one day after being tog for a yr he sends me a text message on my handphone that was meant for another girl..saying that he loved her. i was crushed and to cut the long story short, whe admitted he had feelings for another girl, and also for me - he was confused. I was angry with this girl coz she had no integrity- she had a bf too and her bf had cheated on her, and she had feelings for my bf. so for a month or so (they are colleagues) they had harvested feelings for one another without me knowing..and many times i suspected something was wrong (he was colder to me) and yet he never talked about him being unhappy with me. The problem is,i loved him very much and i thought all his unhappiness were just misunderstandings and swayed becos of his feelings for that girl,so i fought for us and in the end he decided to be with me.We've been better after but now i still find it hard to trust him at times and sometimes i dontknow if he will do it again. Is once cheater, always a cheater true?
2007-02-25 02:29:38 · 9 answers · asked by rainbowcello 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He told me it was a mistake coz he was confused and unhappy with me at that time. But men being men don't talk about it and i had no clue he was unhappy i just thought he was stressed at work. I still feel so angry with the b***** who had feelings for him. Aren't there any boundaries anymore?? Don't people have a conscience? Anyway all is well now but i get times when i feel mistrusting..he says he'll make it up to me and he wants my forgiveness..etcetc..
2007-02-25 12:28:33 · update #1
easiest way to see if a guy really cares is to catch him off gurad and ask him without being too rude" if your wasting your time with him"?
If he gets mad, hes a player and your better off with a real man.
If hes a true gentleman and really cares, itll bring you closer.
2007-02-25 02:35:28 · answer #1 · answered by Cody 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They do say once a cheater, always a cheater, but their are some exceptions. Some people do change, I think by now you know some of the signs that you have to look for. Their comes a time that you have to let go, because you cant go around, not trusting, when it comes to that, then it is time for you to move on. so talk to your boyfriend, and see where his head is at. and ask him if you are wasting your time on him, and that in future, if he will be honest with you. Now you need to work on yourself, and have some fun! That is what life is all about
2007-02-25 10:38:49 · answer #2 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa. Get out, get away and get yourself into a healthy relationship. You take second place? You are not worthy of someone who can be loyal? Oh honey, kick him to the curb and put some of that fine emotional sensibility of yours into a relationship that's about loyalty, love, understanding and caring. Someone who cheats on you is none of those things. After 18 years of marriage I walked away from a husband who did pretty much the same thing on a bigger scale. Kick his sorry butt to the curb and do whatever it takes to CONVINCE yourself that YOU deserve a happy, healthy relationship. I don't know about once a cheater always a cheater but for me it's "once a cheater..you ain't gettin a second chance to steamroll me you sorry ss cheatin' somo *****."
2007-02-25 10:40:13 · answer #3 · answered by SZQBX 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a hard thing to get back trust. But if he came back to you that's a good thing. I don't know if once a cheater, always a cheater is true because people can change. I want to believe that anyway. Give your love and support to you man and don't give him a reason that he wants to cheat.
2007-02-25 10:42:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don;t mean to scare you, but I had enough of these experiences, and even tought I wanted to give a second opportunity, now I know I should have not given it.
I don;t want to generalize the situation, but in my experience a cheater is always a cheater...if you can't be one, why can't he?
Just be careful and if you are a beliver pray God for guidance
2007-02-25 10:34:17 · answer #5 · answered by Isabelle06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe 100% that he's telling the truth and wants you and only you, then you will be able to trust him again!
If you dont really believe him well its gonna cause problmes for you. He'll know you dont trust him and he'll probably resent it!!!
If he's the one you want well then build a bridge and get on with your life together...............OR you could hold a grudge, split up and not be tottally happy cos the one you want is the one your holding a grudge against!!!!!!!!
I think that everyone deserves a second chance.......
2007-02-25 10:44:41 · answer #6 · answered by xxxSxxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a cheater u r dealing with. LEAVE HIM!!!Find someone else.This relationship is not going to work out!!
2007-02-25 10:39:34 · answer #7 · answered by Laney 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Tribe has spoken! GTFO!
2007-02-25 10:54:48 · answer #8 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
avoid
2007-02-25 10:33:21 · answer #9 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋