for themselves. You father isn't doing your siblings any favors here; he's making them dependent on him and they like it! No responsibility! You sound level headed and eager to be in control of your own life...GO FOR IT!!!! Godloveya!
2007-02-25 04:01:11 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 22:17:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just bad parenting and parents who are out of touch with reality. Rather than passing on the same skills that made them able to buy a house and BMW etc., they simply want to GIVE it to you and your brothers and sisters. It's almost sick. Congratulations on your independence, and I will continue my mission to tell young people to MOVE OUT.
2007-02-25 03:05:52 · answer #6 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your older brother has found himself a good deal. His food is being prepared for him, his laundry is being done, and I'll bet his room is being cleaned without his lifting a finger. What a wuss. He needs to grow up and move out on his own. Your parents are not doing him any favors.
They aren't helping your sister either.
You need to get out and get on with life. You'll be much better off learning how to take care of yourself.
Your parents aren't going to be here one day. How is your brother going to make it unless he starts learning now?
2007-02-25 02:45:57 · answer #7 · answered by Blue 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like your parents are afraid of the empty nest syndrome. They need some hobbies to keep them busy. Don't stay at home go out and enjoy the world. Good Luck!!!!
2007-02-25 03:41:21 · answer #8 · answered by smiley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Figure out what you want,think about what you want to do ,how you are going to get there and go for it;eventually they will respect you for your choice.Don't expect them come around overnight.Remember they only want the best for you,and keep in touch with them.
2007-03-05 01:30:22 · answer #9 · answered by aaliyah76059 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are not ready to let go and accept that their baby has grown up maybe hes affraid of the bumpy road you are going to encounter out there and it will be bumpy or that you wont need him any more
2007-03-05 02:20:07 · answer #10 · answered by eve p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋