Is this normal?

Question

My 7 year old daughter has a friend that comes over to our house alot.Whenever I see her,she is covered in bruises.She gets written up all the time,and is always asking for a bandaid.I want to help my daughters friend,but I don't know what to do.

Answer 1

I would definitely talk to the girl, casually bring it up and see how she answers it. If she seems casual about it, she probably just bruises easily, if she seems like she's thinking of a story there could be a problem. I'd ask her more than once and see if the story changes. Even if she is being hit hard enough to leave bruises I would be weary of calling the authorities, it would have to be bad enough for them to take her away for it to make a difference. I worked at a youth center and we had a similar case except there were welts on the girl's body, so we called child services, they went out and basically told the parents they were allowed to spank their child. They gave them a book on parenting and that was it. Just make sure whatever you do it doesn't make the situation worse for the child. It's really a hard situation to be in, I applaud you for taking an interest and good luck.

Answer 2

It is good of you to be concerned! I was a child that was similar and I wish someone noticed! Try talking to the girl yourself. When she comes over try doing things with the girls where you are involved. Than you will start to know her better, maybe you can find out how she got the bruises. ( just don't let it be obvious) Ask your daughter to tell you some things about her. Does she miss school a lot? Does she always leave school late or early? Is she a clean child?I study am in school to become a social worker and these are signs of abuse. Do you know the parents? You should REALLY look into it. Even if you find out there is nothing there, it is better to know, than find out you could have done something about her being abused a long time ago. ( if that is what is happening) I really wish you the best of luck!

Answer 3

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Answer 4

It sounds like she might be crying out for help if she's being written up all the time and asking for a bandaid all the time. Ask her where and how she got the bruises. She might tell you the truth if she trusts you. If she tells you that it's nothing, but her story doesn't add up, or if she seems to be nervous about it, then it's time to notify someone. If you suspect the parents, then perhaps try the girl's teacher or call the police. If you don't think it's the parents, try talking to them.

Answer 5

All 3 of my sons are covered in bruises from head to toe. Its because they are rough around each other. My middle son is accident prone and always running into things and falling, etc...Maybe that is what the problem is with your daughters friend. Just because she has bruises, doesnt necessarily mean anything bad. Dont jump to conclusions just yet.

Answer 6

my daughter is 5 and if she bumps into anything she will get a bruise. i used to worry about it. everytime i put shorts on her i was scared of what people thought. if something was going on, like if you thought someone might be hurting her. try talking to her before you get dcfs involved. we were falsely accused and now the one who did it is facing jail time cause she knew she was lying about it. you don't really want to put anyone through what we went through unless you are absolutly sure that she needs help. it is a touchy subject. do what you feel is best. see if you can get some info from the girl and then decide. abused children usually will tell you without actually telling you.

Answer 7

The girl could be beaten! Find out more from your daughter's friend, to make sure what happens. Tell her it is okay to tell you stuff, because you are doing it to help. Maybe, if that doesn't work, you should take her to a therapist. Also, you know what to do if she was beaten, right? Like I said before, we all care, and I am happy we do too.

Answer 8

You need to pay attention to where the bruses or. If she they are on her back, the back of her legs, her bottom on her face, then it is possible that she is being beaten, but if you are mostly seeing them on the front of her legs and arms occationaly she is probably just being a normal clumsy kid. Most kids are clumsy and have bruses, my son has them from head to toe and I promose they did not get there by me or my husband. He is the same age as this child. If you do suspect child abuse the only thing you can do is called child protective service.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

You need to inform the authorities. This child is obviously being abused at home and it needs to stop. If you're not sure where to call, ask information about child welfare services in your area. Ask if you can do this without having to give your name. Give the little girl's address and name. I'm sure someone will go to her house to investigate and she will probably be examined by a doctor. Please, help this little girl.